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First Time Massage...any tips?
Matt_S
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Short of the story: my girlfriend, who goes to college three hundred miles away, is coming home for Spring Break this week and we're going to be spending the weekend in a nice hotel in downtown Seattle.
I'm giving her a full body massage on Friday night. There's one problem, though: I've never really given a massage before, except for short back massages. Let alone a full body one.
If anyone has experience with this and has any tips, things to do or things to avoid, it would be greatly instructive. She's under a lot of stress from school, so I just want to take it slow and easy with her and hopefully de-stress her a little bit.
Thanks!
I'm giving her a full body massage on Friday night. There's one problem, though: I've never really given a massage before, except for short back massages. Let alone a full body one.
If anyone has experience with this and has any tips, things to do or things to avoid, it would be greatly instructive. She's under a lot of stress from school, so I just want to take it slow and easy with her and hopefully de-stress her a little bit.
Thanks!
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You probably won't be doing the massage for too long before you get distracted by other stress relieving activities.. if you know what I mean.... :winky:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erogenous_zone
throw in some kisses haha.
@SkyGheNe: Well, yeah. Seeing as how we've been separated by three hundred miles for so long, there will be a lot of kissing, licking, stroking, and touching involved. That's a given. What I'm really looking for is any actual advice on the massage itself. Specific areas to focus on (minus the erogenous ones)? Areas I should be more gentle? Areas I should rub a little harder? Any massage techniques that's worked for people? Maybe different oil scents that people have used in the past, and enjoyed?
Limited experience, YMMV:
Most of the girls I've met carry their stress in their neck or around their shoulder-blades. Just firmly run your fingers around her whole upper back, working out knots 2-3 minutes at a time. If there's any stiffness or popping, work out those areas. Once everything's loose, grab her shoulders, and while compressing inward, roll them around the rotator cuff's range of motion, while leaving her arms stationary.
Depending on her cup size, expect a significant knot high on her chest... imagine a line drawn from where the collarbone meets the shoulder to the center of the sternum. You'll probably find it 1.5 inches in from the shoulder. Hell, I'm a dude, and that shit always hurts, you can probably find it on yourself pretty easily. That's a much more muscular region though, so you can afford to apply much more pressure there.
Lower back, knead like you're typing L-K-J-H with your second knuckles. Light pressure, but work your way up if stress permits, just be careful of giving her an inadvertent shot to the kidney.
Feet / calves are always nice, and hard to screw up. Just don't tickle - maintain contact and be firm.
When you're done, long sweeping strokes from her waist to her shoulders. When you're done with that, pretend you're typing on the sides/back of her neck, using your palms to apply some pressure at the base. Stay off the spinal column When you're done with that and her neck is totally loose, wipe your hands off and run your fingers through her hair, rubbing her scalp.
Good luck! Let me know what works, I'm still figuring this out as well.
I can, however, speak from the experience of a couple of wonderful years during which I was covered by my parents' health insurance (which included $1500 per year in massage therapy). Every two weeks, I got an hour-long massage for no medically necessary reason whatsoever, but God did they feel good.
Here's what my masseuse did to me.
(Do one side first, then the other). Start at the very lower back, right where it starts to curve out. Using firm, even pressure, run your hands from the spine (not right on it, an inch to the side) right out to the hips. It might hurt, especially if she's at all stiff or stressed - for a therapeutic massage, that would be expected, but if you're just trying to relax her and make her feel good, feel free to back off a bit if she starts wincing. Spend a couple of minutes working out the tension there, then gradually start your strokes higher on her spine, curving down then out almost to her hips again.
Once you're about halfway up her back, shift your attention to the outer areas, away from the spine. Keep stroking downwards, and be sensitive to her responses. If she's ticklish, just be very deliberate with your movements. After that comes the shoulders, and you'll switch to stroking up instead of down. Follow the lines of the muscles, and be careful about pressing too hard going over the shoulderblades. Work your way up to her neck, then get her to turn over, and spend a little while very gently massaging her neck and shoulders.
Some general tips:
- use something as close to a massage table as you can find. Giving a massage on a bed is great in theory, and sometimes it's all that's available, but it's suboptimal for serious work - you won't be able to get the right angle for an effective rubdown. So, dig up a cot, or a table, or a narrow couch, and make sure it's comfortable: put a blanket over it, and put a pillow under her stomach.
- a towel or blanket to cover her legs would be well-advised. Nakedness is cold.
- when giving the massage, take your time with it, and move slowly from one area to the next. Don't flutter your hands all over the place, and don't make huge sweeping strokes from her shoulders right down to her ass - stick with shorter, deeper strokes in smaller areas.
This squeezing maneuver (I'm sure it has an official name) is best performed with the length of your thumb and curled forefinger. You don't want to use fingertips because that pinpoints the pressure into one location, which hurts. Also, do not pinch skin alone. Try it on yourself first. Get a feel for where the muscles are. I tried to teach this to a girlfriend once and she couldn't figure out how to squeeze a muscle but not the skin.
This can obviously only be done to muscles that you can grip. See: Upper trapezius (shoulders) and calves (gastrocnemius). Make sure the muscle is in the most relaxed position possible. For shoulders, arms should be at the sides. For calves, the leg should be bent, and the calf should not be stretched at all. Just grab the whole calf and squeeze, moving your fingers in circles while applying pressure. Then move your hand down the calf a little bit and repeat. Do it to yourself now; you will be surprised. Just sit with one leg resting on your knee and have at it.
Also butt massaging is the best. Just try not to let your obvious boner bother her. (I'm sure it won't since yo u say it has been months since you've seen her)
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/TrapeziusUpper.html
http://www.exrx.net/Muscles/Gastrocnemius.html
Care to explain? Whenever I've tried massaging a women, or just generally caressing, I've always found that running the length of the spine, with my fingers generally directly on the sides of the spine as close as I can get(though I inevitably hit the top) gets a very good response.
Massage is easy just don't expect sex afterwords as it puts the ladies to sleep. Has the opposite effect on guys, that's why we like 'happy endings.' If you do expect sex then give her a massage afterward, she'll truly enjoy it after a nice orgasm.
I think it depends on the girl and the way you massage. Or maybe my dame is different, but if she's not in the mood a massage gets her in it.
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