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Do you ask for forgiveness for accidentally seeing your sister-in-law?

XaviusXavius Registered User new member
edited October 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
So I'm not sure what to do here, thought I would come here and ask.

The short of it: I saw my sister-in-law topless - do I tell her and/or my wife about it?

The long of it:
My sister-in-law was up from college this weekend. Saturday morning my wife and I took the kids to her in-laws to hang out so she could see them and play with them while she was here. We got there around 10:30 or so.

My wife and the kids go upstairs while I'm still getting diaper bag and other kid stuff from the car. Once I got everything, I headed upstairs since I heard them playing with the kids upstairs. When I walked into my sister-in-law's room, she was lying in bed with the blankets across her stomach, completely topless. As soon as I walked in she grabbed the blankets and pulled them over herself, so I don't think she realizes that I saw anything, and I don't think my wife realizes it either. Everyone joked around about it a bit, because apparently (according to my mother-in-law) she almost always sleeps in the nude. They messed around with her joking about what if there was a fire at night, so it wasn't awkward right then. I figured I would save my sister-in-law some face and not mention that I did see anything, which leads us to now.

It's the day after, and all day yesterday and most of the day today it's just been bugging me like crazy. The image just keeps popping back in my head and it's extremely distracting. I've been just trying to figure out if I should just tell my sister-in-law discretely, and keep it between us, and ask her for forgiveness for it, or do I also tell my wife, who may think that I wish I had her sister instead of her? Or do I just keep trying to ignore it and not tell either?

Anyway, thought I'd put it out there because I don't really know who else to ask since it's fairly awkward for me.

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    LewishamLewisham Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    So you saw your sister-in-laws breasts. So what? Why do you need to tell anyone?

    Is this some religious thing?

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    AthlantarAthlantar Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    As long as you didn't do it intentionally (and dont do it intentionally), there is really no foul. As a fellow nude sleeper, I understand the inherent risks. Not everybody is very concerned with having people see them naked. I would just forget about it and let life go on.

    This is just my $0.02.

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    Red RoverRed Rover Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    I too fail to see what the big deal is. No need to make things more awkward by telling anyone. Let it go.

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    eternalbleternalbl Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    This is where the white lie comes into play. You didn't see shit.

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    ThanatosThanatos Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    There is zero reason to mention this to anyone. It will just make everyone more uncomfortable, including you.

    You didn't do anything wrong, there's nothing to feel guilty about, it's not a big deal unless you blow it up into one.

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    WezoinWezoin Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    yeah, I mean it wasn't like you sat there and thought "I happen to know my sister in law sleeps in the nude im gonna sneak in and take a peek." I understand you might feel like you violated her privacy or something, but it was an accident and overall not that big a deal.

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    DrezDrez Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    Xavius wrote: »
    So I'm not sure what to do here, thought I would come here and ask.

    The short of it: I saw my sister-in-law topless - do I tell her and/or my wife about it?

    The long of it:
    My sister-in-law was up from college this weekend. Saturday morning my wife and I took the kids to her in-laws to hang out so she could see them and play with them while she was here. We got there around 10:30 or so.

    My wife and the kids go upstairs while I'm still getting diaper bag and other kid stuff from the car. Once I got everything, I headed upstairs since I heard them playing with the kids upstairs. When I walked into my sister-in-law's room, she was lying in bed with the blankets across her stomach, completely topless. As soon as I walked in she grabbed the blankets and pulled them over herself, so I don't think she realizes that I saw anything, and I don't think my wife realizes it either. Everyone joked around about it a bit, because apparently (according to my mother-in-law) she almost always sleeps in the nude. They messed around with her joking about what if there was a fire at night, so it wasn't awkward right then. I figured I would save my sister-in-law some face and not mention that I did see anything, which leads us to now.

    It's the day after, and all day yesterday and most of the day today it's just been bugging me like crazy. The image just keeps popping back in my head and it's extremely distracting. I've been just trying to figure out if I should just tell my sister-in-law discretely, and keep it between us, and ask her for forgiveness for it, or do I also tell my wife, who may think that I wish I had her sister instead of her? Or do I just keep trying to ignore it and not tell either?

    Anyway, thought I'd put it out there because I don't really know who else to ask since it's fairly awkward for me.

    What you saw is your own problem. No offense but you just need to suck it up and deal with whatever guilt you are feeling on your own. Which, for the record, I don't think you need to harbor anyway.

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    SheepSheep Registered User, __BANNED USERS regular
    edited October 2008
    "I saw another woman's tits and now I can't get them out of my head. Do I tell my wife?"

    No.

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    saltinesssaltiness Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    No one else made a big deal out of it so just forget about it.

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    XaviusXavius Registered User new member
    edited October 2008
    Thanks for the responses, I figured I would probably just try to forget about it and not mention it, but wanted to see what the consensus was. Hopefully by tomorrow and starting work it'll just get out of my head.

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    LewishamLewisham Registered User regular
    edited October 2008
    Sheep wrote: »
    "I saw another woman's tits and now I can't get them out of my head. Do I tell my wife?"

    No.

    This made me laugh.

    It's funny because it's true. And all that.

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