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Wontgetcaught
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I'm having a pretty embarrassing problem lately in the realm of sexual relations.
I can't uh...Stay "up".
This has happened to me now on three separate occasions, once I thought it was because I had ejaculated a few times over the course of the day.
The second time it was hard, then I'd put on the condom, then I'd go soft. Taking off the condom, I got hard, but could not get in before going soft again.
Today, most recently, I had a tough time getting hard and getting into this girl, and it was quite the embarrassing situation.
I'm 23 years old, and I doubt it has anything to do with my prostate or anything. I don't know if it has something to do with my weight, or masturbation habits?
I can't uh...Stay "up".
This has happened to me now on three separate occasions, once I thought it was because I had ejaculated a few times over the course of the day.
The second time it was hard, then I'd put on the condom, then I'd go soft. Taking off the condom, I got hard, but could not get in before going soft again.
Today, most recently, I had a tough time getting hard and getting into this girl, and it was quite the embarrassing situation.
I'm 23 years old, and I doubt it has anything to do with my prostate or anything. I don't know if it has something to do with my weight, or masturbation habits?
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Weight can have an effect, but its more likely anxiety and jackin it 5 times prior...
If you are overweight, you may want to try losing weight first.
More than likely it's just getting nervous. If you know you aren't nervous then you can always go see a doctor. You might not like the tests they give you, but atleast you'll know one way or the other. Masturbation habits wouldn't really affect keeping it up as much as making it harder to orgasm.
Find out if your allergic to latex, having a reaction to it can actually cause your erection to die. I am so I have to buy hypo allergenic condoms.
Try drinking milk and other foods with beta blockers naturally present in them, beta blockers help to suppress nervous reactions so they can be very useful.
Keep in mind that an average male can get hard dozens of times and orgasm dozens of times a day without problem, so masturbation probably has little to do with you going 'soft'. But abstaining from masturbation can increase your labido and thus your ability to keep hard (if detrimental to your stamina).
Don't drink alcohol when you're planning on having sex, or restrict yourself. Some people say alcohol is a great thing for this but in reality it only makes it harder to get harder. If you must attempt to restrict yourself to red wines which can have an opposite effect of most alcohols. Alcohol only makes it easier to get in her pants not yours.
An unorthodox but effective approach is to attempt 'male kegeling'. Both men and women have the same pelvic floor muscle. In women it greatly affects the 'tightness' of their vagina. Though in both sexes it's primary function is to close the uninary tract after peeing. As a man you can get a feel for where this muscle is and the difficulty in using it (initially) by interupting your urination mid stream, by practicing this you can immensely strengthen the pelvic floor muscle, and once you figure out which muscle to flex you can practice any time durring the day. This muscle almost certainly will then contribute to stronger erections, longer orgasm distances (if you measure that sort of thing) and better stamina, if you strengthen it to the point of being able to stop your orgasm itself you can also find the holy grail of male sexual arousal, the male multiple orgasm.
If nothing else has worked you can attempt smoking marijuana. Most people experience a huge jump in labido with marijuana and sex is amazing while high. Marijuana also helps block anxiety and nervousness which I think is probably your major problem.
Finally if nothing else you might have early onset E.D. Talk to your doctor. Though I'm pretty sure you're just over thinking the whole thing.
start jogging, dude.
Do you have problems when your by yourself?
Any more info on this? Do you have a list of foods? I tried to google for foods high in beta blockers; but it all came up with drugs or heart disease information and couldn't find a list of foods that contain [?], produce[?] beta blockers.
It's specifically calcium. Some bitter leafy green vegetables have high amounts orange juice (with calcium) as well. Not to mention there's natural calming chemicals is many herbs, turkey etc.
Scientifics and vitamins aside, that might just be the problem.
Do you have a creditable source? I searched google twice and could find any information about "foods high in beta blockers". Maybe my google-fu isn't what it used to be; but it's odd that I can't find 1 link after search 10 pages.
Also it's strange that wikis 'Beta Blocker' page doesn't have any information what so ever about food.
I really wouldn't know where to get your hands on a credible source besides digging pretty deep in biomechanics. Calcium is used to propegate the action potential of neurons, calcium outside of the neurons creates a beta blocking effect by slowing down and minimalizing the action potential of the neuron which has the same effect as a beta blocker inhibiting the agitation of b1, b2, b3 receptors. This only is applicable to muscle to neuron connections though as very little calcium comes in direct contact with the central nervous system hence it doesn't impair your ability to think it just helps keep your body calm. A calm body often reflects a calm mind, or at the very least allows you to perform cooly even if your head is going crazy.
You might have more luck searching anti-anxiety properties of calcium or anti-anxiety diets. It's also possible it's not classified as a beta blocker because it inhibits the stimulus indirectly rather than the way most beta blockers work but the effect is the same (suppression of jerky movements i.e nervous reactions). If you can't you'll simply have to take my word on it. Milk also contains levels of tryptophan which exerts calming properties but I doubt you'd notice them.
Have a couple sessions where sex isn't even on the table. Where you have the condom nearby but the emphasis is about pleasing each other in some other way. Oral only, maybe. This will help you stop being nervous because you won't have the pressure of performing.
Secret Satan
I was with a girl for a few months, we were having an insane amount of sex and on he day she had to hit the airport to leave we were naked and I wasn't getting hard. I totally got a little bit of the worries that its not working, maybe it won't work later etc. But, It was totally just the anxiety of knowing she was leaving (even though we weren't in love). After a while of playing and forcing myself to relax I got really hard from sticking a finger in her and just focusing on how sexy that is.
So do something engaging that is sexy and will require some attention and I'm sure you'll get a nice diamond-hard bone.