Obligatory Girl Thread #69

Penguin_Otaku

I know I've made a lot of threads lately and I'm sorry, but I do want to thank everyone for the advice thats been given. Its helped a lot.

So we've been going out for a while now. For whatever reason, we talked for about 5 months and only saw eachother for about 20 minutes over that whole span, and we only live about 20 minutes away from eachother.

We finally went on a date and since then its been awesome. We've been finding time for each other on the weekends and whenever else we might be able to.

So thats all great and grand, but after being without actually seeing her, holding her and kissing her for those long months... I don't really like not being able to do it. I want to see her all the time, and her the same. Our schedules are just busy at the moment and I don't want to push this on her more than I may already have.

Basically, I'm asking... is it ok for me to want to see her so much? (We're both 18, she just graduated high school, I'm going to a Soph in college next semester) If it isn't ok, or just in general, how do I deal with this... desire to see her? I don't feel its unhealthy, "OMFG I WANT YOU HERE 24/7," I just like spending time with her is all.

Thanks guys.

RocketSauce

You're asking if it's normal to want to see your girlfriend?

Yeah.

Oz K. Fodrotski

To violently answer the other question you put forth (as the good Mr. Sauce violently answered earlier):

Penguin_Otaku wrote: »

how do I deal with this... desire to see her?

See her.

Frag Monger

A srong desire for your girl is normal & pefectly acceptable.

However, don't let your feelings start to get in the way of everyday life.

The start of any relationship can have a point where you're so into each other that it seems nothing else in the world matters. Honestly - it doesn't - but you still have rent, bills, etc. so don't let things slip too much.

That age is tough too - so much going on.

Good luck.

CooterTKE

my wife and I still dont like being away from each other so I would say it is pretty normal to want to be with your girlfriend.

Penguin_Otaku

Frag Monger wrote: »

However, don't let your feelings start to get in the way of everyday life.

This is what I was looking for in terms of explaining what the problem was. I want us to both have our lives, but still have the awesome feeling of seeing eachother and everything. I just don't want to get in her way of anything.

Sarcastro

Go with the flow, m'man. Pay attention to what needs to be done, and make sure you keep up with it. Love in its weird little way is kind of an addiction, and like any addiction, it can take over parts of your life you don't want it to. Pretty much the healthiest vice you can have though (physically anyway) so I wouldn't worry about it.

The fact that you're concerned indicates you're keeping enough objectivity to prolly be okay. Take it from someone who's gone over that edge a handful of times- you can't spend your whole life in bed. As long as you have a life outside of snuggling up, it is totally cool to have and experience that life together with your girl of choice.

RedDawn

See her, but if she is too busy with other things make sure you don't take it hard. Like everyone else has said it is natural to want to see her. She may be busy with things from time to time and not be able to see you, if this happens don't panic about things, just take it in stride and stay busy yourself.

Frag Monger

Penguin_Otaku wrote: »

Frag Monger wrote: »

However, don't let your feelings start to get in the way of everyday life.

This is what I was looking for in terms of explaining what the problem was. I want us to both have our lives, but still have the awesome feeling of seeing eachother and everything. I just don't want to get in her way of anything.

It can be tough - especially at first.

When my wife & I first got married, she had a hard time finding herself. What I mean is, she seemed to almost forget how to have a life of her own. It was all we/us/together/etc. It took her some time to 'find herself' again.

If you're secure in your feelings for each other then it'll get easier. My wife & I each lead our own lives & have our own friends, etc., but we also spend a lot of time doing things together.

Balance is the key. It's good that you miss her when you're not together - you should. However, try not to let that preoccupy your mind while your doing other things/out with friends/etc. That way, when you are together with her - you'll appreciate it even more.

urahonky

Push through it, good sir. It's rough now (I was in a long distance relationship for a while) but when you make it through it's completely worth it. It's normal to want to see her, but as long as you get to talk to her that should be enough to help you get through these times.

Is she going to be going to your college? (I thought I remembered you making a thread about her not being able to go, or possibly not being able to go) If so, that'll make it easier. If not, just continue the weekend thing, or see each other later at night or something.

Spend the night or something, and wake up early in the morning and do your normal morning routine. I've done that before, and it helps (only if you're comfortable doing that... I don't mean sleeping in the same bed if it's not that far yet).

Guffrey

My (now fiancee, soon to be wife) signifigant other and I also spent the first four months of our relationship over 1,000 miles apart. Now, I know your distance isnt quite that much, but some of this should help. Granted, there really isnt any substitute that I know of for helping with the lack of physical contact. But webcams plus a microphone or phone can do a lot to bridge the visual gap.