So, to break from some of the strife in H/A girl threads lately, here is a bit of a happier situation.
I've found a great lady, a very clever, whimsical, humorous, and patient British ex-pat, and somehow managed to trick her into liking me. Huzzah! I'll be proposing before too long, and that's the purpose of this thread.
Long ago, her grandmother was something of a "scarlet woman": she left her husband, a naval officer (and apparent abuser), during the middle of WWII. Through a series of amusing events, she ended up shacking up with a man who was -- I believe -- a bigamist. I may be wrong. Regardless of the reason, however, they never married. Rather than have her village think she was a tramp, she bought a dummy wedding ring, with little fake stones in it, and wore it until she died a few years ago.
Now, my girlfriend loved her grandmother (as well as this story!), and when she passed away, my girlfriend inherited her jewelry...including this fake wedding ring, which she wears on occasion, and loves dearly. I was thinking of using this ring as our engagement ring; it is handsome and tasteful, and generally quite nice looking. Is this a good plan? My main concern is that it would come across as an attempt to avoid spending the scratch on a "real" ring.
I'm not sure how much is altogether relevant, but here is some further information. We are both in our early 30s, with decent careers (her with the BC Ministry of Tourism, me developing software for a medical research group). She has been married once, but this will be my first.
- Is it acceptable to use this ring as an engagement ring?
- If so, should I have the fake stones replaced with real ones?
- Should I talk to her about all this, or should I simply take the ring when next I visit, have it cleaned, and propose?
: Went with the grandma's original ring, after finding out that the stones were in fact real on it. Picture HERE