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Das Ninja
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Ok so, this might not be what most are thinking. It is in some sense the same thing, but this time with a guy at the gym I go to.
My friend and I have been working out for a little over a year together. We know what the other can push, how to spot, etc etc. Now this is where the clinger comes in. He seems to think that just because we work out, and my friend has talked to him like, once, that we are best friends and he can work out with us whenever we go. He is there at the same time as us, and whatever muscle group we are working on, he does too.
He also seems to think he can push the same weight as us (this is in no way me bragging or anything of the sort) but he cannot. There is a difference between pushing yourself and knowing your limits. He expects a spot every time he needs one, which is pretty much me or my friend doing the excersise for him. We have tried almost not spotting him at all, in which case he fails, but that hasn't seemed to work. He keeps putting more weight on and it is VERY frustrating. Plus 3 people working on the same thing just takes too long. To long of rests inbetween sets and such.
I wish I could go at different times, but it just works out very well going right after work with my buddy.
How do we let this guy down easy without anyone getting pissed off? or...more so.
(I'm aware this is a bit silly, but truthfully, there are times where my workout is ruined because of this guy)
My friend and I have been working out for a little over a year together. We know what the other can push, how to spot, etc etc. Now this is where the clinger comes in. He seems to think that just because we work out, and my friend has talked to him like, once, that we are best friends and he can work out with us whenever we go. He is there at the same time as us, and whatever muscle group we are working on, he does too.
He also seems to think he can push the same weight as us (this is in no way me bragging or anything of the sort) but he cannot. There is a difference between pushing yourself and knowing your limits. He expects a spot every time he needs one, which is pretty much me or my friend doing the excersise for him. We have tried almost not spotting him at all, in which case he fails, but that hasn't seemed to work. He keeps putting more weight on and it is VERY frustrating. Plus 3 people working on the same thing just takes too long. To long of rests inbetween sets and such.
I wish I could go at different times, but it just works out very well going right after work with my buddy.
How do we let this guy down easy without anyone getting pissed off? or...more so.
(I'm aware this is a bit silly, but truthfully, there are times where my workout is ruined because of this guy)
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EDIT: I won't be quite that big of a dick.
Next time he asks, say no. Make it clear and to the point that you're there with your friend and that you do not wish for him to become a part of your workout. Pretty simple, but it'll get right to the heart. Don't feel bad about hurting his feelings, as this will happen regardless and will be leveraged against you.
Not at all. It first started when the clinger said to my friend one day "oh hey, you have the same truck as me"
He is a nice guy and all, really, just...not workoutable with.
(sweet lord I sound like a girl. I gotta grow a set)
He'll probably feel hurt, you may not even like him at all, but you can't be nice to everyone all the time at the expense of yourself.
Was he already at the gym doing his thing before you guys started? He sounds lonely or something.
I usually don't advocate for machismo, but you've answered your own question. It'll be awkward and less than fun, but if you want it to stop you're going to have to hurt his feelings.
Ya I believe he was there already before he started trying to workout with us. And yea maybe he is. But that is a good line. If he is there today i'll have to try that out.
And crow, yes I know. You are right. I am the type of person who doesn't like conflict of anykind, but that isn't much of an excuse if im going to keep my mouth shut and let my workouts and mood decline because of this guy.
Yea we have tried that as well. We have been giving some pretty obvious hints that we don't want him working out with us. And we will tell him things like "you don't need a spot with that" in hopes that he will try it, not be able to do it, then go down to a weight he CAN do himself.
Anyway, thanks for the advice guys, i'll have to deal with it.
This thread can go the way of the dionsaurs. and...get..extinct?
Just be honest with him. Don't outright lie or tell him that he could TOTALLY lift a set he clearly can't (that's just dangerous. Also, you might be liable) Regardless, see if you can mix your workout times. Lastly, if he complimented you on your truck, there is where you should have pretended to not speak-a da english.
PS- as to your quote, please see my signature.