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I hope this question isn't too dumb.
I am a virgin, and so is my girlfriend, I am not planning on having sex until I am married, but we have messed around a bit.
Last night when she gave me oral sex, I came into a kleenex and cleaned up a bit, in the process of cleaning up I might have gotten a little semen on my hands, which I wiped off with the kleenex. A few minutes later I started fingering (don't know if that's the correct term) my girlfriend... I did not actually stick my fingers into her vagina, but kind of just felt around down there. I then realized that I may have semen still on my fingers (i did wipe off well with a kleenex) and I didn't want any of it to get inside of her. So I moved outside of her underwear. about 5 minutes later I decided to wash my hands so I could put my fingers inside of her.
Now i'm starting to worry about if something did happen and semen somehow got inside of her... remember I wiped my hands off well with a kleenex, and then only touched her once or twice before moving outside the underwear and then washing my hands. Is it possible to get pregnant? Should I worry about this at all?
Should I tell her? I don't want her to become worried. She is Japanese and there is a slight language barrier, and she knows almost nothing about sex (didn't even really understand the concept of intercourse).
Any advice? What should I do?
I am a virgin, and so is my girlfriend, I am not planning on having sex until I am married, but we have messed around a bit.
Last night when she gave me oral sex, I came into a kleenex and cleaned up a bit, in the process of cleaning up I might have gotten a little semen on my hands, which I wiped off with the kleenex. A few minutes later I started fingering (don't know if that's the correct term) my girlfriend... I did not actually stick my fingers into her vagina, but kind of just felt around down there. I then realized that I may have semen still on my fingers (i did wipe off well with a kleenex) and I didn't want any of it to get inside of her. So I moved outside of her underwear. about 5 minutes later I decided to wash my hands so I could put my fingers inside of her.
Now i'm starting to worry about if something did happen and semen somehow got inside of her... remember I wiped my hands off well with a kleenex, and then only touched her once or twice before moving outside the underwear and then washing my hands. Is it possible to get pregnant? Should I worry about this at all?
Should I tell her? I don't want her to become worried. She is Japanese and there is a slight language barrier, and she knows almost nothing about sex (didn't even really understand the concept of intercourse).
Any advice? What should I do?
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Okay, she's probably not pregnant. I think you're safe here, champ.
No penetration, and only trace amounts of semen? .0000001% chance.
Semen won't survive being exposed to the open air very long.
That said, if you, like, have it dripping off your hands and THEN you finger her I'd say there is a chance.
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My hands were dry after I wiped them off, but like I said, I didn't wash them right away. the best way I can describe it is, imagine you got some of your milkshake on your hands, then you wipe them off. your hands are dry, but slightly sticky.
By that I mean, you shouldn't worry about it, but if she did get pregnant the doctors wouldn't be writing her into a medical journal.
In the future, excuse yourself to the bathroom and give'em a quick wash. Then you'll be totally sure.
And after all that, its still true that abstinence is the only 100% protection, so if you can't deal with even the miniscule risk that goes with using contraception properly, don't have penetrative sex.
When you say penetrative sex, you mean insert penis into the vagina. right? or does that include fingers?
well, anything that's been in contact with semen.
Just so i'm on the right track... when it happened with us, before I washed my hands there was no penetration into the vagina.. only feeling around down there. After I washed my hands there was.
I guess I also have the question... do girls normally not like that? She sounded as if she was enjoying it, and when I asked her if she was she said yes, and I should keep on doing it. I hope she wasn't just being polite.
You'll be ok, just don't make a habit of not washing your hands. AS regards your second question, there is no 'normal', really. If you've found her clit and you aren't hammering it like its an elevator button, I doubt there's any problem.
"Hey, isn't this where you get off?"
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I second that, and I would also like to take the time to say that the Nuva Ring option is pretty sweet. Especially since you dont have to take a pill every day. Also pill BC can possibly make females emotions fluctuate extremely, the ring doesnt really do that so much.
people are different and perfer different methods, however I highly suggest the nuva ring.
Not neccessarily true, emotional disturbance is more related to the type and dose of hormone overall than the way its taken. Slow-release is, I'd say, better, but the Nuva-ring contains a fairly high dose and only comes in one hormone-blend (AFAIK) - so its rad for many women, but I, as an example, would be pretty badly affected by it. Its not as bad as the shot though, that thing is fucking rough on a lot of women.
It's a low-dose, actually - I personally LOVE it, since I don't have to remember to take a pill every day, which is probably not going to happen with me. If you don't mind fiddling around down there (you have to put it all the way up or it's going to pop out the first time you or your partner of choice stick something else in) it's a great and very convenient option.
I'm a Christian, so religious reasons. At first I actually felt really guilty about doing any of what I did at all because of religious reasons. I talked to some of my close Christian friends about it though, and they made me feel not-so-guilty. I still want to wait for marriage for intercourse though.
Right. I could say a lot in response to that, but I'm not going to because you haven't actually asked me. I'm going to shorten it down to - sex is still sex, whether your penis goes inside of her or not.
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I too, shall keep my mouth shut.
lmao Okay, after a stressful early day so far, I really needed a good laugh. Hes right though ya know lol
Also I agree that you need to look into contraceptive options. I mean I understand that you want to wait for marriage to have sexual intercourse and I admire you for that. However, DynamiteKid has a good point so all in all I guess it all depends on how YOU feel about doing these other things and if you feel its right or not.
Personally if I were going to wait for marriage, then I would hold off on any kind of sexual stimulation of that sort, Unless it was self pleasure. After all, if you care for some one, there are many ways to make love, without even doing anything of a sexual nature.
Here is what I think- I view sexual intercourse as the penis entering the vagina. Perhaps it would be better to hold off for all sexual stimulation though.
I would like you to know that I currently do not feel guilty from what I did for religious reasons, nor do I feel guilty because we were both ok with it.
but as I said i'm open to suggestions.
First off, I don't think anyone is trying to make you feel guilty for what you did. At least I'm not.
Your religious views are your own. If you want to say, I'm cool unless I place my penis inside a women, it's all up to you.
If you are open to other views, my question would be this. Why do you have a problem with sex before marriage?
I'm guessing, in your view (1 Corinthians 7:2) "God" wants every man to have a wife and wife to have a man. This is to prevent "Sexual Immorality". You can read that to mean that *any* sexual type of behaviour is forbidden before marriage. You need to decide *why* you aren't having penetrative sex, for your own reasons. Read your Book, interpret it the way you want. Then you can draw the line some where.
Or, expand your mind and think about the two of you, because that's what this is really about.
Why do you want a relationship with this women? Are you planning to marry her. If not, and your beliefs about this are so strong, why are you in this relationship to begin with? Could it be because you enjoy talking with her, you like her smile, her laugh, you like spending time with her, you find her sexy? Then when it comes to sex (any kind of sexual behaviour) think along the same lines. Am I touching her breasts because I checked it out with some guys that think that 'God' would be cool with some Second Base action? Or am I touching her breast because, it makes me feel good, and makes her feel good, and no one is getting hurt in the process. If you continue down the thought process, you should end up making choices based on your morals, not the ones written thousands of years ago that no longer apply in our society.
Religion isn't the sole provider of moral and ethical action, we as humans beings have free choice, it's up to us to do what we think is right in any situation.
Don't act because someone else thinks it's a good idea. Do it for yourselves. If she wants to jump your bones, and you want to jump hers, be safe, and do it! If you tell her your concerns she might have her own, talking about them will make for the best relationship, no matter how you define it.
I also appreciate that none of you are putting me down for my religious beliefs, which is something that doesn't happen too often on the internet.
Well let me explain it to you in the way I was taught, having grown up in a Christian household.
In Judaism, masturbation is a sin because of the ejection of semen outside of your lover's body. However, in Christianity, masturbation is a sin of lust. It is the sin of you lustfully considering another while you do it. If you are being sexually stimulated by someone who is not your wife, it is motivated by lust, not by love. I'm not stating that as fact, but from the Christian point of view this is how I've been taught.
And from purely my own point of view, the way I see it, if you're making her come, and she's making you come, it doesn't matter if you do it at the same time - that's still sex.
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I see. which is probably why oral sex is actually called oral sex. I guess I need to ask myself whether I believe all sexual intercourse and sex are commutative of one another. I personally do not believe they are, however perhaps it is still lust.
An orgasm is a result of stimulation of the genitalia. The genitalia are the reproductive organs. Reproduction is the act of sex.
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Again, I'm not trying to guilt trip you. I've just struggled with this kind of issue myself until I just threw it all out of the window and decided to sink into my current life of depravity and filth. And frankly, I felt guilty from just masturbation, and that's a solo show; if masturbation is a sin, surely co-masturbation is a sin.
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Stop listening to all these people, your parents, preachers, forumers, etc. You are 22 years old. There is no reason to feel guilty. Do what you are both comfortable with and don't think about who might be dissapointed with you in the bedroom.
You are almost done with college, take a sex-ed class and learn all about those things you have been taught were sinful. Enjoy yourself, take it slow, talk about it with her, then talk some more.
Now get in the bedroom Champ and pleasure yourself and her!
Look, I realise you're trying to help, but you're basically saying to this guy 'fuck your faith, it's bullshit, go and screw around all you want.'
I'm not saying I want him to go either way. I just want him to go one. As someone who's been through the whole guilt-over-sex thing, I think that he really needs to make up his mind whether he's going to be a Christian and abstain, or just move away from it. If he genuinely thinks sex is a sin, he shouldn't be having it at all. If he's okay with having sex, he should really not have a problem with going all the way.
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Where did I say anything like that? I said "Do what you are comfortable with. Don't listen to others and make up your own mind."
His belief in a higher power should not be affected by his thoughts of someone's disapproval of his actions.
He should not be basing his beliefs on what others are telling him. I was telling him to make up his own mind on what is acceptable and not worry what others thought. If they were both comfortable with it, go right ahead.
And as for the "Get in the bedroom Champ!" statement, pleasuring each other is exactly what started this thread...
Sperm dies very, very quickly, especially with the high acidic levels in the vagina.