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sex question

Fire-Lite MS-9200UDFire-Lite MS-9200UD Registered User regular
edited December 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
hey, umm, this is kinda embarassing, but my girl JoJo(no, not the famous one) wants to have sex, but i don't because, well, i got a freaking tiny dick. can anyone help with this??? i don't liek taking pills, is there another way for me to fix my small problem?

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  • mooshoeporkmooshoepork Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Chances are you aren't as small as you think you are, and are probably using porn as a reference. How small are we talking?

    From most of the women I've talked to, I hear size doesn't matter. You don't need a 12 inch dick to satisfy a woman.

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  • Seaborn111Seaborn111 Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    that first statement, true.

    size has very little to do with whether you can or can't satisfy a woman.


    and to answer the last part of your post, unless you're under 16 or so years old, you're done. no growing. no pills will do anything, no pumps, no creams. always be happy with who you are. or, rather, who your penis is.

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  • metaghostmetaghost An intriguing odor A delicate touchRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Not many women like being poked in their cervix.

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  • JamesKeenanJamesKeenan Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Yeah, there are as many ways to grow your penis as there are to grow your arms.

    So....
    1. Be happy with who you are

    2. Realize there are plenty of methods other than sex to please a woman.

    3. She'll almost assuredly be happy with you anyway, you'll be more concerned than she will, if she cares about you at all.

    4. And Moo's right. It probably isn't nearly as small as you think. Practically everything in porn is wrong, or fantasized. Try to internalize that.

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  • mooshoeporkmooshoepork Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I disagree with the 16 year old statement though. It depends entirely on the person. Some don't stop growing until they are 18 or even 21. What's the average? 5 inches?

    The average depth of a woman's vagina is 3-4 inches. Or so I've read.

    Don't stress.

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  • CerpinCerpin Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I disagree with the 16 year old statement though. It depends entirely on the person. Some don't stop growing until they are 18 or even 21. What's the average? 5 inches?

    The average depth of a woman's vagina is 3-4 inches. Or so I've read.

    Don't stress.

    I think vaginae tend to go a bit deeper than that. OP, don't stress too much, it really doesn't matter as much as you think.

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  • variantvariant Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Average vag is 5 inches.

    As long as you're 4 inches you should have no problem pleasing your woman, unless you (or her) are chubby and can't penetrate properly.

    Why you so worried dude? Unless you have a Micro-penis (not kidding, it's a real condition), you got nothing to worry about.

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  • BobCescaBobCesca Is a girl Birmingham, UKRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I really wouldn't worry about this. The cliche about ability over size is true.

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  • RyadicRyadic Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    If you truly want to satisfy your girlfriend, you should try using your tongue. She will most likely enjoy this so much that she will think that the sex, when it comes to that, is amazing because of the foreplay.

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  • TalithTalith 変態という名の紳士 Miami, FLRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Learn how to use your hands and tongue and she will think you are a god regardless of size.

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  • SpawnbrokerSpawnbroker Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Hey man, it's better than having the opposite problem. As for your fear that you won't be able to satisfy your girlfriend, don't worry about it. Spend a lot of time on foreplay and she won't give a crap, because you're obviously thinking about what she likes rather than just getting a quick fix (<
    most guys do this!)

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  • RallyGirl76RallyGirl76 __BANNED USERS regular
    edited December 2008
    Size is not important at all and if she loves you I assure you it really won't matter.

    Sex with someone you love is always really nice (because of the intimacy of it) the touch, the kisses, the feel of it is most important when making love.

    Once you guys are more comfortable sexually (and lets face it, this is not normally something that happens on your first encounter), she will be able to tell you what she really likes and if you love her, you will listen to it and want to please her needs, as she will want to do for you.

    I have had an ex with a very large penis and sometimes it caused me harm, because it was not always great sexually between us and I have also had a partner with a very much smaller penis and sex with him was ‘off the hook’ simply because he listened to what I liked and cared about my experience as well as his own.

    But nothing in life compares to the love shared between two people who are really in love, I truly loved someone and sex with him was magical and felt like nothing he could do to me was wrong (and it had nothing to do with size, but everything to do with how I loved him).

    I also agree that learning some other tricks is handy.

    Oh, also make sure you communicate with her, she may be worried you don't want her or don't want to sleep with her! Sit down and find a way to explain that you are insecure and that you really do want her…

    Good luck!

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  • SpawnbrokerSpawnbroker Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Wait, you live in Bellaire? That's awesome, my girlfriend lives near that area! We should hang out sometime and not talk about penis size!

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  • oldsakoldsak Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Everyone here has pretty good advice. It is worth noting that if you're feeling self conscious, and you tend to be overweight, losing weight will cause more of your penis to be visible, make your penis look bigger by comparison, and make you feel better about yourself in general.

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  • WillethWilleth Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    oldsak wrote: »
    Everyone here has pretty good advice. It is worth noting that if you're feeling self conscious, and you tend to be overweight, losing weight will cause more of your penis to be visible, make your penis look bigger by comparison, and make you feel better about yourself in general.

    As will shaving or trimming your pubic hair.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Ryadic wrote: »
    If you truly want to satisfy your girlfriend, you should try using your tongue. She will most likely enjoy this so much that she will think that the sex, when it comes to that, is amazing because of the foreplay.

    It's more enjoyable than most men might think at first, and if you end up getting good at it, it will likely be more pleasurable than a penis of any size/shape/etc might be.

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  • TL DRTL DR Not at all confident in his reflexive opinions of thingsRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Ryadic wrote: »
    If you truly want to satisfy your girlfriend, you should try using your tongue. She will most likely enjoy this so much that she will think that the sex, when it comes to that, is amazing because of the foreplay.

    It's more enjoyable than most men might think at first, and if you end up getting good at it, it will likely be more pleasurable than a penis of any size/shape/etc might be.

    Yep. I'm currently unemployed and since my student loans didn't come through I can't continue school next quarter. But my tongue is pierced, so I'm not worried about my better half going too far.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Though it should be noted for the OP, you don't need a tongue piercing to give pleasurable oral, so don't go drilling a hole in your tongue unless you already want to. ;)

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  • Limp mooseLimp moose Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    If you feel you need some guidance this book can be helpful. Personally I thought the doc got a little wrapped up in it but still the basic pointers in there can't steer you wrong.

    http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538252/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1229189406&sr=8-6

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  • NisslNissl Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Jelqing *may* add a tiny amount of size, for a shitload of effort, over many months. Honestly it's not worth it.

    Upthread is a lot of good advice. Lose any excess weight, trim back your pubes, and get good at oral sex.

    Penis size "matters" like breast size "matters." If you're not at an extreme (micropenis... in which case you should see a doctor) and it's not a shallow relationship then being insecure about it is the main problem.

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  • metaghostmetaghost An intriguing odor A delicate touchRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Nissl wrote: »
    ... (micropenis... in which case you should see a doctor)

    Not to be negative nancy, but if he has micropenis, I don't think there's much he can do about it at this stage of his life.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Well, even if he does, that shouldn't hold him back too much, as long as the girl genuinely cares about him.

    There's a lot of options. Oral, dildos (strap-ons even)... I mean, it goes on a bit. Having even a "micropenis" as it was called shouldn't be a problem. From what I hear, most women hardly have any touch receptors inside of the vagina. Most of it is on the outside and otherwise right on the surface. The act of penetration itself is, from what I've heard, does exponentially more for men than it does for women. So don't worry about it too much, experiment with the other options available to get her aroused.

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  • SerphimeraSerphimera Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Chances are you aren't as small as you think you are, and are probably using porn as a reference. How small are we talking?

    From most of the women I've talked to, I hear size doesn't matter. You don't need a 12 inch dick to satisfy a woman.

    As a normal female human i can tell you from personal experience that size does not matter (unless he's too big)
    , which is not fun). There are many ways to satisfy her without using your penis--she just might prefer these no matter what.

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  • EverywhereasignEverywhereasign Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Seriously dude, you can go wild with her feet behind her head and not worry about causing her a crap tonne of pain by repeatedly slamming into her cervix.

    I don't know...well any girl that enjoys a cervical slam session.

    Try different positions, some are completely off limits to people with large penis' due to the depth of penetration.

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  • victor_c26victor_c26 Chicago, ILRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    What about penis thickness? I've read articles that state this is much more important than penis length.

    Now, to ask this same question, does thickness really matter that much? Because from the articles that are out there trying to kill the length question, these authors or sex experts are only introducing another worry to replace an old worry.

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  • OrikaeshigitaeOrikaeshigitae Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited December 2008
    No, it doesn't.

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  • victor_c26victor_c26 Chicago, ILRegistered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Well, that was simple. :)

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  • Auntie ShibbyAuntie Shibby Horrible Visalia, CARegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited December 2008
    The only thing penis size is good for is bragging and porn.

    Other than that it doesn't matter much in the act of intercourse.

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  • Rhesus PositiveRhesus Positive GNU Terry Pratchett Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    My friend always used to mention that he had a very small penis if the topic came up (hur hur) in conversation. His logic was that he would never disappoint anybody, which in turn helped his confidence.

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  • DjiemDjiem Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Well, I heard having a big penis also excuses you from buying a big car.

    To the OP, not that it matters much, but ask yourself this, is your penis REALLY that small? Unless you've measured it with a ruler, you have NO idea how long it is. Ask 20 persos to hold their hands [5 to 8] inches apart and see how wildly different everyone's distance will be.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    But even if it is smaller than "normal", don't worry about it =)

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  • DjiemDjiem Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    But even if it is smaller than "normal", don't worry about it =)

    Yeah, of course, I'm just saying, it might not be as small as he thought.
    Also, maybe he thinks everyone has a 10 inches monster, but isn't the average penis length 5.9 inches?

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  • L.E.O.L.E.O. Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    i think its 7 inches... when fully erect.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Nay, it's more like 5 inches fully erect if I remember correctly.

    I'll go look it up.

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  • DjiemDjiem Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
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    this are result based on survey of 600 people, within age between 19 to 30 in USA. And the length is measured along the head of the penis from tip to abdomen.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Wikipedia wrote:
    The typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.85 in) when fully erect. The average penis size is slightly larger than the median size (or, put another way, most penises are below average in size).

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size

    Maybe not a definitive source, but it sounds about right.

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  • McClyMcCly Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    I have an above-average penis? Now I feel really good about myself.

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  • DjiemDjiem Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    McCly wrote: »
    I have an above-average penis? Now I feel really good about myself.

    That's exactly what I said the first time.
    Then I watched some porn and became depressed.
    Then I got back on that average-size document and was happy again.
    It's a rollercoaster.

    EDIT: Fizban, I just got hard (don't picture it, please), took the ruler, didn't push in, and checked.

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  • Fizban140Fizban140 Registered User, __BANNED USERS regular
    edited December 2008
    How are measurments done? Would you just simply measure the length or do you push the ruler in a bit?

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  • L.E.O.L.E.O. Registered User regular
    edited December 2008
    Fizban140 wrote: »
    How are measurments done? Would you just simply measure the length or do you push the ruler in a bit?
    i would say just the sausage.

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