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How much $ is too much for a graduation gift?
tastydonuts
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Before I start off my post, I'd like to say that it's not the money that I'm worried about, but the message that it sends. A longtime friend graduated from college. Couldn't do anything with them/be around for that day though because I had some other stuff to do. It's one of those odd friendships, but being the delusional, self-centered person that I am "everybody is into me" in some way. Long story short I'm just now getting around to getting a card for her.
I'd have asked her what she'd have wanted, but I think that could be misinterpreted, because I rarely talk to her. Etiquette states that you only have to give 20 bucks for graduations. But I pretty much blow through 20 bucks a day between breakfast, lunch and coffee in between; so I'd feel like an ass giving somebody 20 bucks for their graduation given how little 20 bucks is worth. I was going to do a dice roll * 10 to see what I should give her but then I realized that dropping that much cash on her would probably be just as easily misinterpreted (it was $310). So I just figured I'd give her 100 dollars and call it a day.
But is that too much? Unfortunately I already mentioned that I'd get her a card soon so I can't just pretend that I forgot at this point. Thanks.
I'd have asked her what she'd have wanted, but I think that could be misinterpreted, because I rarely talk to her. Etiquette states that you only have to give 20 bucks for graduations. But I pretty much blow through 20 bucks a day between breakfast, lunch and coffee in between; so I'd feel like an ass giving somebody 20 bucks for their graduation given how little 20 bucks is worth. I was going to do a dice roll * 10 to see what I should give her but then I realized that dropping that much cash on her would probably be just as easily misinterpreted (it was $310). So I just figured I'd give her 100 dollars and call it a day.
But is that too much? Unfortunately I already mentioned that I'd get her a card soon so I can't just pretend that I forgot at this point. Thanks.
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Cash from relatives/family can be all over the fucking map. Case in point; grandparents who I see on a regular basis game me a respectable $40, while my uncle who I see once ever year sent me five hundred fucking dollars.
as a friend, I wouldn't go more than $50, unless she's so close a friend that she's nearly family, then I'd top out at $80 max
I gone that route before and it has worked out fine for me.
Parents gave me a nice watch
If not, she just got out of college? Give her money or a gift certificate. No more than $20.
I'm thinking that $50 may do this better. Maybe one of those visa cash cards? That way it doesn't feel like I just dropped some cash out?
Why don't you take her to a nice dinner or if you have to give her something - something she could now use as a result of graduating that she couldn't before - like related to her degree perhaps?