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Any Ideas? (About a Girl)
Sueve
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So I met this girl.
She is model-pretty, and I like her personality. Problem #1: I'm 18 and leaving for college in 2 months, and she is 16 and going back to highschool in 2 months.
I flirt with her, get her number, we go out to lunch a couple times.
I kinda stupidly say sex is not that important, which although is true (i just have never had full intercourse), and she seems pretty content with this answer.
Anyways, we decide a relationship won't work, but being humans, and thus irrational, we start one anyways. We hang out every couple of days.
Problem #2: She likes hanging out alot with me and calls me up alot. I don't mind hanging out, but I want to hook up with her more. I wouldn't mind having sex with her, although I know she also has stuck to 3rd base in the past.
So, at the moment I'm staying faithful to her because frankly, I told her that we would only hook up with each other. Now I've been going to alot of parties, and there are lots of girls i've been meaning to get with for a while that are now interested. I think it might be easier if I just spent less time with this girl, since the relationship really can't go that far, and I would be able to hook up with alot more girls. I would be fine if she seemed more interested in the sexual side of the relationship.
for those who don't like to read
I want more :winky:
She likes the
There is a time restraint for a serious relationship.
On one level it just feels good to get this out of my head. Maybe you guys could offer some advice!
She is model-pretty, and I like her personality. Problem #1: I'm 18 and leaving for college in 2 months, and she is 16 and going back to highschool in 2 months.
I flirt with her, get her number, we go out to lunch a couple times.
I kinda stupidly say sex is not that important, which although is true (i just have never had full intercourse), and she seems pretty content with this answer.
Anyways, we decide a relationship won't work, but being humans, and thus irrational, we start one anyways. We hang out every couple of days.
Problem #2: She likes hanging out alot with me and calls me up alot. I don't mind hanging out, but I want to hook up with her more. I wouldn't mind having sex with her, although I know she also has stuck to 3rd base in the past.
So, at the moment I'm staying faithful to her because frankly, I told her that we would only hook up with each other. Now I've been going to alot of parties, and there are lots of girls i've been meaning to get with for a while that are now interested. I think it might be easier if I just spent less time with this girl, since the relationship really can't go that far, and I would be able to hook up with alot more girls. I would be fine if she seemed more interested in the sexual side of the relationship.
for those who don't like to read
I want more :winky:
She likes the
There is a time restraint for a serious relationship.
On one level it just feels good to get this out of my head. Maybe you guys could offer some advice!
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Honestly, my advice is that if you know off the bat that it's not what you're looking for, don't waste your time (or hers).
Because it sounds like sex
It looks like you've got two simple options:
A) Stay in the relationship
It doesn't sound like you want a relationship going into college. So the only reason to stay within one now would be in the hopes of getting her to cave in - only to dump her later. Trust me, you ain't doing the girl any favours.
Fair enough.
You know, I'm pretty tired of people talking about somebody "deserving" or "not deserving" somebody else. It is not up to you or even him what she deserves. Only she gets to decide what she deserves. Period.
That being said, if you both want something different from the relationship and you're not even committed to it in the first place, it would probably be best in the long run to just end it now and move on.
Its not about anything this guy has accomplished in life and deserving some girl. This girl just seems to be a little more grounded even though she's younger than him and he's all, "OMGz TEH COLAGE. LETZ PART-E & FUK."
There is no need to talk about "deserving". It is simply not a good match.
If you want to play the field, play the field. Just don't lead the poor girl on. In this situation the honorable thing to do would be to back off.
lol. he's 18, she's 16. You're under some crazy impression that every relationship needs to lead to marriage. Saying "he doesn't deserve her" is some pretty whack shit.
OP, sounds like you want to play the field, while she's looking for a high school sweetheart. Probably best to move on, or at the very least, let her know what's up.
You could be a dink. Many people are, and you might even get laid.
You could do the right thing. Many people don't, because like you, they won't be getting laid.
Being a good man is hard. It appears as though your character is being challenged. We are defined by our choices; where we stand and where we compromise, one decision at a time.
Who do you want to be?
He isn't getting what he wants out of this relationship, and she doesn't want what he wants. There are other girls available that potentially do want what he wants. I'm also willing to bet that there are guys out there that want the kind of relationship this girl wants. It seems like the best choice is to move on.
Edit: let me also echo that discussing who "deserves" who in relationships is really sort of arrogant and presumptive, not to mention completely inconsequential to real world choices.
Sarcastro brings the pain.
The pain of truth
The man should write a book.
OP, follow that advice and come to the decision, and end, you best desire.