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Elaborate Ways to Ask Her Out?
Lux
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So, I'm in college, there's a dance, and normally I don't do elaborate ask-you-out things. But she's dropped hints that she likes it, and I'm willing to try. I just don't have any great ideas and don't want to copy a movie. She's seen them all.
All I have so far is leaving a single lily in her mailbox, then when she turns around to go back to her place, have a trail of them leading to her room where I'll wait with bouquet of lillies and the question. It's an indoor dorm, so I think I could lay a trail while she goes to her mailbox without her noticing.
I welcome other ideas & tweaks, though. It doesn't feel interesting enough.
Follow-up question: I ask her, she says yes, and then what? Kiss her, go out to grab some lunch? Tell her I gotta get to class?
All I have so far is leaving a single lily in her mailbox, then when she turns around to go back to her place, have a trail of them leading to her room where I'll wait with bouquet of lillies and the question. It's an indoor dorm, so I think I could lay a trail while she goes to her mailbox without her noticing.
I welcome other ideas & tweaks, though. It doesn't feel interesting enough.
Follow-up question: I ask her, she says yes, and then what? Kiss her, go out to grab some lunch? Tell her I gotta get to class?
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As for it being interesting, if you can pull that off, for a first "ask out" that is incredibly interesting. That is borderline proposal interesting.
If/when she says yes, just hug for a while, talk like normal, get excited, and make some plans for dinner or lunch together.
Cause honestly? Fuck. That. Noise.
Your suggestion sounds like a very romantic marriage proposal, though.
Maybe the asking her to the dance thing should be simple, but the event itself should be more interesting? And yeah, I assume this is not a first date with this girl.
Answer for the follow-up: If you do the flowers, ask earlier in the week. Take her hand when you ask. If she says yes, kiss her hand or fingers (not her lips or face), and tell her you look forward to the evening and then smile and leave. The benefit of the cul8r tactic is it guarantees she'll be thinking a LOT about the date if she does say yes, and if she says no you have time to make other plans (or not).
I didn't think it was too much - i mean, it's just a handful of flowers. I thought it would be much if I, like, rented out some horses or did it in a public place.
I liked the thought though, you wouldn't need to many flowers, the bouquet is nice, esp if theres a corsage later (I handmake mine, but ur skillz may vary) and no one ever went wrong with an aged, heavy-weight caligraphied invitation and a few gold ribbons for flavor.
If this is your first 'hey wanna go out sometime' though, be wery fucking wary, yeh? This sort of thing is best saved for when the ask is expected, its just a matter of how and when.
edit: Already dating. Thumbs up then.
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The fact that you're already dating does make this much more practical, though. We don't know the layout of your space, so if you wanted to give it a shot, you don't have much to lose. The negativity in the beginning of the thread was, I believe, because we weren't sure if you were trying to woo this girl, or if you were trying to be sweet to your girlfriend.