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Strange as hell text message, please translate.
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So here i am, 26 and thinking i have long ago escaped the strange mists of college plays and flirting and getting game on, when i receive this message:
"________my name____________
, I SWEAR I WON'T TEXT YOU AGAIN BECAUSE YOU NEVER REPLY MY TEXT WHICH MAKES ME FEEL THAT I BOTHER YOU WHENEVER I TEXT YOU. DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG OR SOMETHING THAT MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE? IF SO, JUST LET ME KNOW THEN I WON'T DO THAT TO YOU AGAIN OR TO OTHER PEOPLE. SOMETIMES, I JUST WANT A CASUAL TALK TO YOU BUT IT'S JUST SO HARD 'CAUSE IT SEEMS THAT YOU WANT TO KEEP A DISTANCE FROM ME SO THAT I COULDN'T TALK TO YOU LIKE TO OTHER PEOPLE. HMM, MAYBE I FAIL TO BE A FRIENDLY PERSON, AT LEAST TO YOU. YOU DON'T NEED TO TO REPLY THIS MESSAGE IF YOU DON'T WANT. HOPEFULLY, I WRITE THIS TO MAKE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE."
yes, tiz all caps lock
Here is the thing, i texted this girl today for her to come over to my office/studio for graduate school, she came over and we hung out. She was looking around for some artist materials for architectural model making. I had tons of that kind of stuff left over from grad school and so i gave it all to her. All and all its pretty expensive stuff once you tally it all up. So she came over, i gave it to her. She started to chat it up with some other friends in my studio (she knows everyone in my place), and in the mean time i took off to grab something to eat and drink as this week is the end of the quarter and i had assumed that she was busy the rest of the night. Apparently that was a mistake. I came home and i had received this caps lock madness in both a cell phone text as well as over facebook. As i am somewhat dense, could someone translate just what it means when a lady cyber yells at you?
disclaimer: i do respond to her texts, but i cannot respond to every single one as she is one of those crazy people that texts you about once every 10 minutes
"________my name____________
, I SWEAR I WON'T TEXT YOU AGAIN BECAUSE YOU NEVER REPLY MY TEXT WHICH MAKES ME FEEL THAT I BOTHER YOU WHENEVER I TEXT YOU. DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG OR SOMETHING THAT MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE? IF SO, JUST LET ME KNOW THEN I WON'T DO THAT TO YOU AGAIN OR TO OTHER PEOPLE. SOMETIMES, I JUST WANT A CASUAL TALK TO YOU BUT IT'S JUST SO HARD 'CAUSE IT SEEMS THAT YOU WANT TO KEEP A DISTANCE FROM ME SO THAT I COULDN'T TALK TO YOU LIKE TO OTHER PEOPLE. HMM, MAYBE I FAIL TO BE A FRIENDLY PERSON, AT LEAST TO YOU. YOU DON'T NEED TO TO REPLY THIS MESSAGE IF YOU DON'T WANT. HOPEFULLY, I WRITE THIS TO MAKE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE."yes, tiz all caps lock
Here is the thing, i texted this girl today for her to come over to my office/studio for graduate school, she came over and we hung out. She was looking around for some artist materials for architectural model making. I had tons of that kind of stuff left over from grad school and so i gave it all to her. All and all its pretty expensive stuff once you tally it all up. So she came over, i gave it to her. She started to chat it up with some other friends in my studio (she knows everyone in my place), and in the mean time i took off to grab something to eat and drink as this week is the end of the quarter and i had assumed that she was busy the rest of the night. Apparently that was a mistake. I came home and i had received this caps lock madness in both a cell phone text as well as over facebook. As i am somewhat dense, could someone translate just what it means when a lady cyber yells at you?
disclaimer: i do respond to her texts, but i cannot respond to every single one as she is one of those crazy people that texts you about once every 10 minutes
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*None of this applies if you are dating or sleeping with this girl. If that is the case, you have a whole set of other problems.
just resume talking like normal or run far far away
What happened to a face-to-face conversation? Or god forbid a phone call.
Thank you, Rubacava!
I wish i knew, the bar i went to was a block away from her place she could have just called.
And no i am not sleeping with her.
And free art supplies basically means.... well, free art supplies. when i told her i had free art supplies i didnt just tell her, but i told just about everyone i know who isnt graduating.
so the consensus is run, ok then, i think i can live with that
Thank you, Rubacava!
Some people when they have feelings towards others will do some crazy shit to try and get some validation from the other person...
To me this reads as someone who's in to you, and possibly wants to be more than a friend. The tricky bit here however is that she's most likely of the personality type where sorting through social interactions is a bitch. I know personally that I cannot read peoples expressions or detect sarcasm properly, and my sarcasm is very hard to pick up on, let alone my jokes being awkward.
I would be cautious, if you're not interested in her then just tell her, and phrase things in a way that will bring her closure on things...
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Hmm, she might end up suing you too. Better get evidence of all of the text messages and facebook messages before you delete em. Might need them someday in court.
Also get it in writing that you gave her the art items she might try to spin it and say you promised to buy them but never did.
I get the feeling something traumatic has happened to you to make you this cynical
:P
Yeah. He got sued by his ex funnily enough.
I would distance yourself. Even if she isn't a big ol bucket of crazy relationships between the kind of person that likes lots of contact and people who don't never work out for obvious reasons.
Yeah I think Kalkino knew that.
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I wouldn't necessarily make that assumption. Even with the advent of T9 and predictive keyboards and all that jazz, people seem to go out of their way to ignore it for text messaging.
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Or she could be crazy.
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That is a bucket of crazy.
If you want real answers just call her and ask her what the hell that meant and that texting is a pain in the ass for real conversations.
Or you can just....
Or if you're freaked out and think it's uncomfortable, you can ignore her or just send a text back saying "Sorry, didn't realize you were into me, I don't think of you that way but we can still be friends."
Ball's in your court.
I do think there's a tendency here to see girls as either being 'okay to date' or 'crazy bitch, stay away'. People are complicated and emotional. Girls tend to express that more often than guys, and this sounds like she just wanted to let her brain spill out into a text.
It may be that she likes you, and she's taking you giving her a very expensive gift as confirmation that you like her as well. But everything else points otherwise - she'll be thinking that if you like her, why aren't you talking to her more often? Why did you disappear so suddenly the other night? Was it something she did? Then, that escalates.
These aren't crazy thought processes at all, they're perfectly normal. Everyone overthinks relationships or potential relationships, and giving away some very expensive artist materials to someone who can use them well is a pretty strong signal. She knows that you share similar interests, that you were kind to her at great personal expense, and that's enough. Does she know that you offered it to everyone?
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Was the girl crazy? Prolly a little, but that's not the point. To this girl, a cell isn't a device, it's like some kind of external implant. Her whole day is spent in constant communication. She doesn't get that maybe other people (ones outside her social circle) don't do that. She had real anxiety about not being in enough contact with the people around her. I think with the plethora of instant messaging devices, this sort of expectation is becoming more and more common, and the more hardcore peeps are like, really hardcore.
So mebbe not as crazy as you might think, just part of a different culture with a different style and different expectations. Try setting some different expectations, and see if she 'gets it'. If not, and you've explained yourself honestly and clearly, gtfo. Irresolvable differences come in all shapes and sizes.
Right. All I meant is that some of the parts of her message are strongly reminiscent of a lot of my friends who aren't quite fluent in English. Things like:
It's not that there's anything wrong with her grammar or use of words, just that there are certain grammar patterns non-native speakers tend to adhere to more often, and these remind me of that.
Of course, the point is that if English isn't her first language, there's very likely also a cultural aspect to this misunderstanding.
Some of you guys are crazy - its not as if you have never been in a weird socially awkward situation.
Thank you, Rubacava!
Alternatively: she's fucking nuts