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Sarcastro is, as usual, gold. I want to follow up on one thing from the OP's last post:
I couldn't just be all serious with her and actually ask her honestly just like that on the first day of our meeting after 8 years could I?
Bear in mind that she was trying to be serious with you. She risked the emotional vulnerability of telling you that it was her first Valentine's Day alone in several years. She tried to tell you honestly that she was looking for a serious relationship because getting married is important to her and one of her goals. She put a lot of herself on the line to try and get you to have a serious conversation with her. She did exactly the sort of thing that you seem to feel is undoable. Which brings us to your penultimate post:
Lol is it so wrong to use those mocking humours? I mean I know it is wrong when overused, but I believe I was not doing such a thing!
Okay. You might believe that, but let me ask you a question. She was honest and straightforward with you, where as you were mocking of her. You want to have another date, whereas she won't return your messages after your first date. So here's the question: whose approach on the first date was more successful, hers or yours?
With this girl, I think you've already blown your chance. I was actually tempted to respond to this thread when you first posted it, along these lines:
"This guy seemed pretty cool, but then he turned into a total creep. I'd better back away slowly."
Maybe you don't think you're being creepy, but man, you are. The 3am text, the "olol you're too young for that" when she straight-out told you "I think I'm ready to start looking for a serious relationship," the Facebook message that rubbed her face in the fact that she was alone on Valentine's Day - I mean, a couple of those cross the line from vaguely creepy to full-on jerkface.
Kate hit the hammer on the head with this. I've avoided replying because as a girl when I first read your post all I could think was 'What is wrong with this guy that he doesn't get why a 3am text message is bizarre and that if you follow it up with another weird text message a girl is going to ignore you and hope you go away.' Kate summed it up in a much more helpful way. You could text her as your only form of communication for all I care (god knows I do this with people) the real problem is you sent a really weird and somewhat creepy/nonsensical text at 3am and that's enough to turn someone off, and the V-Day one was just fucking stupid.
You've most likely killed any immediate shot at romance but if you back off you might be able to salvage this down the road.
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Bear in mind that she was trying to be serious with you. She risked the emotional vulnerability of telling you that it was her first Valentine's Day alone in several years. She tried to tell you honestly that she was looking for a serious relationship because getting married is important to her and one of her goals. She put a lot of herself on the line to try and get you to have a serious conversation with her. She did exactly the sort of thing that you seem to feel is undoable. Which brings us to your penultimate post:
Okay. You might believe that, but let me ask you a question. She was honest and straightforward with you, where as you were mocking of her. You want to have another date, whereas she won't return your messages after your first date. So here's the question: whose approach on the first date was more successful, hers or yours?
Kate hit the hammer on the head with this. I've avoided replying because as a girl when I first read your post all I could think was 'What is wrong with this guy that he doesn't get why a 3am text message is bizarre and that if you follow it up with another weird text message a girl is going to ignore you and hope you go away.' Kate summed it up in a much more helpful way. You could text her as your only form of communication for all I care (god knows I do this with people) the real problem is you sent a really weird and somewhat creepy/nonsensical text at 3am and that's enough to turn someone off, and the V-Day one was just fucking stupid.
You've most likely killed any immediate shot at romance but if you back off you might be able to salvage this down the road.