etiquette for early 20's?

DanMach

I was wondering on some points of etiquette for early 20's. New years eve I went to a party with a friend. It was mostly early 30's and such, a bunch of grad students and the like. I had some fun, mostly played Wii and talked about books. Anyways, I had a decent conversation with a lady there, but I thought she was 30 like the rest, so I didn't pursue it. Anyways, after I left they asked me why I didn't get her number. Turns out she was 21(I'm 22).

Now here is my question:

In an honest to goodness "wtf" moment, I was bored at work surfing my old high school's myspace group trying to find an old friend and I saw a picture of her on there. I had no idea she went to my old HS or anything, and so now I have the question:

Is it rude, or creepy, or stalker, or "whatever" to message her and say whats up? Time was I wouldn't even think twice about this, I would just write out a quick message and say hi, but it seems borderline creepy to me.

Thoughts?

Thanks,

Dan

noir_blood

Don't sign your name, that's what signatures are for.

And I don't think there's any kind of set etiquette for any age. If you guys both had a good time talking and such, she'll probably be happy you contact her. If she didn't really care for you, she'll just ignore your message.

I don't see any harm at all sending a quick hi or something her way.

Vixx

Not creepy at all. And if she thinks it is, fuck it, let it go.

Just be like "hey I was poking around my high school's myspace group and I happened to spot you there, I had no idea you went to my high school! was great meeting you at the party!"

Done. Airy and friendly without getting awkward.

DanMach

Thanks much. Makes sense.. and sorry about the signature thing, too use to work emails

And appearently too use to work as a whole.. keep thinking about everything in terms of corporate standards. Lol.

Thanks again!!

TychoCelchuuu

And here I was thinking I could learn how people acted in the 1920s. Dang.

Kyougu

TychoCelchuuu wrote: »

And here I was thinking I could learn how people acted in the 1920s. Dang.

The wore fedora's and said dame alot.

JamesDM

TychoCelchuuu wrote: »

And here I was thinking I could learn how people acted in the 1920s. Dang.

To be honest this is exactly what I thought when I saw this thread.

On Topic: It has already been mentioned but just go ahead and message her saying, Hey I was looking through my high school page on myspace and saw you listed, I had alot of fun at the party the other night, et cetera. To be honest that is like... a thing. It may not seem that way so much in the digital age, but that is one of those stories good couples always have.

DanMach

Lol ya I fail at title's. I did send her a quick message, just said where I knew her from, and that I saw her on myspace from searching through our high school.

When I thought about, its kind of ridicilious to be that worried.

Thanks again for the advice

Demerdar

Now you have to give us minute to minute details about what happens next.

House rules.

noir_blood

I know it's purely selfish, but every so often I wish we had a resolution thread. Yea, most people end up updating on the threads they make, but every so often we never find out what happens.

DanMach

...she hasn't responded yet? lol.

I am totally capable of 15 minute updates.. trust me. 12 hours a day in a data center gives me endless computer time.

Minus 2 hours for commute of course(Yay bicycles and rain.)

RallyGirl76

Seriously thought we were going to discuss the foxtrot, flapper fashion, prohibition and have a gay'ole discussion about the roaring twenties in general...
Lol , I must be getting old!
I hope she responds and its not weird to email her, its nice.

DanMach

Ya looks like a big ol' no go. She read the message and no response. Which is generally a sign of "I'm ignoring it. Yay."

Anyways, thanks for all the help guys! Appreciate it

Sorry I couldn't have a cooler ending to the thread.

PeregrineFalcon

DanMach wrote: »

Ya looks like a big ol' no go. She read the message and no response. Which is generally a sign of "I'm ignoring it. Yay."

Anyways, thanks for all the help guys! Appreciate it

Sorry I couldn't have a cooler ending to the thread.

o_O

Dude, it's been less than twelve hours. Don't declare a loss so early; don't message her again either, but jeez. Just give it some time. :P

RallyGirl76

She could just be nervous, busy or thinking about what to write...give it a bit of time.

She may also be wondering why an email and not asking for her number...let her think about it a bit.

DanMach

Eh could be, but generally speaking people read and respond, or read and ignore,

Time will tell, but I was giving the status updates as requested :P

Thanks for the words of encouragement though, I truly do appreciate it.

Vixx

DanMach wrote: »

Eh could be, but generally speaking people read and respond, or read and ignore,

Time will tell, but I was giving the status updates as requested :P

Thanks for the words of encouragement though, I truly do appreciate it.

how do you know she's not making a H/A thread on some other forum asking how to respond?

jeez man stop overthinking this

Zombiemambo

Vivixenne wrote: »

Not creepy at all. And if she thinks it is, fuck it, let it go.

Just be like "hey I was poking around in your bushes and I happened to spot you there, I had no idea you and I wore the same nightie! It was great following you home after the party!"

Done. Airy and friendly without getting awkward.

Unless you do something like that, of course.