Roommate is a Tool

Penguin_Otaku

Long story short, my roommate has been using my dishes the past school year and at the beginning he'd wash them and all and then some rift grew me and him. He hasn't talked to me for most of this year and I could care less, it's him being an ass in his own way and whatever. Thing is, I'm not a possessive guy really and so he's used all of my kitchen stuff... which is cups, cutlery, dishes and whatever else. Basically everything is mine. He might have one or two utensils in there, but you get the point. Anyway, we only have like 6 months left together... but I'm sick and tired of doing his fucking dishes and him not taking out the trash.

How do I handle this in the best way?

Sentry

Penguin_Otaku wrote: »

Long story short, my roommate has been using my dishes the past school year and at the beginning he'd wash them and all and then some rift grew me and him. He hasn't talked to me for most of this year and I could care less, it's him being an ass in his own way and whatever. Thing is, I'm not a possessive guy really and so he's used all of my kitchen stuff... which is cups, cutlery, dishes and whatever else. Basically everything is mine. He might have one or two utensils in there, but you get the point. Anyway, we only have like 6 months left together... but I'm sick and tired of doing his fucking dishes and him not taking out the trash.

How do I handle this in the best way?

By being an adult and discussing it with him. It takes two to play the silent treatment game.

Vixx

Yeah, pretty much.

Just talk to the guy. I don't see how that's going to be particularly difficult.

oldsak

Vivixenne wrote: »

Just talk to the guy. I don't see how that's going to be particularly difficult.

Quid

Edit: Whoops. Missed that last sentence.

blakfeld

He may be a dick, but he may not realize he isn't doing it.

Seriously.

I stopped doing dishes at one point. Not conciously. I was just working a lot, and feeling sorry for myself, that I always just accepted that they were done, not that that meant he was doing it. We had an awkward conversation where he called me out, we raised our voices for all of ten seconds, and then I realized I was a dick and started cleaning.

That was 2 years ago, and I still live with the same guy.

oldsak

blakfeld wrote: »

He may be a dick, but he may not realize he isn't doing it.

Seriously.

I stopped doing dishes at one point. Not conciously. I was just working a lot, and feeling sorry for myself, that I always just accepted that they were done, not that that meant he was doing it. We had an awkward conversation where he called me out, we raised our voices for all of ten seconds, and then I realized I was a dick and started cleaning.

That was 2 years ago, and I still live with the same guy.

A similar thing happened to me earlier this year. I've been swamped this school year and have been negligent in my fair share of roommate duties. It hit me when my brother was over. My roommate was doing dishes and my brother said "that's what i need, a roommate who does dishes." My roommate and I were both silent and just sort of looked at each other and it sort of clicked for me.

JNighthawk

How the hell many threads have been started in H/A about roommates not doing dishes? Geez. If you use them, wash them. If you don't, ignore them. If your roommate isn't washing them but is using them, man up and start a conversation. It's honestly that simple. Don't be a dick about it - just tell him that if he's going to use the dishes, he should wash them once in a while.

Honestly, I lived with 2 different roommates, one at a time, for 2 years and *never* had any of these problems. Once my roommate let me know that I wasn't taking the trash out enough, so I started taking it out more often. That's all it should take.

TL;DR: Be an adult. Talk.

Aoi Tsuki

My first apartment was with 3 other girls. The girl with the room closer to mine, C, and I were unofficially "against" the other two because our dishes served the whole goddamn apartment for two semesters. C carpet-bombed the place with passive-aggressive notes, and I took to using paper plates kept in my own room.

We all fucking hated each other by the end of our tenancies. I wish to hell we had tried, y'know, speaking to the other two like adults.

Talk to your roommate directly. It'll suck, but it's the only chance you have of improving the situation.

Endomatic

Most people don't like conflict, but confronting the person about this is the best thing you can do. Don't yell, don't get mad, don't get accusatory.

Just tell him you need some help with the cleaning. If he's a friend, and not a massive dick, he'll get it.

Loathing

Just like everyone else said, talk to him about it. Tell him that if he's going to keep using your kitchen stuff, he has to clean it. No point in yelling or swearing about it.

Now, if it keeps happening after the issue has been brought up, feel free to lay into him.

Werewolf Gamer

I still have to ask the hubby to do dishes and we have been together over 10 years. It's easy to not remember when they are just being done. He might not be thinking about it at all. I know my husband doesn't, he doesn't realize that i'm the one doing them and putting them away all the time unless i say something.
Talk to your roommate. Then if he's still a jerk buy some paper plates and let him wash dishes if they are all dirty. 6 months left isn't too long away.