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Gift Dilemma.
Lucky Cynic
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Okay, so you guys may or may not know, me and my brother do not necessarily get along the greatest. He's crazy about games, cell phones and DvDs and blows waaaaay too much money on all of them. Well, just to recap, he has a blackberry, about 2 full DvD racks, an Xbox 360, PS3 and Wii. A few weeks ago he asked me if I would like a PSP for christmas, and I said, "I'm more of a Nintendo person, (hint hint...)" Anyways, just today he backed me into the corner. He got me the fucked PSP which I suspect he also got for himself, and now he is suggesting I get him Season six of sopranos which is going for $70+ and is hard to find. Well, I already got him the Lost episodes of Ren & Stimpy on DvD already, but I guess Im going to have to return it for Sopranos, assuming Best Buy has it. I'm going to go to Best Buy as soon as I submit this thread in, but I know my Mom will not let me spend $70 on a single gift.
Thoughts, because Im fucked. I get a system I know I'm going to play maybe 1hour a week max. and screwed out of $70-$100 + tax.
Thoughts, because Im fucked. I get a system I know I'm going to play maybe 1hour a week max. and screwed out of $70-$100 + tax.
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Frankly, I'd say screw it and just give him the Ren & Stimpy DVD. One, that's the gift you originally wanted to give him. Two, he didn't get you what you want, so why get him exactly what he wants, spending way more than you can afford in the process?
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just give him the ren and stimpy DVDs
seriously, i wouldn't let a prick like that handle me, even if it was my own brother. especially if it was my own brother.
Well, He is a a real grade A prick. I must tell you. Let me continue on with the story. Well, he told me that this was simply 'Part 1' of my full Christmas gift. I also called the PSP "a waste of money." I also cannot sell the PSP because he would kill me because he did buy it for himself. Thankfully, I went to Best Buy, and they didnt have the DvD. He then promply called them up and they said that they didnt, even though he asked them earlier if they did, which they did.
Fun Fact: He had the PSP 2 days before giving it to me. He said he "tested it out durring work." Seriously, what the fuck am I going to do. I can't spend $100 on a single gift, nor would I want someone else to do that for me. Also, no, I cannot just talk to my brother. He's got a DC70 for diplomacy and +40 to his intimidate rolls.
Btw, I called the PSP a 'waste of money' back when he asked me about it, not jsut right now.
In any case, I still say give him the DVD you were originally going to give him. He can whine and be a baby about it if he wants, but tough nuts. We don't always get exactly what we want.
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"It plays DvDs, Music, plays games, and everything!
"No it doesn't, it plays retarded UMDs."
Basically, He wanted one, got one, and then said it was for me so he wouldnt have to worry about getting me a christmas gift and look like a good brother while being able to play it any time he wants because he thinks that if he gets me a gift, it should be available to him to play and use 24/7.
Did I mention he Still refuses to play DvDs on the 360, Blu-rays on the PS3? He insists to kick me off of the computer because he doesnt want to 'risk' anything. Seriously, I do not know what to fucking do. I can't go to my parents, he doesn't treat them much better...
As for the PSP, I agree that selling it immediately wouldn't be a good idea, if only for the fact that you want to be more gracious than he is, and selling it would be a bit rude. He sounds finicky enough that he'll lose interest in it in a few months. THAT'S when you sell it and get a DS.
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TL;DR: stop being a pussy, and letting him manipulate you. Man up.
I stood up to him and asked him why he gave it to me opened. I told him I wouldnt be mad if it was a refurbished or used PSP, but he still says he 'wanted to try it out.' and that the 'receipt is in the box, so yes it is for you!' He also was telling me to be careful with it because 'it was going to be the only PSP I got from him." Well duh, people don't jsut go out breaking gifts and then asking for another, and I have no such history of this either. I'm trying to defend myself as best as I can while poking these questions, but I cant just stand up and tell him to screw off. He is just too forcing and I would rather take out $70 from my checking account than take a brute beating.
Give him what you got em. He didn't listen to you about the DS, so don't listen to him about his damn Soprano DVD.
do you want to be a big floppy wet vagina your whole life when you encounter anybody who gives you a hard time
you seriously need to man up. or else this gift exchange won't be your only problem
However, judging from your posts I don't think you're the kind of guy to do that.
So, accept the PSP graciously - "forget it at a friends house" till he moves on to the next tech thing, then return it and get your DS.
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Secondly you are under no obligation to spend any amount of money on anyone just because they spent x amount of money on you, I spent around 220 on my father, I'm not going to spend that much on my mother, not because I don't like her it's just how much her gift that I think she will like will cost.
I too recomend leaving it at a friends house.
Or better yet, just flat out refuse to let him play it because you "don't want to risk anything".
Satans..... hints.....
Erm, I mean, hi!
Seriously dude, why are you *and your mom* putting listening to him, you already bought him a gift, you don't have to follow his advice on what he would like, it's not like he is listening to you.
And you're not gonna spend money on a PSP you don't like, as some sort of silent protest to your brother, that's just silly. If you really want a DS and he gives you the receipt with it, you should just trade it in for a gift you *do* like.
Don't let the bastards grind you down, mang.
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IMO, thats totally not an option. He's family, I have to love him, but I don't have to like him...
Just don't feel compelled to spend a lot on him just because he spent a lot on you/himself.
I still agree with everyone who's said to give him the Ren and Stimpy DVD (even if you have to rebuy it) and he can sod off with the Sopranos. As for the PSP, your plan on that seems to be pretty good.
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Love isn't shown through gifts. When you like someone, you get them gifts. When you love someone, you do things like give up a kidney for them or y'know, push them out of the way of a speeding car. I sometimes don't get gifts my brother either, doesn't mean I won't give him a kidney if he ever needs it.
Yeah, what the fuck. Christmas isn't (or at least, shouldn't be) an opportunity for blackmail. You get him whatever the hell you want to, he gets you whatever the hell he wants to. Sure, you give people suggestions of things you'd like, but you don't force people to buy you things and you don't buy people revenge presents just because they didn't buy what you wanted.
If he'd bought you what you wanted, he might have set a precedence for you getting him what he wants. As it is, you get him whatever you can afford and whatever you'd like to get him. Put the PSP completely out of your mind. Put the fact that he's a total dick completely out of your mind. Imagine that he's a regular brother and you have no idea what he's bought you, how much he's spent or what his motives were and then buy him the present you'd buy him under those circumstances. Because frankly, he's lucky you're getting him anything.
You sound like you're on a budget. Fine. Take the PSP (since neither you nor he desire such a trinket) sell it, return it, whatever. Take the cash, buy him his damned Sopranos and stick the remaining money in his stocking. Tell him that if he wants something that much, then he needs to buy it himself. This is a gift-giving season, not a cater-to-my-whim season. And since he's bigger and more crafty (as you say) this will let him know that the bullying stops here. 'Cause that's all this is: bullying and emotional blackmail.
I get frustrated when people do this kind of thing and even more so when people just take it. So, I'm sorry if you feel bad about treating your sibling like crap, but he's treating you like utter dogshit. Take it at face value.
If you keep caving in to him and doing what he tells you to do, you will never break the cycle of dominance that this man seems to have over you and your parents.
And are you seriously worried about him beating you up? Isn't he like 26 and you are something like 15? I fail to comprehend that a grown man would beat up on his kid brother in his parents' house.
I think you need to stop bending over for this kid, or you're going to end up in therapy in a few years trying to work out your trust and independence issues.
Also, I can't remember the other threads, but you seem to be taking no advice at all from this thread. You merely pepper the thread with posts about how you're going to ultimately give him.
Sorry if this is harsh, but god damn, man, stand up to this dude.
EDIT: What darth waiter said too, we posted at the same time.
This has happened before?!? Shit, OP, get your ass in gear. I'm 29 and I have a 15 carbon copy of me for a brother. If he doesn't appreciate you or respect you, it won't stop. Counseling or therapy is imminent unless you tell him what's up. I'm not advocating violence, but I am advocating some sort of sitdown where no one interrupts you. Write it down and read it out loud during some sort of family gathering and embarass the hell out of him. DO SOMETHING! 26 picking on 15 isn't jovial family bonding; it's abuse and it means that there's something lacking in his life. So, what does he do? He takes it out on you.
It'll get worse and before you know it, somebody will be in jail because they were trying to prove how tough they are. And three guesses who that's gonna be?