[ girl thread ] Don't know what to do.

BathTubb

So I have been seeing this girl, who we will call "M", for about 2 months now. At first every thing was great. We would hang out and talk a lot. After the first month is when everything went to hell. When ever "M" would have a friend over at her apartment and I was there she would completely ignore me. She would go out on her deck and smoke and talk for hours while I would be sitting in her living room watching tv. I would try to include myself, but nothing would come of it. I have tried to talk to her about, but when I brought it up we got into a big fight about our relationship. This fight is still going on. Any time I try to talk her about anything in the relationship she stops talking to me for days. So I have no idea what to do. I am in uni now so I don't want to pass up anything. Any advice or help will be greatly appreciated.

Septus

Honestly, how much is it worth trying to fix what is basically a one month relationship? It sounds like a bunch of crap you don't need to deal with. And fixing it doesn't even seem like an option when she won't even respond to you when you talk about it.

Preacher

Break up with her, I dated a girl named michelle funnily enough same issue. She isn't worth it and you're too young to deal with her not knowing how to treat you better.

Forbe!

Tell her to fuck off. When you let yourself get pushed around, its just going to happen more. Cut your losses and go hit on some freshmen.

Djiem

Break up seems like the best option there. Honestly, I don't see what else can be done.

Dman

It sounds like she isn't treating you very well, so I would considering ending it and moving on. If you want to try and keep it alive, just drop the subject for a while and next time she does it, turn the TV off and stand with them on the balcony, listen to their conversation and throw in your two cents where they fit.

If she has a problem with that, tell her to stop double dating, either spend the time with you or with her friend and just leave her place so she can spend the time with her friend if she is ignoring you in favor of her friend.

Topia

If she actually cares about you, when you dump her, she will let you know... In a probably very annoying way.

Sheep Have Wool

This isn't worth the hassle, as it sounds like you're only being used for the attention when there's not something better to do.

Check please.

DeShadowC

Actually ignoring how it sounds and what it seems like she's doing to you. You don't want to continue in the relationship anyways so why is this even an issue.

Mojo_Jojo

If you started having "big fights" after a single month of seeing one another then you shouldn't see one another.

Octoparrot

Doesn't sound good. But it also sounds like your time together is spent at her apartment just hanging out, yes/no? In which case you're there because you can come over and keep her entertained.

Do you guys go out or does she go to your place any significant portion of the time? Or are you doing all the legwork? This will greatly affect the prognosis.

Dynagrip

Octoparrot wrote: »

This will greatly affect the prognosis.

It shouldn't. He said whenever he brings the issue up they fight or she just shuts down and goes silent. That kind of shit makes it really hard to resolve any relationship issues.

Break up with her and don't worry about it. 2 months is nothing.

Inquisitor

End it and enjoy college with a clean slate free of attachments to a girl who only seems to be giving you grief.

That's my take on the situation, at least.

Fantasma

Looks like you are not very important to her, this kind of treatment tells a lot. Why don't you just finish the relationship?.

I would let her know very clearly I am breaking up with her, and if she is willing to listen (which I doubt) or just ask why, explain with details the reasons in a very calm tone.

Thanatos

Fucking grow a pair and dump her.

Octoparrot

Dynagrip wrote: »

Octoparrot wrote: »

This will greatly affect the prognosis.

It shouldn't. He said whenever he brings the issue up they fight or she just shuts down and goes silent. That kind of shit makes it really hard to resolve any relationship issues.

Break up with her and don't worry about it. 2 months is nothing.

I'm just saying if he always has to go to her apartment, he's being used like a tool. If not, just do things outside, like real dates, or at your own place so the problem doesn't come up. Her unwillingness to do the second one would really clinch it.

Shade

Drop her and get another girlfriend. If you can't get another girlfriend, get a pet. Its going to be more friendly and give you less shit.

RocketSauce

Man, some of you guys are so passive aggressive. At least have one last talk about it.

Straight up dumping someone over that is crazy-person shit. Try to talk to her one last time, and if she continues ignores you, tell her the kind of person you want to be with doesn't do that, and move on.

Feral

RocketSauce wrote: »

Straight up dumping someone over that is crazy-person shit. Try to talk to her one last time, and if she continues ignores you, tell her the kind of person you want to be with doesn't do that, and move on.

It's pretty clear that he's attempted more than once. Unless the OP is misrepresenting things, she's used up her chances.

DTMFB.

i n c u b u s

Seriously its better to dump her now before you start to get some hardcore feelings for this girl. Its WAY easier to do it now than later and it really is the right thing to because honestly she's not "the one." In fact she shows no signs of being in any way a good partner in a relationship. You just simply have your self a bad apple and you need to toss it out.

Djiem

RocketSauce wrote: »

Man, some of you guys are so passive aggressive. At least have one last talk about it.

Straight up dumping someone over that is crazy-person shit. Try to talk to her one last time, and if she continues ignores you, tell her the kind of person you want to be with doesn't do that, and move on.

Last time he tried to talk to her was that one last time. Now it's time to move on.

Denada

Man, some of you guys are so passive aggressive. At least have one last talk about it.

Straight up dumping someone over that is crazy-person shit. Try to talk to her one last time, and if she continues ignores you, tell her the kind of person you want to be with doesn't do that, and move on.

Breaking up with someone isn't passive-aggressive. In this case, it's just the right thing to do.

@OP:
Break up and move on. Amazingly, life will go on for both of you.

ceres

Two months, half of which were crap, are not worth agonizing about. You can do better, so... start doing better. You're not exactly fretting about who gets the good china, here.

AtomBomb

I have stuff in my fridge that is older than your relationship (which is still safe to eat even). If you're having to salvage a relationship at this stage it's not really worth it. Put in some minimal effort if you want, but don't stress about it. If you guys aren't a good couple it's nobody's fault really, it's just not working out.

EggyToast

She's more interested in chatting with her friend than chatting with you. She's already dumped you; she just hasn't told you yet. Take the initiative and tell her you're moving on.

the cheat

fuuuuck that skank. i hate people that do that. just stop talking to you if they get all butthurt over nothing.