So I have this friend...

mfrogg

I'll start this like a typical post:

I have a friend. This friend is incredibly embarrased about his problem. This friend is afriad of being identified, so he asked me to post for him.

He says he can't get off via oral sex. He wants to know if there's something wrong with him. He states he likes recieving 'a whole lot' - but after a few minutes, "I just lose interest."

Thoughts?

iTunesIsEvil

There's absolutely nothing wrong with him.

It took me quite a while with my then-girlfriend (we're talking like 3 years) to actually be able to get off via oral sex. And I've always felt she's quite good at it, so it wasn't a "she was doing it wrong for a long time" kind of thing. It was my inability to relax and just enjoy what was happening, and to this day I don't know what exactly it was that caused it to click for me. I know I was a little tipsy the night it clicked, and was kind of excited/worried about getting caught, but from that night on I've never had an issue with "losing interest" in the oral sex department.

Szechuanosaurus

Some people just don't get off on oral sex. Don't worry about it, you're perfectly normal.

I mean, your friend is perfectly normal.

Post Blue

Don't discount the possibility that she might just be terrible at it.

Improvolone

Post Blue wrote: »

Don't discount the possibility that she might just be terrible at it.

I didn't perform a huge cross section of the population, but only a couple of girls have been able to get me off without just their mouth and hands.
Does he still enjoy it?

Forar

There is nothing wrong with him. Different things work (or don't work) for different people, and as long as he's enjoying himself (and isn't just leaving his partner down there until their jaw feels like it's going to fall off), he should worry about it less and enjoy his blowjob more.

Casual

I think always blowing your load from oral sex is another one of those "porno myths". I had this discussion with my friends once, I've never got off from oral sex and neither have any of them. I think most guys require something a little bit more forceful to get there.

Raiden333

Plus a lot of people are used to a rapidly moving vise grip from taking care of themselves for so long, and don't associate the more gentle feeling with being able to finish.

Shawnasee

For the longest time I didn't let chicks go down on me because I thought it was disrespectful to them.
Where that idea came from I have no idea but I got over it fairly quickly.

For the longest time after that I could not get off because where would it go? Her hair? Her mouth? Ewww. Poor girl.
I got over that fairly quickly too. :winky:

Yeah, nothing wrong with your 'friend'. If his gf/spouse doesn't mind going down on him after they have sex, he might be able to get off if he gets close to climax during penetration and then lets her go down on him.

xeviq

It can take up to an hour to finish when a girl goes down on me.
Unless she uses her hands, then it can take 5-10 mins.

Kistra

Casual wrote: »

I think always blowing your load from oral sex is another one of those "porno myths". I had this discussion with my friends once, I've never got off from oral sex and neither have any of them. I think most guys require something a little bit more forceful to get there.

Trust me there are guys out there that get off from oral sex. I haven't exactly done a large study but I haven't ever encountered one that didn't.

But I don't think there is anything wrong with your 'friend'. Lots of guys like to be doing something as well while they get off, my husband is like that.

darkmayo

alot of factors involved.
Might not do it for him, thats fine its normal no worries.

She might suck at it. Whoever said even a bad blowjob is good is full of shit.

Is the girl really into it?
Its a turn off getting head by someone who is just going through the motion and doesnt actually enjoy doing it.

I've had partners that might not have had the best technique but my god did they love doing it and made it quite clear verbally and by how they acted.

Fireflash

I rarely ever got off from a bj. There are various factors that may cause this but for me it's the fact that I don't enjoy myself much when I'm just being passive and receiving pleasure. I have to be doing something.

Sheep

mfrogg wrote: »

I'll start this like a typical post:

I have a friend. This friend is incredibly embarrased about his problem. This friend is afriad of being identified, so he asked me to post for him.

He says he can't get off via oral sex. He wants to know if there's something wrong with him. He states he likes recieving 'a whole lot' - but after a few minutes, "I just lose interest."

Thoughts?

Me and most guys I know have the same problem. Love it, but can never get there.

dispatch.o

mfrogg wrote: »

I'll start this like a typical post:

I have a friend. This friend is incredibly embarrased about his problem. This friend is afriad of being identified, so he asked me to post for him.

He says he can't get off via oral sex. He wants to know if there's something wrong with him. He states he likes recieving 'a whole lot' - but after a few minutes, "I just lose interest."

Thoughts?

Also, I know that any sort of breeze will kill it for me like instantly. Wind-chill is a big no-go good buddy.

DusT_HounD

Here's a weird one, but i went out with a girl for a while who had quite a good technique, but also this habit of cupping my balls with her hand. Fair enough, you might say, but for whatever reason, i always thought it was too warm, so found myself unable to concentrate on everything else she was doing, therefore never really enjoyed having her go down on me. Strange, non?

Preacher

Its not exactly a bad thing to not get off to Oral sex, I mean then you don't have to worry about the spit or swallow question. It's not uncommon to not have an oral orgasm, but are you giving suggestions to your partner? The best way to get what you want is to tell her what works and what doesn't.

Dixon

Didn't realise so many people couldn't get off to it. I don't really have a problem with oral, I can't get off if I'm doing it at the same time - a la 69 - but other then that it's not to bad...well it's awesome actually :P

Leggraphics

some people are less sensitive than others. Sometimes its hard to even feel someone is touching you let alone if they are trying to be 'soft'. get them to help you if you like or tell them what to do. Get them to use a hand as well as their mouth or be a little more firm.

If you stop touching yourself it will also increase sensitivity a bit but only to a certain extent.

One more note- If you area not comfortable receiving it then you wont get in the right state of mind.

MindLib

It takes me a long time if ever to get off from oral-sex. Usually my girlfriend gets annoyed and gives up. It pisses me off a little, but she's not really into the whole cum belongs near the face thing anyway. A fuck-buddy I used to hang with considered it a challenge, still only happened once in awhile but when it did, oh man.

Shawnasee

It is an amazing feeling.