Help me do something really memorable [sort of a GIRL THREAD]

TSR

Hello H&A,

I'm taking a girl out to see some fireworks tomorrow night. The way things have gone with her, this is sort of a last-ditch effort to get her to really fall for me (due to some past events, but that's really not relevant to this thread). It is a date, but it's up to me to make it really really romantic.

Here's the setup - We're meeting down by the river at 9:30 to see the fireworks display. I'm bringing a blanket to sit on. That's really all I've planned so far. The fireworks start at around 10:00, and the weather will be pretty nice.

Something important - I haven't kissed her before, and I know I need to do this tomorrow to see if she's really going to go for me or not. The timing here is going to be crucial - I don't want to save it for the end of the night, as that's too predictable and awkward. After the show is over, I'll probably be walking her back to her apartment.

So I come to you, forum, with this question - if you were in my shoes, what would you do to really impress her? And what would you do in order to really make this night go off without a hitch? Any tips?

Thanks - this is really important to me.

Topia

I would not try to impress her, just do what you do. She obviously likes you already or she wouldn't be going out to sit alone (probably surrounded by hundreds of people :P) under the stars. Fireworks are pretty romantic to some girls dude, so if she is one of them girls, you've already won the battle.

Cauld

Topia wrote: »

I would not try to impress her, just do what you do. She obviously likes you already or she wouldn't be going out to sit alone (probably surrounded by hundreds of people :P) under the stars. Fireworks are pretty romantic to some girls dude, so if she is one of them girls, you've already won the battle.

I agree. Just be yourself, if she seems interested then you can try for a kiss or whatever. As for what to do on the date itself, why not bring a picnic basket with some snacks and beverages? Also, maybe something to rest your heads on while staring up? Don't do too much though, I think that's a little creepy unless you've already been in a relationship for a while.

Really trying to get anyone to 'fall' for you is a bad idea. Let nature take its course, either way. I find relationships where one person cares a lot more than the other almost never work out well.

EggyToast

Look, if you're banking the entire evening on whether she likes you or not, you should make a "move" towards the end, if not THE end. Otherwise, you might as well just call her up, tell her how you feel, and deal with it before you have to sit next to each other for a very awkward hour.

Have fun first. If during the event there is no time to be romantic, then don't force one in.

Susan Delgado

Yes to the picnic basket idea. If you're old enough, some nice wine or sangria and some simple snacks would be good. Oh, and bring a couple pillows if you're not already... sucks to lay back to enjoy the night sky and bonk your head on a rock or tree root.

TSR

The thing is that she does like me - I just want to get everything right.

EggyToast - I could make a "move" towards the end, yeah. I'm just confident that I don't want to make it at the very end, because then she'll be expecting it. Is this a reasonable thing to avoid?

Cauld - Yes, I'll be using my immense personal charm. I'll "be myself", definitely :P

Topia - I get the idea she's one of those girls that likes fireworks. Seems like a good setting, yeah?

Threelemmings

If she does like you, then don't worry and have fun! (as mentioned above) Having fun and enjoying yourself with someone is more romantic than anything you can plan beforehand. Also, if you don't want to wait until the end, just wait until it feels right and then go for it. I don't know if it's possible to just plan out this sort of thing with an itinerary and say "this is late enough but not too late." It would feel contrived and take your mind off the most important part, which is (again) enjoying the night.

LewieP's Mummy

Fireworks rock!
Bring a lovely picnic, just a small one, but put a bit of effort into it, maybe a lantern - prettier than a torch.
If you know she likes you already, don't stress it, just snuggle up to her, put your arm round her. if she's not that interested, you'll know it pdq, ditto if she is. chill, enjoy the fireworks, and her company.

Kate of Lokys

Bring sparklers. Before the fireworks actually start, burn through an entire pack with her, doing all the usual silly stuff like trying to write your name in lines of glowing fire. Wave them around to make the sparks fly, engage in ill-advised sparkler fencing matches, light fresh ones off each other's dying embers.

Grin like an idiot child the entire time, because sparklers are awesome and anyone who doesn't instantly feel like they're seven years old again without a care in the world as soon as they're handed a sparkler is someone who has no soul.

A warm blanket, something fruity (and maybe just a bit alcoholic - if there's a time and place for things like wine coolers or hard lemonade, this is it) to sip on, some light snacks to nibble, and a pack of sparklers, and you'll be all set.

ApexMirage

Gaze at her instead of the fireworks, and come up with a good line, but hold the cheese.

Feral

TSR wrote: »

I'm just confident that I don't want to make it at the very end, because then she'll be expecting it.

If she really likes you, then she'll be thinking about it from the moment you pick her up. Just make some conversation for a while, have a touch of food or something to drink or whatever, just take a little while (not too long) to break the ice a little bit because if she likes you then she might be as nervous about you as you are about her. Then kiss her at some moment when it feels right to you.

Grenn

Wait for an especially good run of firework bang bangs and then turn to her and say, "THAT WAS THE SIGNAL! THAT WAS THE SIGNAL FOR KISSY KISSY TIMES! BRACE YOURSELF!" and then go in for the kill.

Enjoy.

PS - I sometimes really miss being single, I used to love dating. I could tell some stories about pulling birds but I'd just sound like a dick. It's probably good I'm settled down with my missus...

zerg rush

TSR wrote: »

The thing is that she does like me - I just want to get everything right.

Kiss her at the start. She likes you and she's going out to fireworks with you. She wants you to kiss her, and if she doesn't, then you wouldn't want to try to romance her without her wanting it anyways. It'll set the tone to an amazing night.

Hello. Hug. Kiss on the mouth.



Remember, confidence is the most attractive quality a man can possess. Which course of action do you think shows more confidence?

Seldom

Champagne, anyone?

tardcore

Maybe bring some drinks and snacks with you guys. Maybe some sort of alcohol, possibly wine. Although that might seem like you're trying too hard. Bring some sparklers and some lighters for your own little fun.

When some really big fireworks are going off, hold her hand, but keep looking in the sky.

TSR

Aww, you guys are such romantics! This is a good thread.<3

I will go for sparklers, but no alcohol with me. We might stop for a drink at the beer garden (since it's kind of a downtown celebration). As for kissing her, I'll just do it when it feels right. It'll probably be at some moment during the fireworks display.

Thanks, everyone.

RonTheDM

Women, like dogs, can sense fear in your eyes. Don't put pressure on yourself to make the night something out of a movie. Just relax and try to have a good time - that shit is contagious. You'll be fine, sir.

You'll be fine.

mooshoepork

RonaldoTheGypsy wrote: »

Women, like dogs, can sense fear in your eyes. Don't put pressure on yourself to make the night something out of a movie. Just relax and try to have a good time - that shit is contagious. You'll be fine, sir.

You'll be fine.

When I read the first 3 words of this, I was worried, but this is actually really true advice.

Let whatever happens happens. Don't think too hard about it.

hellobuddy

Alcohol. Seriously. You dont need much, just a couple of glasses of champagne or wine each to help you relax. I dont trust people who are confident enough to have a first kiss without atleast a small amount of alcohol. Also champagne is romantic, or so they say.

Also remember, that you cant always plan for romantic things to happen as they tend to pop out when you least expect them but its always good to be prepared. Candles, an umbrella in the case of rain, and a couple of bottles of wine just incase. Its better to have too much wine than none at all if the mood is right.

wunderbar

Grenn wrote: »

Wait for an especially good run of firework bang bangs and then turn to her and say, "THAT WAS THE SIGNAL! THAT WAS THE SIGNAL FOR KISSY KISSY TIMES! BRACE YOURSELF!" and then go in for the kill.

Enjoy.

PS - I sometimes really miss being single, I used to love dating. I could tell some stories about pulling birds but I'd just sound like a dick. It's probably good I'm settled down with my missus...

thanks, you just made me spit water all over my keyboard. Thanks a lot fucker

Sadly, I don't know whether this is actually good advice or not.

Lewisham

Seldom wrote: »

Champagne, anyone?

and strawberries and/or chocolate.

Job done.

TSR

This Thread - The After-ing!

Hey H&A, here's an overview of my evening. I'm writing this so that anyone who entered the thread with curiosity will have some idea of how this sort of thing can go, and also to satisfy those who contributed. Without further ado -

I showed up early to get a good spot and put my blanket down. She called and said that she would be there at 9:30, but that turned into 10:00, right when the fireworks were set to start. She had a little trouble finding the spot (a place on a grassy hill) but gave me a big hug when she finally found it. We made small talk while the display went off over the river. The place we were at didn't have the best view, but was rather secluded, which I thought important with as many people around as there were. We sat fairly close, but the mood wasn't extraordinarily romantic. When it finally came time for the "grand finale", she made jokes about how the fireworks sucked. They really did, and we laughed about it.

Everyone was leaving and she asked what I was doing the rest of the night. I said "nothing" and asked if she'd like to stay a while. She said yes, and I said "Okay, then lie down." I lay down on the blanket and put my right arm out behind her. She lay down and rested her head on my outstretched arm. When she got there and settled in, she cracked a smile and looked over at me. We looked into each other's eyes and I moved my left arm across her body and played with her hair. After a brief moment, I moved closer and kissed her and she kissed me back. We talked a little and I eventually walked her home.

I'm not sure exactly how things are going to go from here, but we've got a great foundation.

Thanks everyone! Best 4th of July ever

tardcore

Great to hear! Or, read, I guess. I always like happy endings.

Project Mayhem

Congratulations! You never really hear about the happy endings around here, thanks for the update.

LewieP's Mummy

Woooooooooooooooooo!!!!