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Another Way Schools Are Failing Our Kids
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Well, If you walk through a town called rapeville drinking a roofie cocktail you mixed yourself dont be surprised with what happens.
but they're listening to every word I say
It is clearly not the victims fault ultimately. But still one does themselves no favors by tempting fate.
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I trid to express this earlier and failed.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
Any what about the withdrawn nerdy kid who randomly gets his head shoved into a locker door without any prior provocation or interaction?
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Define "tempting fate".
Ive never seen things like that just randomly happen, though it probably does at times, but if it had happened to me I would come back swinging.
You gotta make those fuckers pay man. Clearly administration isnt going to in most schools. If someone does not fight back it is not their fault they are getting bullied, but they sure aren't helping themselves.
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Doing somthing that you know will probably have a bad outcome but still hoping it will have a good outcome.
but they're listening to every word I say
Good luck passing that through. I agree with you, but I sense a majority mentality towards the victim is one lacking in assignment of responsibility. I look at it closer to this: Billy has been picked on for 4 years. If Billy hasn't figured out, after 4 years, how to avoid/prevent/stop the bullying, then Billy is in for a very long, nightmarish existence.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
Indeed. Someone takes a swing at me due to no fault of my own, they're pretty much guaranteed to be paid back with interest. I do understand though, that some people would be reluctant to fight back, as the bullies tend to pick on those with less impressive physique than their own. Bullies are often total pussies, so it doesn't take a lot to discourage them.
Nova, what you said was pretty interesting, mainly because it is such a different way at seeing the situation from my own view. What did you mean that you just couldn't fight back? (I realise you said that you can't explain it, but could you try? I'm interested in the mindset, as it's pretty much my polar opposite)
You mean like....
Pissing off a bully that was pining away for a reason to hit you that would make them look socially superior when they did?
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
Perhaps just referring to the very basic generalization of passive versus agressive. A persons social interactions will be influenced by the degree, of either polar, their personality leans towards.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
Maybe. There is only so much verbal abuse one will take though.
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WHOA WHOA WHOA! Brakes! Time out! No one said that.
Of course, even if there was a place called murderville where the victims were walking around with a kill me sign on their back, you would still want to stop the murderers.
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female peer abuse. How do you (wawkin, Jebus, I'm especially interested in you two) feel about that?
How long will a person allow themselves to be victimized?
If I knew Billy and had a personal stake in his survival, my perspective would change. I would be even less sympathetic and more adamant about taking a stand. And more than willing to invlove my own person.
However, I do not kow Billy. I have no stake in his survival and he has clearly decided not to take matters into his own hands. If you won't stand up for yourself, how can you expect others to stand up for you?
In a word? Yea.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
I chuckled to myself. Mostly because I saw it coming.
I dunno. In the moments that I would be being attacked, fighting back would not enter my mind. It would after, of course, but during the attack, my mind would blank. I've always been like that.
I feel hungry.
Actually I dont really know how a girl would deal with that optimally.
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And when you consider the very qualities that lead to you being picked on, it seems to me that the majority of victims lack the ability to fight back.
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Kids need to be taught much earlier on that there's this rather annoying tagalong that comes along with power. But it's there, and if you don't acknowledge it you're in the wrong.
I should have.
The ultimate cause is the bully doing to bullying. The person not fighting back is only the proximate cause. So no, not fuck him. But if they have a way to try to stop it and no one is stopping the ultimate cause then they should try to stop it.
If they don't it is still not their fault.
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I feel female peer abuse boils down to letting others judgements of your self affet your own selfesteem/self worth. I can definitely see that being a much more difficult battle to fight. The usual responses are try to emulte the people who deface them or embrace the label of outcast. Both I'd consider unhealthy. I think ignoring female peer abuse is the better alternative - especially if there is no threat of violence.
These days, without a serious threat to my livelihood, I don't even pay attention to potential bullies.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
No that is not what I said at all. Read my post before this one.
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Retaliation: Someone has been spreading lies about you? Get some dirt on them as well.
Don't let words hurt you: Or rather, don't show that they hurt you.
Humor: People say ridiculous things about you? Come up with even more ridiculous things about you.
Naturally the problem remains that nothing is fool-proof. Some people will always be little bitches who are only out to hurt you in whatever way they can.
I don't know. You can only hum the tune of the victim for so long. A main goal of growing up is learning how to deal with social interactions, isn't it? What happens when he's an adult and he's never fought his own battle? If it's not his fault for being condemned as a victim for the rest of his life, then whose fault is it?
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
Maybe.... iunno.... the victimizers
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Right-o...
I do, quite vividly. My younger days were quite harsh.
Different experiences lead to different perspectives.
"This is where I say something profound and you bow, so lets just skip to your part."
That's pretty similar to what I experience, until I get hit and all shit gets loose. You'd just blank out for the whole "fight"?
Actually, now that I think of it, I suppose I'd experience the same if I got hit by a girl. I just don't know how I'd respond in that situation. Most likely just stand there thinking : "She just hit me! What the hell?". I suppose your inability to fight in these situations is similar to what I experience when being against a girl. Shit, I can't even spar properly against them.
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On a more serious note, my high school was fucking weird. I was practically the skinniest and nerdiest mother fucker there and somehow I only got punched once, and it was in retaliation because I hit this kid in the face with a basketball. He popped me one so we would both have matching bottom lips, we both said "Sorry dude" and moved on. High school is dumb.
your school actally doesnt sound that bad.
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t Nova_C: some sort of martial art of self-defence course should probably do you good. :?