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Girl Thread (swear to god it's not about the crazy girl)
Penguin_Otaku
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A friend and me made late plans, I asked her via text the night before when I was at another concert to go to a music festival in Tulsa. This girl and I don't know each other all that well we've just hung out one time before at dinner with friends.
I initially thought she was cute, but figured I wouldn't try anything because she's more ingrained in a new group of a friends I've become a part of and didn't want to weird her out or anything. The ride up there we talk a lot without any problems and she laughs at lot at my jokes (which is surprising because not a lot of people 'get' my humor). We get there there and proceed to get drunk and listen to great music.
As we're going through a crowd to get closer to one of the stages she grabs my hand so we don't lose each other. I'm not sure if she did this with our other friend who was with us or not but it kind of felt affectionate. As the night went on there were other opportunities where she grabbed my hand as I led the way through the crowd. The last instance was when she was sitting on the ground and wanted me to help her up, I did and I kind of let the hold linger a bit, she did it and we both let go.
Now I'm probably exaggerating/getting too worked up over this but I just want to hear it from someone else. It was probably just the alcohol, she probably just didn't want to get lost in the crowd, and probably just wanted someone to help her get up.
Also, her best friend/roommate is someone who I hooked up with my freshman year and a person of which I have not had the most stellar relationship with. So I'm sure at some point I've been brought up and painted in a negative light (though it hasn't seemed to carry over. We've really made no mention of this other person.)
I really don't wanna make things awkward, because she's a person I could go the relationship route with or the really good friend route with.
Anyway, enlighten me on how socially retarded I am. Bear in mind that I haven't really been looking for someone else for 4 years now so I can't quite remember how this works, aka I haven't really done it since high school slash this is me seeking my first college relationship.
Thanks.
I initially thought she was cute, but figured I wouldn't try anything because she's more ingrained in a new group of a friends I've become a part of and didn't want to weird her out or anything. The ride up there we talk a lot without any problems and she laughs at lot at my jokes (which is surprising because not a lot of people 'get' my humor). We get there there and proceed to get drunk and listen to great music.
As we're going through a crowd to get closer to one of the stages she grabs my hand so we don't lose each other. I'm not sure if she did this with our other friend who was with us or not but it kind of felt affectionate. As the night went on there were other opportunities where she grabbed my hand as I led the way through the crowd. The last instance was when she was sitting on the ground and wanted me to help her up, I did and I kind of let the hold linger a bit, she did it and we both let go.
Now I'm probably exaggerating/getting too worked up over this but I just want to hear it from someone else. It was probably just the alcohol, she probably just didn't want to get lost in the crowd, and probably just wanted someone to help her get up.
Also, her best friend/roommate is someone who I hooked up with my freshman year and a person of which I have not had the most stellar relationship with. So I'm sure at some point I've been brought up and painted in a negative light (though it hasn't seemed to carry over. We've really made no mention of this other person.)
I really don't wanna make things awkward, because she's a person I could go the relationship route with or the really good friend route with.
Anyway, enlighten me on how socially retarded I am. Bear in mind that I haven't really been looking for someone else for 4 years now so I can't quite remember how this works, aka I haven't really done it since high school slash this is me seeking my first college relationship.
Thanks.
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Seriously, that's all you need to know. You're not going to make things awkward. Ask her out.
Here's some friendly advice: Never let that be a factor in any decision you ever make. If you try and fail you go home with some hurt pride, but you'll get over it and laugh it off in your head in time. If you DON'T try and fail, you just go home feeling like a pussy and believe me that is a MUCH worse feeling.
Calm down. Ask her out. Go from there. You guys were drinking. That can either amplify existing feelings or just lower inhibitions. Relax.
Become a priest then ask her out.
Just ask her out man.
Bitches love Clerics.
You give the best advice.
If you don't make it awkward then there's a much higher chance of her doing the same, which would be best for everyone in the case of a rejection.
You'll have the element of surprise working for you.
Anyways, thanks guys. Much appreciated.
;-)
This does not mean she likes you.
I have a great many female friends (90%) and they're all pretty touchy. This just means they're comfortable, not that they want to date you.
Hang out a few more times in non-alcohol based situations and feel it out a bit more. Depending on the girl you can VERY MUCH make any future situations awkward by asking her out now.
Hell, if you're really interested ask her out, I guess.. but know that you run the risk of becoming 'that guy'.. you know, the one who's alienated every female friend he ever had because she was being friendly.
Although I would say that if you were to simply call the person up (or worse, text them) and ask them out on a date, they're more likely to think that it's weird. If someone you're meeting in social situations has never really interacted with you, then it's typically best to wait until the next social interaction and flirt with them a bit more openly. Or, at the very least, talk to friends of the person to see if you can have them facilitate in some way.
They've hung out once one on one. And they were both drunk. And she was maybe flirty.
This is not reason to ask her out on a date.
Like I said before, go out with her on a friendship level again and see what happens. Do not base any decisions off of booze. You're an idiot if you do.
They've hung out once one on one. And they were both drunk. And she was maybe flirty.
This is not reason to ask her out on a date.
Like I said before, go out with her on a friendship level again and see what happens. Do not base any decisions off of booze. You're an idiot if you do.
I agree with you that the OP shouldn't read anything at all into what went down previously, but that does not mean he shouldn't ask her out ASAP.
Generally speaking, the rule of thumb is this: If you're interested, ask her out. If you're not, don't. Unless she's giving you clear signals that your interest would be unwelcome or offensive, you are not out of line expressing interest of your own.
It's not like you're violating her by asking her out. Geez.
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He should just ask her out to keep himself sane and stop this whole wondering about signal things.
Passive-aggressively probe her verbal responses, analysing and reanalysing everything she says and does. Remember, the world and consequently hers revolves around you, and her attraction or repulsion towards or from you thereof. Get her MSN or Facebook and suck up mercilessly. You may also get her mobile, but only for texting purposes - she does NOT want to hear your voice intruding on her at some vital time. Let the poetry and angst build up within you, expressing it in written form in a hidden diary somewhere, or an anonymous blog, or just keep it tightly within and curl up into a foetal position every night, wondering if someday she will realise you are the man for her. Slowly, through a combination of excessive eye contact and the months of awkward conversations, she will realise that you're just playing platonic because you want more but don't have the stones to take the first step, and her derision towards you will materialise in flesh, rather than just in your own psyche.
Or you can ask her the fuck out. There's actually a decent chance she'll say yes.
Ask her out because you're obviously attracted to her and want to see if there's something there. And do yourself the favor of doing it soon or you'll build her up/read into her every action more than you already have.
Totally win right here. I hope you have this saved so you can copy and paste it into every one of these threads we have.
In other words, the ULTIMATE playing-hard-to-get plan. Nice.
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