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Yeah is this during the monthly no-fly zone? If you're not into getting your Red Wings then she could just be a bit hornier and needing a release.
Also the stuff you watch in porn is not necessarily the stuff you actually want to do in real life. She may have absolutley zero interest in trying whatever it is out in real life and just has a bit of a kink.
Also conversely the reality of acting out some fantasies could end up in a massive let down. If she's into (for example) golden showers and you piss on her or something you'd probably both hate it.
I'm with Feral and Eddy, but also why are you feeling the need to snoop through the recycle bin anyway? If there's stuff in there, just empty it instead of going out of your way to open up the files and outrage yourself. Within the bounds of legality, your partner is allowed to look at what she wants to on her own time. Just as you are. I don't believe you'd avoid porn you like if she made a fuss about it, and I certainly don't believe you'd stop looking at porn outright if she was uncomfortable with it. And neither should you. If you do make a fuss, all she's going to do is what anyone would do: hide it better and close off to you more. Tread carefully.
I'm still a total noob when it comes to computers, but do you have an open wifi connection? Maybe someone has been using it and deleted the porn into your recycle bin, assuming you and your girl sleep together at the same time?
Maybe?
Beyond that, yeah, it's just porn. I watch daddy/daughter type porn and tribadism porn but I have NO real wanting to do either in real life. Both can be kind of role played in the bedroom though.
I'm basically just repeating everything everyone else said, but giving way too much information about myself.
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I'm still a total noob when it comes to computers, but do you have an open wifi connection? Maybe someone has been using it and deleted the porn into your recycle bin, assuming you and your girl sleep together at the same time?
I'm still a total noob when it comes to computers, but do you have an open wifi connection? Maybe someone has been using it and deleted the porn into your recycle bin, assuming you and your girl sleep together at the same time?
Maybe?
Wait what? No...Doesn't work like that.
Ahh, OK. Cause I was thinking something like if your IP is attached to you looking at say..."killing your mom" but it wasn't you, it was some kid on your wifi connection then..something. I don't know it's early and I just woke up from a nightmare.
Apologies!
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The fact that he won't tell what it is makes me desire to know the type even more. I regret reading this thread.
Also, just ignore it. People like to keep porn to them selves. It's not illegal, she said in conversation she doesn't like it. It's her choice to lie about it or not. Maybe she is ashamed or just likes to watch it and has no desire to do it. Leave well enough alone.
Hmmm the fact that Cloudman has had sorta a panic attack on finding porn from SO in recycle bin coupled with the gentleman don't tell antic he's putting up seems to me that him and his SO need to have a good talk about knowing one another more.
Yeah you can do the round about way of saying you found porn and deleted it for her and then act as if you brush it off as nothing but that is going to keep lingering questions as to why she was looking at it and is keeping it hidden.
You want answers. You don't have to tell us what they are but you should get some for yourself and then maybe also share some new info with her.
Who knows maybe her buddy IMed her some links and said look at this gross stuff and she went eewww and that was it.
Yeah, this too. What possible harm can come of talking about what either of you want in sex? Unless either of you wants some bestiality, pedophilia or necrophilia then, talking about things can't hurt. Unless, again, either one of you are close minded.
I don't understand why you'd even say something to her. You already covered that you don't want to do whatever is in the porn so if it ever comes up in conversation you just say "no".
I can't even fathom why you'd go to your gf and say, "Hey, I saw the type of porn you're looking at on my computer and just so you know, I'll never do anything like that."
That would be monumentally embarassing for her. Use some discretion and just let it go.
A: Let it go, everyone fantasizes. Spare your SO the embarrassment, but if they ask...NO RAW HAMBURGER!
B: If this is really messing with your head, talk to her about it. But don't be a dick. That makes you look insecure. Then she might look for a man who is more willing to rub that ground beef between her toes.
seCret: We're just going to keep repeating these two major points, until you slip up/break and tell us what kind of porn it was. We all really want to know just what it is (to repeat, my vote is Raw Ground Beef porn) that has you all hot and bothered. Does RGB porn make you uncomfortable because you wish it were you slathered in ground goodness? Or is it that you wish you were the ground beef?
I'm with Feral and Eddy, but also why are you feeling the need to snoop through the recycle bin anyway? If there's stuff in there, just empty it instead of going out of your way to open up the files and outrage yourself. Within the bounds of legality, your partner is allowed to look at what she wants to on her own time. Just as you are. I don't believe you'd avoid porn you like if she made a fuss about it, and I certainly don't believe you'd stop looking at porn outright if she was uncomfortable with it. And neither should you. If you do make a fuss, all she's going to do is what anyone would do: hide it better and close off to you more. Tread carefully.
....really?
It's his fucking computer. If I logged on my PC and saw that the recycle bin was full when it was empty the night before, I'd open the damn thing too out of "What the hell is in here?" curiosity. He didn't go out of his way in the slightest. He never admitted to watching the videos, either. Names and thumbnails could easily give away what type of porn it is.
I guess the one thing I'm still sort of confused about is why you would consider saying anything to her. To get her to stop? If so, then that's pretty wrong.
Here's a story from my own life. I have a pretty normal kink that I've always fantasized about, but I knew my boyfriend probably wouldn't be into it. Years ago, if he had point blank asked me "are you into x?" I would have been embarrassed and lied and said no. Finally about two years ago, I got up the courage to tell him about my interest, and just like I thought, it's not something he's into at all, but we tried it a few times. It was fine, and I know he gave it his best, but it's never going to happen as often as I would like, and since I know his heart's not into it, it takes away some of the fun for me.
Now I could leave my boyfriend and easily find a dude who is into this specific kink, but I don't want to. I want to be with him. But I still want to indulge this fantasy, so I watch porn about it sometimes when he's not around. Simple as that. I need for this fantasy to be part of my sex life in some way, and it's not ideal that my partner won't share it, but that's alright. I would be upset and humiliated if my boyfriend ever tried to tell me to stop or made me feel ashamed of it in some way. People are still allowed to have private sexual thoughts even if they are in a relationship.
So, yeah, there would be problems for your relationship if all she ever did was yell at you about you not liking whatever activities are depicted in the porn she watches. But it sounds like she's trying to hide it, which shows me that she probably already knows it wouldn't be something the two of you could do together. (Assuming it's something she'd even want to act out, as so many other posters have mentioned.) So I mean, you could bring it up in the sense of "I know you're watching this and it's cool with me" to set her heart at ease, but if you are going to bring it up in any kind of accusatory or negative way, I just don't see the point. It just sounds controlling, to be honest.
tl;dr -- Your girlfriend can get off to whatever she wants and it doesn't say anything negative about you or your relationship. Think about what your reasons are for wanting to confront her.
If that's the case, I have a responsibility to share.
A few years back, we saw a Hamburger Porn DVD for sale on the street in Columbus. As soon as we saw it we knew we had to get it for a friend of ours. This friend was all about porn, especially weird shit (it was from him that I first saw the guy who puts his whole head in that girls... special place. and the one with the squid). So we get it for his birthday. Immediately after opening it we force him to put it on, because man, anticipation, right?
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
The rest of the DVD was regular old crackhead porno. Pretty much a let down.
(the squid on the other hand is a sight to behold)
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So once again, thanks for the advice everybody. I read through the thread all the way last night and saw a nice mix of "don't make a fuss about it" and "if you really want to talk to her about it, do it like this" posts. I got a little drunk last night so I decided to wait till this morning to talk about it. When we actually did talk, I basically stole Feral's post from page 3 (sorry bro :P) and emphasized that I wasn't angry, just wanted to clear the air, so to speak. It went really well, all things considered. According to her it was mainly curiosity and not something she actually wants to do for herself. I don't have any reason to not believe her so hopefully that's the end of that.
Also we decided that if either of us want to watch porn, we have to do it with the other person there to make it more fun. So yeah, a happy ending for all of us. :winky:
Thanks again everybody. If a mod could lock this up I'd appreciate it.
Also we decided that if either of us want to watch porn, we have to do it with the other person there to make it more fun.
This is a horrible horrible decision. Part of the point of porn is for when the other person isn't around. Now if she decides she wants to watch something without you around she'll feel even more obligated to hide it from you.
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edited January 2009
Figured I'd clear up a few things real quick like:
Who knows maybe her buddy IMed her some links and said look at this gross stuff and she went eewww and that was it.
This was one of the first things that went through my head but it was, like, ten porn links both times so I kind of ruled that one out, it seemed a bit too...precise, I guess?
I'm kinda (not really) surprised that no one else picked up on this little bit of information. Once a month, usually before our monthly "visit from Aunt Flo", women get omgfucking-horny. It's baby making time and we want sex. Maybe you should fuck her more? Increase the quantity if not the quality? :winky:
I'm betting it's just a fantasy for her, to fulfill her "needs" right now, but isn't something that she'd really be into doing in real life. At least that's how it is for me - YMMV.
Unfortunately we aren't having sex right now, because I'm unemployed and we both agreed: no sex until I get a damn job. It's been difficult for us both. And I guess your theory might be right, she usually starts her period a few days after a new month.
I'm with Feral and Eddy, but also why are you feeling the need to snoop through the recycle bin anyway?
Also we decided that if either of us want to watch porn, we have to do it with the other person there to make it more fun.
This is a horrible horrible decision. Part of the point of porn is for when the other person isn't around. Now if she decides she wants to watch something without you around she'll feel even more obligated to hide it from you.
I was exaggerating a bit. The basic idea was more along the lines of "I bet we could have some fun if we watched porn together.", not "NO PORN UNLESS CLOUDMAN'S HOME". I should have probably worded that better
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The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
No Job = no sex = no way.
Unless you're not making ANY kind of effort, then I don't get this at all.
Glad you talked about it, but I don't believe her that she's not interested in it. I think she knows YOU'RE not interested in it and doesn't want to be rejected/put pressure on you.
Have you even tried this form of sex? Would it hurt you to say "honey, I don't think this is my kind of thing but if you want to try it, I will."
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
i kind of hate you
also cloud duder, glad to hear you spoke about it, i warn you that watching porn together can be awkward as hell for a while, especially since she will now feel even more obligated to censor what she likes to watch from you. but godspeed my good man!
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Clint EastwoodMy baby's in there someplaceShe crawled right inRegistered Userregular
edited January 2009
Yeah, hopefully I won't have to be making any more porn threads. We shall see!
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
i kind of hate you
also cloud duder, glad to hear you spoke about it, i warn you that watching porn together can be awkward as hell for a while, especially since she will now feel even more obligated to censor what she likes to watch from you. but godspeed my good man!
i kind of like you. but thats mostly based on my being reminded of Beowulf every time i see your name...
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
i kind of hate you
also cloud duder, glad to hear you spoke about it, i warn you that watching porn together can be awkward as hell for a while, especially since she will now feel even more obligated to censor what she likes to watch from you. but godspeed my good man!
i kind of like you. but thats mostly based on my being reminded of Beowulf every time i see your name...
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
i kind of hate you
also cloud duder, glad to hear you spoke about it, i warn you that watching porn together can be awkward as hell for a while, especially since she will now feel even more obligated to censor what she likes to watch from you. but godspeed my good man!
i kind of like you. but thats mostly based on my being reminded of Beowulf every time i see your name...
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Also the stuff you watch in porn is not necessarily the stuff you actually want to do in real life. She may have absolutley zero interest in trying whatever it is out in real life and just has a bit of a kink.
Also conversely the reality of acting out some fantasies could end up in a massive let down. If she's into (for example) golden showers and you piss on her or something you'd probably both hate it.
Maybe?
Beyond that, yeah, it's just porn. I watch daddy/daughter type porn and tribadism porn but I have NO real wanting to do either in real life. Both can be kind of role played in the bedroom though.
I'm basically just repeating everything everyone else said, but giving way too much information about myself.
Wait what? No...Doesn't work like that.
Ahh, OK. Cause I was thinking something like if your IP is attached to you looking at say..."killing your mom" but it wasn't you, it was some kid on your wifi connection then..something. I don't know it's early and I just woke up from a nightmare.
Apologies!
Also, just ignore it. People like to keep porn to them selves. It's not illegal, she said in conversation she doesn't like it. It's her choice to lie about it or not. Maybe she is ashamed or just likes to watch it and has no desire to do it. Leave well enough alone.
Yeah, this too. What possible harm can come of talking about what either of you want in sex? Unless either of you wants some bestiality, pedophilia or necrophilia then, talking about things can't hurt. Unless, again, either one of you are close minded.
I can't even fathom why you'd go to your gf and say, "Hey, I saw the type of porn you're looking at on my computer and just so you know, I'll never do anything like that."
That would be monumentally embarassing for her. Use some discretion and just let it go.
A: Let it go, everyone fantasizes. Spare your SO the embarrassment, but if they ask...NO RAW HAMBURGER!
B: If this is really messing with your head, talk to her about it. But don't be a dick. That makes you look insecure. Then she might look for a man who is more willing to rub that ground beef between her toes.
seCret: We're just going to keep repeating these two major points, until you slip up/break and tell us what kind of porn it was. We all really want to know just what it is (to repeat, my vote is Raw Ground Beef porn) that has you all hot and bothered. Does RGB porn make you uncomfortable because you wish it were you slathered in ground goodness? Or is it that you wish you were the ground beef?
....really?
It's his fucking computer. If I logged on my PC and saw that the recycle bin was full when it was empty the night before, I'd open the damn thing too out of "What the hell is in here?" curiosity. He didn't go out of his way in the slightest. He never admitted to watching the videos, either. Names and thumbnails could easily give away what type of porn it is.
Also: My guess is interracial.
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It's awesome and Yes. Everyone does.
Here's a story from my own life. I have a pretty normal kink that I've always fantasized about, but I knew my boyfriend probably wouldn't be into it. Years ago, if he had point blank asked me "are you into x?" I would have been embarrassed and lied and said no. Finally about two years ago, I got up the courage to tell him about my interest, and just like I thought, it's not something he's into at all, but we tried it a few times. It was fine, and I know he gave it his best, but it's never going to happen as often as I would like, and since I know his heart's not into it, it takes away some of the fun for me.
Now I could leave my boyfriend and easily find a dude who is into this specific kink, but I don't want to. I want to be with him. But I still want to indulge this fantasy, so I watch porn about it sometimes when he's not around. Simple as that. I need for this fantasy to be part of my sex life in some way, and it's not ideal that my partner won't share it, but that's alright. I would be upset and humiliated if my boyfriend ever tried to tell me to stop or made me feel ashamed of it in some way. People are still allowed to have private sexual thoughts even if they are in a relationship.
So, yeah, there would be problems for your relationship if all she ever did was yell at you about you not liking whatever activities are depicted in the porn she watches. But it sounds like she's trying to hide it, which shows me that she probably already knows it wouldn't be something the two of you could do together. (Assuming it's something she'd even want to act out, as so many other posters have mentioned.) So I mean, you could bring it up in the sense of "I know you're watching this and it's cool with me" to set her heart at ease, but if you are going to bring it up in any kind of accusatory or negative way, I just don't see the point. It just sounds controlling, to be honest.
tl;dr -- Your girlfriend can get off to whatever she wants and it doesn't say anything negative about you or your relationship. Think about what your reasons are for wanting to confront her.
My vote is for Spanking :winky:
I don't want to know but I have to.
If that's the case, I have a responsibility to share.
A few years back, we saw a Hamburger Porn DVD for sale on the street in Columbus. As soon as we saw it we knew we had to get it for a friend of ours. This friend was all about porn, especially weird shit (it was from him that I first saw the guy who puts his whole head in that girls... special place. and the one with the squid). So we get it for his birthday. Immediately after opening it we force him to put it on, because man, anticipation, right?
The first scene just ended up being a fairly routine MMF pron WITH THE ADDITION OF ABOUT 10 LBS OF RAW GROUND CHUCK. They were rubbing it everywhere, as one would oil or the like. Between toes, 7175, and really anywhere you can think. It was really just weird. One guy kinda packed his meat, in meat, and went to town. Hilarious, but really barely fetish quality.
The rest of the DVD was regular old crackhead porno. Pretty much a let down.
(the squid on the other hand is a sight to behold)
Also we decided that if either of us want to watch porn, we have to do it with the other person there to make it more fun. So yeah, a happy ending for all of us. :winky:
Thanks again everybody. If a mod could lock this up I'd appreciate it.
Also, hamburger porn? Oh god...
This is a horrible horrible decision. Part of the point of porn is for when the other person isn't around. Now if she decides she wants to watch something without you around she'll feel even more obligated to hide it from you.
This was one of the first things that went through my head but it was, like, ten porn links both times so I kind of ruled that one out, it seemed a bit too...precise, I guess?
Unfortunately we aren't having sex right now, because I'm unemployed and we both agreed: no sex until I get a damn job. It's been difficult for us both. And I guess your theory might be right, she usually starts her period a few days after a new month.
Because it's my computer :P
Wait, wait, what the fuck?
You're going through tough times already, why made it harder? o_O
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This confused me for a good long while... are you saying tits? You can say tits here.
oh, yeah. that's tits. I just like to throw in some 1337 to confuse things every now and ag@1n. Sorry.
Not to turn this into a therapy thread, but man witholding sex until you get a job seems... off.
e: it seems like she's holding the temptation of sex over your head like a carrot on a stick.
From your standpoint, this sounds like a good deal.
Unless you're not making ANY kind of effort, then I don't get this at all.
Glad you talked about it, but I don't believe her that she's not interested in it. I think she knows YOU'RE not interested in it and doesn't want to be rejected/put pressure on you.
Have you even tried this form of sex? Would it hurt you to say "honey, I don't think this is my kind of thing but if you want to try it, I will."
I bet it's eating ass, to put it bluntly.
and the burger porn? why?
Midgets. That's the only plausible answer. It must be midget porn!
i kind of hate you
also cloud duder, glad to hear you spoke about it, i warn you that watching porn together can be awkward as hell for a while, especially since she will now feel even more obligated to censor what she likes to watch from you. but godspeed my good man!
i kind of like you. but thats mostly based on my being reminded of Beowulf every time i see your name...
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Well why not? I'm sure there are plenty of people around here into amateur stuff.
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