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PDA, yay or Nay?
AlyceInWonderland
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My boyfriend is super anti-Public displays of Affection, to the point where we're basically just buddies in public. Won't hold my hand (rage!) or give me a quick kiss or anything of the sort with any people around(any). While it's kind of annoying, I deal with it. I have no problems with PDA (short of fucking in public), but it seems to make him all sorts of uncomfortable.
A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend, 2 other mutual friends of ours, and I went bowling. I went to hug him after I got a strike (I'm awful at bowling, so I was excited), and he stopped me (which actually bothered me a lot). I asked him why he stopped me, and he told me he had his reasons, and that he'd tell me later. When we got home I asked him about it and he said "I don't like putting the fact that we're in a relationship on display. Especially infront our friends. Our single friends. Because I feel like I'm rubbing it in their faces." Now, I respect that. It just never came to mind, and I didn't realize that it could possibly bother others, so I lay off. He's really affectionate at home, so I manage
:P
So... what about everybody here? How do you feel about Public displays of affection? Hate it, love it, don't care? Tell why!
TL;DR- Boyfriend hates PDA to the point of not even holding hands in public. What do you feel about PDA?
A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend, 2 other mutual friends of ours, and I went bowling. I went to hug him after I got a strike (I'm awful at bowling, so I was excited), and he stopped me (which actually bothered me a lot). I asked him why he stopped me, and he told me he had his reasons, and that he'd tell me later. When we got home I asked him about it and he said "I don't like putting the fact that we're in a relationship on display. Especially infront our friends. Our single friends. Because I feel like I'm rubbing it in their faces." Now, I respect that. It just never came to mind, and I didn't realize that it could possibly bother others, so I lay off. He's really affectionate at home, so I manage
:PSo... what about everybody here? How do you feel about Public displays of affection? Hate it, love it, don't care? Tell why!
TL;DR- Boyfriend hates PDA to the point of not even holding hands in public. What do you feel about PDA?
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Hope that answers your question.
I also think it's totally more important to worry about the feelings of random strangers and casual acquaintances than it is to show my partner I love her.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Wow, your girlfriend must feel really left out.
And who cares if strangers sees us holding hands? .... ????
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I have no problem with other people showing PDAs, within reason. Everything listed above? Fine. But hipsters loudly making out in the middle of my subway car during rush hour? Get off my lawn.
Could you not talk to the aforementioned affected friends to clarify that they would think it ok?
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
I pretty much agree with this post.
Including the spoilered text.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
They can cuddle other guys, if they want.
...I liked it before the edit. The implied manboobed transvestite is funnier than the pun alone.
I don't consider my self to be terribly affectionate, but that bowling thing sounds a bit off. I show more public affection than that for not even particularly close friends, hell even for random stranger if there are intoxicants about.
I'm fairly affectionate, but not really in public. I don't mind kissing, but it's generally a chaste peck or something, the only time I have really gotten into a kiss around other people was on New Years.
I do know people who go too far, though. I'm not one to full-on make-out in public. One of my (girl)friends' boyfriend will come up and randomly start kissing her neck/side of face while we're having a conversation, which is a bit distracting to say that least, particularly when she's talking.
most any other place aside from work seems fine.
I found it a bit excessive to go on for 45 minutes, but I only even noticed it because we were stuck immediately behind them for the entire line. Obviously they didn't give a crap what we thought, and had it been something I had seen in passing and not been subject to for an extended period of time I probably wouldn't give a crap either. Really I probably found it most irritating because they were right there and so it was hard to mock them without them overhearing. After the ride was over my friend and i had a good laugh about it.
Uh, so, yeah, PDA, no big deal, unless you are trapped around it...maybe
Did they have on the "just married" buttons? I mean... damn.
Personally, I may not like it too much, but if people want to, I certainly will get over it.
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If you wish to neck for an hour, go the fuck home. This goes double if I happen to be sitting in the same goddamn car as you on a train and am forced to listen to you slurp and baby talk each other all the way to my destination. I wish to rip your heart out and show it to you before you die.
...well maybe not.
maybe so.
There is a substantial cross-section however who do it as a way of showing off. These people need to die in a fire, so their screams may be a lesson to others.
That can get annoying, yeah. I had friends who were dating and would be all, "hey, wanna hang out?" and then maybe ten minutes in they would be all over each other. Not cuddling or anything like that, it was hardcore snogging. That got old real fast.
Well, it's not even anything hardcore, it's just CONSTANT.
Like, I can't even finish a sentence without them giving eachother a peck on the lips while he they stand their wrapped around each-other.
I mean fuck I just wanna punch them in the face ugh. I don't know, I just think it's rude.
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