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My worst thread yet
DirtyDirtyVagrant
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I've been here for a while. Said some things. Had a few problems. But now I have an all new one.
I met a girl online about two years ago. On World of Warcraft. Some of you may remember a previous post of mine and be like "wait a minute..." and to those people I say this: The physical attraction is there. I can't help it. It's what I am. And as it happens, if I were female I'd probably be a lesbian. But anyway.
I met this girl and shortly afterward she divorced her husband. For reasons unrelated to me, I was told. We were pretty good friends for a while, just talking about TV, movies, other games, books, and junk like that. And then I sent her a little flower arrangement for her birthday. Nothing really fancy. Just enough to let her know that I remembered.
She went nuts. The talk now is that she's coming down here for her vacation. I have no idea what I want, and I have no idea what she wants. She has a child with her former husband (#2 of 2), and the talk has shifted from friendly banter to "sex sex sex relationships relationships together forever I love you" type things.
Which I was fine with, until it started to get really weird. Incessant. Like she will text me 8-10 times per day about "I wish I was with you" and crap like that.
I don't want this kind of relationship. At all. In fact, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than end up with someone who's in my face like this all the time. And I'm not even sure how to ask advice, because I dont know what my next move could or should be at all. This girl sent me a 14 page letter that might as well have said "I wanna be with you so bad I wanna be with you so bad I wanna be with you so bad..." for the duration.
Should I just fall off the face of the earth? To be fair, I did push myself into this mess by being...agreeable.
I met a girl online about two years ago. On World of Warcraft. Some of you may remember a previous post of mine and be like "wait a minute..." and to those people I say this: The physical attraction is there. I can't help it. It's what I am. And as it happens, if I were female I'd probably be a lesbian. But anyway.
I met this girl and shortly afterward she divorced her husband. For reasons unrelated to me, I was told. We were pretty good friends for a while, just talking about TV, movies, other games, books, and junk like that. And then I sent her a little flower arrangement for her birthday. Nothing really fancy. Just enough to let her know that I remembered.
She went nuts. The talk now is that she's coming down here for her vacation. I have no idea what I want, and I have no idea what she wants. She has a child with her former husband (#2 of 2), and the talk has shifted from friendly banter to "sex sex sex relationships relationships together forever I love you" type things.
Which I was fine with, until it started to get really weird. Incessant. Like she will text me 8-10 times per day about "I wish I was with you" and crap like that.
I don't want this kind of relationship. At all. In fact, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than end up with someone who's in my face like this all the time. And I'm not even sure how to ask advice, because I dont know what my next move could or should be at all. This girl sent me a 14 page letter that might as well have said "I wanna be with you so bad I wanna be with you so bad I wanna be with you so bad..." for the duration.
Should I just fall off the face of the earth? To be fair, I did push myself into this mess by being...agreeable.
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I hate to say it but falling off the face of the earth might be a good thing. A long long time ago, in the age of 14.4 modems, a guy I knew on my MUD ended up in a very similar situation with another MUDer. This girl was in a different situation (no ex husbands, no kids etc) but her behavior towards this guy was identical.
He "vanished" from the MUD (actually made a new character and was extremely secretive about who he was) and after a few months of pining for the "vanished" player, the girl ended up fixating on a guy who returned her affections. It didn't take her long to shack up with the new guy, either.
After all that went down I was talking to the guy and he revealed to me who his old character was, and explained why he had disappeared. Worked for him, might not work for you, but you did throw it out there and I'm here to say it's not a completely bad idea.
Talking to her, and telling her you don't want this type of relationship, would be the best way to get her to ease off.
Personally, I think getting the cold shoulder treatment without being given sufficient reason why is bullshit. I hate it. I won't condemn you for doing it because, well, I don't know your situation, I'm not involved in it, and you probably don't give a damn what I think anyway, but I've been on the receiving end of the "dropped off the face of the earth" treatment a couple of times with absolutely no communication that this was going to happen beforehand and I feel it is SO much worse than just being told "look, I don't like you, fuck off" which I've also gotten once or twice.
I've also done both. And while it may be painful to tell someone that likes you that you don't like them back, I think you'll feel better about it down the line. I've "fallen off the face of the earth" toward a few people and I really regret it in some cases, like I feel like I wasn't fair.
Sorry, this post was more about me than you and your psychology may not at all match mine so take my statements for what they are. All I know is this: I severely dislike when people I connected with just drop off the face of the earth and I also really regret the times I've done this to people without giving them any kind of reason. *shrug*
Can you beat her in PvP?
I can beat anyone in PvP. I'm a frost mage. But that's a little beside the point.
I guess it couldn't hurt to try to communicate with her. But the real meat of the problem is that I really liked her until she started getting creepy. Like I was pretty excited and a few days worth of texts and stuff passed and then it was...I hate to say boring, but it was fucking boring. "Okay, yeah, I get it already."
I suppose that's a terrible way to react. No. There's really no two ways about it. But it's the best way to explain what happened. I liked her. She came on too strong, and I just lost it.
And Dr. Manhattan.
Just remember - when someone acts outside the realms of normality, do not consider it your fault for not foreseeing the possibility; crazy actions by other people are not predictable.
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
Yeah, I think you're better off attempting to make the great escape.
Going to echo what everyone already said. Tell her you're not interested into something so serious as she is. You could be a dick and tell her that she also comes with way to much baggage for you to handle at the moment.
character name change is easily had these days..
but seriously dude, if you already know you're not into this shit then stop it before it gets worse.
[edit] and also screenshots or it didn't happen
Back when I played if someone on your friend's list changes their name, they're still on your list under the new name, so I doubt that's viable.
If that is an option, you'd have to go with changing your name and "I dont know who you are, this account was sold to me recently".
Neither of which I suggest btw, just thought i'd throw in my 2 cents on that.
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Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.