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Don't know how old you are but I went through a similar situation with my mother when I was a kid. Eventually found her hiding behind a bush smoking (which is a huge blow to that omnipotent mother image I had at 10 years old) and just stopped investing in it.
She eventually did quit when I was at college and to my knowledge hasn't smoked for 10ish years.
Bottom line is you can't quit for them so stressing out over it doesn't do you any good.
I understand what you are going through. My issue isn't with family however, everybody I work with at work smokes like crazy. I've been targeting a few of them I'm closer with and have talked to them about it, one of claims she's tried to quit cold turkey a few times but it never works, so I did some research on the net and built a 5-page little guide for her off some anti-smoking government website, which she refuses to read. Here I actually found it again; http://www.smokefree.gov/quit-smoking/index.html
I realize that someone that sees me for 4 hours a week that my voice will have little impact on her choice to smoke, but I wanted to atleast try something.
Still get the nicotine, but none of the crap. I've been on them for three weeks now, and cigarettes are simply just more expensive and nasty tasting. Plus, I get my nicotine fix whenever I want.
Something to look at, at least. They're not marketed as a stop-smoking aid, but they do have lower nicotine content cartridges, and cartridges without nicotine at all, so if she really wanted to kick the habit, they might help.
You can't quit for her, but all you can do is encourage her to not smoke anymore. Tell her that it's not the right way to deal with stress. I unfortunately don't think she realizes that it's a big deal yet, try talking to her some more about it, but if she gets confrontational about it then there may not be a lot you can do, other than be there for her.
Most people who quit smoking for good relapsed a few times first. You shouldn't have gotten mad at her, obviously, but what's done is done. Rather than getting into fights with her, keep encouraging her and offer to help her find plans to quit. In the end you can't make her do it; she has to want to do it on her own. If you keep getting into fights though, she's not going to come to you when she's ready to try again.
Most people who quit smoking for good relapsed a few times first. You shouldn't have gotten mad at her, obviously, but what's done is done. Rather than getting into fights with her, keep encouraging her and offer to help her find plans to quit. In the end you can't make her do it; she has to want to do it on her own. If you keep getting into fights though, she's not going to come to you when she's ready to try again.
I agree with this. She wants to quit, you shouldn't make her feel bad for not succeeding. You should be supporting her. Making her feel bad for something that she probably already feels bad about (failing to quit) isn't helping. If I was here I might try to hide my failure from you next time, which helps no one. I would recommend she talk to a dr. or nurse and get some help either in pill or patch form. Also I think it might be helpful if she found something to do during her usual smoking time. For example maybe she could chew some gum after a meal or whatever, so that she isn't left feeling something is missing in her routine.
Most people who quit smoking for good relapsed a few times first. You shouldn't have gotten mad at her, obviously, but what's done is done. Rather than getting into fights with her, keep encouraging her and offer to help her find plans to quit. In the end you can't make her do it; she has to want to do it on her own. If you keep getting into fights though, she's not going to come to you when she's ready to try again.
I agree with this. She wants to quit, you shouldn't make her feel bad for not succeeding. You should be supporting her. Making her feel bad for something that she probably already feels bad about (failing to quit) isn't helping. If I was here I might try to hide my failure from you next time, which helps no one. I would recommend she talk to a dr. or nurse and get some help either in pill or patch form. Also I think it might be helpful if she found something to do during her usual smoking time. For example maybe she could chew some gum after a meal or whatever, so that she isn't left feeling something is missing in her routine.
This isn't the first time she has tried to quit. She has tried countless times and I have supported her every time she has tried.
She failed to do it this time and I am frustrated that after she was doing so well she decided to do it again. It's like she doesn't care and is only quitting to save money.
Nicotine gum leave sore taste buds in her mouth and patches leave rashes.
She doesn't have the money to go to the doctor.
I am also in the right to get mad at her. What should I say for the fifteenth time?
"Oh it's ok to smoke for a few days then quit again. Oh don't worry, here, I will even light it for you."
She won't get it. Thanks guys. You have helped but I am locking it.
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Don't know how old you are but I went through a similar situation with my mother when I was a kid. Eventually found her hiding behind a bush smoking (which is a huge blow to that omnipotent mother image I had at 10 years old) and just stopped investing in it.
She eventually did quit when I was at college and to my knowledge hasn't smoked for 10ish years.
Bottom line is you can't quit for them so stressing out over it doesn't do you any good.
I realize that someone that sees me for 4 hours a week that my voice will have little impact on her choice to smoke, but I wanted to atleast try something.
You are right though I can't quit for her.
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Still get the nicotine, but none of the crap. I've been on them for three weeks now, and cigarettes are simply just more expensive and nasty tasting. Plus, I get my nicotine fix whenever I want.
Something to look at, at least. They're not marketed as a stop-smoking aid, but they do have lower nicotine content cartridges, and cartridges without nicotine at all, so if she really wanted to kick the habit, they might help.
I agree with this. She wants to quit, you shouldn't make her feel bad for not succeeding. You should be supporting her. Making her feel bad for something that she probably already feels bad about (failing to quit) isn't helping. If I was here I might try to hide my failure from you next time, which helps no one. I would recommend she talk to a dr. or nurse and get some help either in pill or patch form. Also I think it might be helpful if she found something to do during her usual smoking time. For example maybe she could chew some gum after a meal or whatever, so that she isn't left feeling something is missing in her routine.
This isn't the first time she has tried to quit. She has tried countless times and I have supported her every time she has tried.
She failed to do it this time and I am frustrated that after she was doing so well she decided to do it again. It's like she doesn't care and is only quitting to save money.
Nicotine gum leave sore taste buds in her mouth and patches leave rashes.
She doesn't have the money to go to the doctor.
I am also in the right to get mad at her. What should I say for the fifteenth time?
"Oh it's ok to smoke for a few days then quit again. Oh don't worry, here, I will even light it for you."
She won't get it. Thanks guys. You have helped but I am locking it.
3DS FC: 5343-7720-0490