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SoleWon
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Right, this is going to be pretty long.
I live in the Netherlands and turned 18 this August. I graduated from high school shortly before that. I dropped out of college very quickly after the summer, and didn't really have much to do. I was looking for a job but couldn't really find anything.
I have a friend who is 17 and is still in the high school I used to attend. On fridays, he had art class. The teacher is pretty cool. We had the idea of me joining the class, pretending I'm party of the class. The teacher noticed but said it was alright. Se me, the friend and one of the girls there had a jolly good time making paintings and stuff.
Then, this girl came sit with me. She looked good, we talked a little bit, and started flirting. When I got home, I couldn't stop thinking about her.
I went to art class again the next week. Had a good time with her. We sat apart but we did the whole looking at eachother and not looking away thing a few times. When we talked, she asked me how my girlfriend was. But there's noway she could have thought I had one. I only realized this could have been some sort of hint when I got home.
Then, it got bad for me. I think I fell in love with her or something. Everytime I saw her, I felt nervous as shit. Which is strange, because I'm pretty self confident. My class had to adress the school once. All my mates were shitting my pants, it didn't really do anything for me. I switched schools when I was 16, didn't know anybody there. Adapted pretty easily and made a lot of new friends. And girls? There might be the problem. I'm only used to "chatting up" girls at parties, with the both of us being drunk at all. This "love" or infatuation with a girl is totally new for me, and it makes me nervous. I can't really act like myself when I'm around her now.
Two fridays ago, we talked for like two hours. I wanted to ask her what she was going to do after class, but as soon as the bell rang she was gone. Didn't even say goodbye properly.
We talk a lot on MSN. We have a whole lot in common. We actually have pretty deep, intelligent conversations through IM. Sometimes she'll talk her ass off on msn and ask me questions and shit, and sometimes she's all like"haha cool" and says nothing. I took a shitty job at a supermarket, and it turned out she lived closely to this supermarket. When I was helping a costumer, I heard someone say my name, and there she was. I said Hi and told her I had to help this costumer but I'd be back. When I came back, she was gone.
I really want to talk to her outside of msn and art class. Thing is, she's giving off so much mixed signals. I'm not sure what kind of advice I'm looking for. I just want to understand her a little better and get rid of those goddamned nerves everytime I see her. It seems like I put her above me, and that's not good I guess.
It may sound a bit emo and "omg how do i ask her out guys" but it looks like it's kind of not working out, and I'm afraid she might give up on me if I don't act soon.
I live in the Netherlands and turned 18 this August. I graduated from high school shortly before that. I dropped out of college very quickly after the summer, and didn't really have much to do. I was looking for a job but couldn't really find anything.
I have a friend who is 17 and is still in the high school I used to attend. On fridays, he had art class. The teacher is pretty cool. We had the idea of me joining the class, pretending I'm party of the class. The teacher noticed but said it was alright. Se me, the friend and one of the girls there had a jolly good time making paintings and stuff.
Then, this girl came sit with me. She looked good, we talked a little bit, and started flirting. When I got home, I couldn't stop thinking about her.
I went to art class again the next week. Had a good time with her. We sat apart but we did the whole looking at eachother and not looking away thing a few times. When we talked, she asked me how my girlfriend was. But there's noway she could have thought I had one. I only realized this could have been some sort of hint when I got home.
Then, it got bad for me. I think I fell in love with her or something. Everytime I saw her, I felt nervous as shit. Which is strange, because I'm pretty self confident. My class had to adress the school once. All my mates were shitting my pants, it didn't really do anything for me. I switched schools when I was 16, didn't know anybody there. Adapted pretty easily and made a lot of new friends. And girls? There might be the problem. I'm only used to "chatting up" girls at parties, with the both of us being drunk at all. This "love" or infatuation with a girl is totally new for me, and it makes me nervous. I can't really act like myself when I'm around her now.
Two fridays ago, we talked for like two hours. I wanted to ask her what she was going to do after class, but as soon as the bell rang she was gone. Didn't even say goodbye properly.
We talk a lot on MSN. We have a whole lot in common. We actually have pretty deep, intelligent conversations through IM. Sometimes she'll talk her ass off on msn and ask me questions and shit, and sometimes she's all like"haha cool" and says nothing. I took a shitty job at a supermarket, and it turned out she lived closely to this supermarket. When I was helping a costumer, I heard someone say my name, and there she was. I said Hi and told her I had to help this costumer but I'd be back. When I came back, she was gone.
I really want to talk to her outside of msn and art class. Thing is, she's giving off so much mixed signals. I'm not sure what kind of advice I'm looking for. I just want to understand her a little better and get rid of those goddamned nerves everytime I see her. It seems like I put her above me, and that's not good I guess.
It may sound a bit emo and "omg how do i ask her out guys" but it looks like it's kind of not working out, and I'm afraid she might give up on me if I don't act soon.
This whole discussion is gay, I'm obviously right as always.
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Sounds to me like you've already got this figured out. You feel strongly towards her, you think there's at least a chance that she feels teh same way. Nothing to lose, pretty cool stuff to gain.
Ask her on a date man.
"Hey, what are you up to friday night?"
If she says she is free:
"Oh, how about we go out and grab some coffee then?"
If she says she is busy:
"Oh, cause the thing is is that i would like to have coffee with you sometime."
Yeah. I think she's a bit like "This guy is pretty cool. Might be fun to go hang out with him sometime and maybe..."
But she did leave immediatly when the bell rang, making me feel like I was entertaining during class, but after that she'd have more important stuff to do.
And I don't know why, but for some reason this person makes me nervous as shit. I'm also thinking of a good thing to go do with her. She's 16, I'm 18. We don't really go out to drink coffee, you know what I mean?
The worst thing about crushing on someone is that suddenly that person's perception of you becomes very important to you, which of course causes nervousness, which causes you to act weird and that causes the person to be weirded out/ you to be more nervous. Vicious cycle. The only real cure is to ask her out.
I agree. It isn't as if you are proposing marriage. It's coffee.
It is stupid.