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  • ViolentChemistryViolentChemistry __BANNED USERS
    edited December 2008
    Sometimes a melody is better than a word, in case of impeded enunciation.

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  • ThomamelasThomamelas Only one man can kill this many Russians. Bring his guitar to me! Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    No.

    A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.

    Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.

    I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?

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  • electricitylikesmeelectricitylikesme Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Thomamelas wrote: »
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    No.

    A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.

    Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.

    I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
    It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.

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  • Evil MultifariousEvil Multifarious Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Thomamelas wrote: »
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    No.

    A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.

    Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.

    I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
    It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.

    Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."

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  • SnorkSnork Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Thomamelas wrote: »
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    No.

    A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.

    Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.

    I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
    It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.

    Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."
    Yeah. I understand what Thomamelas is saying- it's not so much that the safeword becomes a replacement for no or stop so much as it is that no or stop no longer mean the person saying them wants you to actually stop. It's a similar disctinction.

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  • joshua1joshua1 Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.

    Edit: Im not deriding the need for safewords, but I don't think they should be the first stop, if you know what i mean. Otherwise it seems to encourage causing pain to the opposite party purely by dint that it is encouraging me to continue against looks of obvious pain and distress while my lady thinks of saying the safeword. For the BDSM crowd, and for me if I start doing that sort of thing, its perfect. But otherwise, if i ever encounter a situation like Incenj describes, if my lady says "ow ow ow, stop" and we are trying anal sex, well.... i definatly don't need clarification that my wang is in a place that is hurting too much to be pleasurable.

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  • SnorkSnork Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
    Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.

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  • joshua1joshua1 Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Snork wrote: »
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
    Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.

    I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.

    Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?

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  • TrowizillaTrowizilla Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Snork wrote: »
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
    Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.

    I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.

    Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?

    Well, there's doggy.

    And not everyone's orgasm face is all that different from their "owww horrible cramp" face.

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  • geckahngeckahn Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I think it's hilarious that an initial discussion of safe words is now trying to be applied to banging a girl doggy.

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  • MorninglordMorninglord Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Snork wrote: »
    joshua1 wrote: »
    Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
    Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.

    I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.

    Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?

    Well, there's doggy.

    And not everyone's orgasm face is all that different from their "owww horrible cramp" face.

    You can still see their face? Normally both partners want to look at each other after all.

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  • JamesKeenanJamesKeenan Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Why is differentiating between words for "stop" and "change what you're doing" during sex so controversial?

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  • IncenjucarIncenjucar Audio Game Developer Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Why is differentiating between words for "stop" and "change what you're doing" during sex so controversial?

    Obviously not enough people dating screamers.

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  • electricitylikesmeelectricitylikesme Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    This thread is a hot bed of sexual puritanism in my opinion, and I'm pretty god damn tame.

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  • CervetusCervetus Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Don't say the S word! It will give you thoughts!

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    The libertarian response to anything is, "Sure, that works fine in practice, but it doesn't fly in theory."
  • SnorkSnork Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    This thread is a hot bed of sexual puritanism in my opinion, and I'm pretty god damn tame.
    i think you are really misinterpreting a lot of what is being said about safe words if you think people are being puritanical

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  • TrowizillaTrowizilla Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    You can still see their face? Normally both partners want to look at each other after all.

    Trimmed quote tree.

    There is very little "normally" when it comes to sex. People shut their eyes, bury their face into the bed, whatever. I'm not a contortionist, I'm not going to twist around to make sure I can see the guy's face during doggy-style; it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

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  • ForarForar #432 Toronto, Ontario, CanadaRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    God damnit, now people are asking what's so funny here at work.

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  • BlackjackBlackjack Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
    But what if he WAS!?

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  • ForarForar #432 Toronto, Ontario, CanadaRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Blackjack wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
    But what if he WAS!?

    She might as well finish (hopefully) before the screaming (in shock, this time) and the terror and the reasonable deals on food of questionable quality.

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    First they came for the Muslims, and we said NOT TODAY, MOTHERFUCKER!
  • wunderbarwunderbar What Have I Done? Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Forar wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    God damnit, now people are asking what's so funny here at work.

    Thank god the guy I share an office with isn't in here right now. I need a paper towel to clean up my coffee.

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  • Gabriel_PittGabriel_Pitt (effective against the Irish) Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I think I may have ruptured a lung.

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  • CervetusCervetus Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Blackjack wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
    But what if he WAS!?

    It'd be immediately apparent. You can tell through his tights that he's packing.

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  • lightfromthecloudslightfromtheclouds Registered User
    edited March 2010
    This entire thread is magnificent

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  • a5ehrena5ehren AtlantaRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    This entire thread is magnificent

    Did you really need to bump a thread from 16 months ago just to say that?

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  • SpeakerSpeaker Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    I can't stop laughing

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  • lightfromthecloudslightfromtheclouds Registered User
    edited March 2010
    a5ehren wrote: »
    This entire thread is magnificent

    Did you really need to bump a thread from 16 months ago just to say that?

    Oh, sorry about that. Someone linked me to the thread and I didn't notice the dates.

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  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Speaker wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    I can't stop laughing
    Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!

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  • Witch_Hunter_84Witch_Hunter_84 Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Speaker wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    I can't stop laughing
    Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!

    Take it a step farther and hide a burger and a platter near the bed, when she turns around offer it to her.

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  • agoajagoaj Now is the time of my revengeRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Speaker wrote: »
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.

    I can't stop laughing
    Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!

    Take it a step farther and hide a burger and a platter near the bed, when she turns around offer it to her.

    I'd favorite that youtube vid.

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  • Gabriel_PittGabriel_Pitt (effective against the Irish) Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?

    Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
    Yes, I made that all up.
    Or did I?

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  • Nova_CNova_C I have the need The need for speedRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?

    Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
    Yes, I made that all up.
    Or did I?

    So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?

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  • ShivahnShivahn Unaware of her barrel shifter privilege Eastern coastal temptressRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Nova_C wrote: »
    Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?

    Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
    Yes, I made that all up.
    Or did I?

    So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?

    If I were a scientist, I would measure it with a Dong-Imitating Libido-Discharging Object.

    My love of wordplay is probably the reason that there are few people who'd let me test that.

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  • VonVon Registered User
    edited March 2010
    Thomamelas wrote: »
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    No.

    A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.

    Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.

    I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
    It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.

    Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."

    I thought it meant "hang on a sec, I want to fart on your balls." :?



    Safewords for vanilla sex: Totally not overkill. It takes a great deal more effort to pull yourself out of the moment to utter a firm and unambiguous "no" or "stop" than it does to remember and squeak out a mutually agreed-upon "STOP" word.

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  • MagicPrimeMagicPrime FiresideWizard Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Sex threads always beget the funniest awkward sex stories from Trow.

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  • SipexSipex Registered User
    edited March 2010
    This looks like it was an interesting discussion.

    Too bad I missed it. I'll just have to wait until everyone forgets about it and someone starts a new topic I guess.

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  • SkyGheNeSkyGheNe Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    The best safe word is Binya Binya.

    From gulla gulla island.

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  • FeralFeral MEMETICHARIZARD along with you if I get drunk well I know I'm gonna be gonna be the man whoRegistered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Von wrote: »
    Safewords for vanilla sex: Totally not overkill. It takes a great deal more effort to pull yourself out of the moment to utter a firm and unambiguous "no" or "stop" than it does to remember and squeak out a mutually agreed-upon "STOP" word.

    "Yellow light" for 'slow down, too fast, too hard, too much stimulation'
    "Red light" for 'okay, time to stop, put on a robe, have a glass of water, and talk about this'

    It's a system that works really well for BDSM, because it's pretty much impossible to forget (people do forget their safewords in the heat of the moment); and it's not so silly that you feel goofy saying it during vanilla sex.

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  • emnmnmeemnmnme Heard about this on conservative radio:Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Sipex wrote: »
    This looks like it was an interesting discussion.

    Too bad I missed it. I'll just have to wait until everyone forgets about it and someone starts a new topic I guess.

    We can start a new thread entitled "Describe the weirdest internet porn you've ever seen!"

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  • Gabriel_PittGabriel_Pitt (effective against the Irish) Registered User regular
    edited March 2010
    Nova_C wrote: »
    Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?

    Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
    Yes, I made that all up.
    Or did I?

    So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?

    Post-coital diameter estimation. The subject's last coherent words were, 'Guys, I've got the best idea for a practical joke I'm going to play on my girl.'

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