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How much of your personality changes when you go to work?
emnmnme
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Do your have a shift personality when you go from home to work? You adopt a professional attitude when you walk through the door at your job every day, sure, but some people might change how they speak or how they use an accent, they might unconsciously tolerate more stress/disrespect/shit from other people, hell, I've heard from one person that they go into "organization mode" every work day. I think that means they focus and alter their thought processes?
Whatever.
Do you have a switch on the back of your head labeled Home Mode/Work Mode or do you pretty much act and feel the same way at both places?
Whatever.
Do you have a switch on the back of your head labeled Home Mode/Work Mode or do you pretty much act and feel the same way at both places?
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I wish this weren't the case, but whatever. I like being not-homeless.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Sometimes my wife pops into the office just to see the contrast.
That said, I don't think my various personalities are all so disparate as to be unrecognizable as manifestations of the same person, just as I don't think the online me is dramatically different from the offline me.
Basically this. With the exception of offline me being far more reticent to talk about politics or religion, and doesn't swear quite as often. Regardless of where I am.
I did change in minor fashions based on who I was working with as Jeffe said, altering my inside jokes etc. You know, when I was working with the store's tough jock I wouldn't stroke his hair like I would with the girl who had hair down to her waist.
This applies to me as well. I guess it can depend on the nature of my fellow employees - if I'm in a regular office with a wide mixture of age groups from early 20s to retirement level then the above applies rigidly. If, like my current workplace, most of my equivalents are of roughly the same age/inclination then it does blur a little, as we tend to have too much in common to keep really formal, professional walls up.
Well of course you act different around family.
I don't think they'd appreciate the talk of bestiality and south american transsexuals like your friends would.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Are you dramatically different in person than you are online? Do you prefer to dress like Marilyn Manson, or something?
Cause, you know, online you're not all that objectionable.
I'm pretty sure most people do this. I know I do. Everyone has masks, different personae that they use around different people, even if they're not all that different from eachother. I think it'd be interesting to study people who claim otherwise though.
edit-I've been having breaks with my friends over how easily I shift when it comes to different situations. The way I see it, if I have a trait that bothers other people and is not advantegeous to me, it would be best to excise that trait. Acting different around different people is something everyone does, so there's no reason not to go all in about it.
That we hide away forever
And we take them out and
Show ourselves
When everyone has gone
Some are satin some are steel
Some are silk and some are leather
They're the faces of the stranger
But we love to try them on
No, and I'm probably more reserved in person than online.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
When I go home I'm Jack Frost.
When I go out at night I'm Lucifer or, at certain clubs, Lilim.
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In all seriousness, I am pretty much exactly who I am at work as I am not-at work.
So your coworkers are just fuckers, then.
You should come work for me. Not that I could pay you, or anything, but we could totally hang.
*shrug*
Business is business. 95% of my lifestyle is pretty much your standard video game geek lifestyle, which is stigmatizing enough without mentioning the other 5% that in involves drugs, sex, and/or multiple partners. You might not hold it against me if mentioned something about spending New Year's Eve playing Xbox, but a non-geek might find that weird. I'm certainly not telling anybody at work when I spend a Saturday night at a bondage club or an outdoor rave or if I go on vacation to a Burning-Man spinoff event. And politically incorrect humor really isn't appropriate at work. Neither are meandering conversations about politics or psychology.
I don't really see it as my coworkers being fuckers so much as a normal if unfortunate necessity of having a job. It's kind of like waking up at 7 AM or having to spend the workday under fluorescent lights. It's just one of things I have to accept if I want to keep working.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Knowing my posting habits, you will know that this is not an easy thing for me to do.
I distinguish between how I talk and what I talk about. I will never start up a conversation on the PS3 game I just played, or about politics, or about philosophy, around my coworkers. But I allow certain aspects of my mannerisms peak through - sarcasm, off-beat (though not un-PC) humor, light-heartedness, etc, to the extent that I don't act downright weird (I hide my love affair with puns, and I don't act nearly as random at work as I do around my wife).
Thought I was just weird. :P
I found stocking shelves to be a good time to sort of meditate and let my mind wander. I came up with a lot of interesting solutions and ideas that way. Sometimes better ones than when I was concentrating on the issue in studio.
Yeah, I can see that.
I do slip into pretty much a completely different mode of behaving, which different speech patterns, and I'm not 100% sure why.
The best way I can describe it is that, when I'm at work, I put my armor on.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
+5 vs banality?
Yeah, after doing accounting for a healthcare provider during the summer, I realized I could never do shit like that ever again.
I act differently with the different groups of coworkers that I come in contact with over the day. The people in my department, I act one way. The older cashiers in the break room, another. The unloaders that are around towards the end of my shift, completely different.
I'm a lot more organized and.. I guess it would be called 'cleanly' at work. I can't stand how unorganized my coworkers seem to be, I don't get how they can leave the work area the way that they do and still get things done. It makes me crazy.
At home, I coudl care less about organization or anything like that. I'm at home, I don't give two shits.
I'm also a fairly different personality online than offline. But that's changing more now that I'm getting more comfortable with the people I interact with online. Or rather now that there are less people online that I interact with....
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I would say that my personality does change, to a different degree depending on what kind of a job I am doing.
For instance right now I'm in a crappy job that I hate, but is necessary at least for a couple more weeks so that I can pay all of my bills. I'm working at a collections agency. So yeah, normally I would prefer to be nice to people, and you know NOT a dick over the phone for 8 hours a day, but that's how it is at the moment. And generally I would say I give off a much more confident "aura" while I'm at work than when I'm not.
The job i had previous to this one I loved and I would say I acted more like my true self than anything. I was paving asphalt. Sounds grueling but our crew of guys was more like a bunch of buddies joking/fucking around than anything. There were no rigid rules of behavior expected, other than get the fucking work done.
Previous to that I worked at IBM, and they definitely did have what I would call "rigid rules of behavior". Catch yourself casually using a swearword talking to a colleague and you'll get a talking to. Everything you said had to be extremely PC. Looking back I don't know how I survived that aspect of the job.
A big fat pay check didn't hurt. :P
I think mon and Jeffe have spoken for me.
Plus, people here still think I'm a Christian so every once in awhile I get a comment where I went to school.
On the black screen
Its true, however I actually made about double when I was paving :P
10000x better than my last job.
However I have let myself slip a few times. My dry sense of humor has gotten me some odd looks at work when I let it slip out. Like when my boss asked me if I knew what it meant when we had 0% EST one day. I told him "We're all fired?", and he didn't quite laugh, just said "oh, is that your dry sense of humor?".
Meh... this is why I can't make friends at work. The wacky sarcastic side of me would seem to jarring to the professional quite mask I put on at work.
I rarely challenge the assumption.
I think the main reason I do this is because my father had very different personas at work and at home. At work, he was polite, considerate, jovial, and everything else that is awesome. At home, he was a grump and pretty mean. I don't want to treat people differently because of where I see them and I don't want to act like a different person because of where I am.
Other than that I'm actually kind of surprised by how little I change. I guess I'm just introverted enough that, well, being quiet doesn't change a whole lot.