Like, this one guy I was talking to didn't mention that he has a boyfriend of a couple years that he wanted me to have a threeway with or that he wanted me to pee in his mouth until we had been talking for about a month. How do you even respond to that?
I think what I said was "well I've been eating a lot of broccoli this week"
but people like people they feel like they can relate to
and a guy whose entire damn profile is warhammer 40K based or HEY VIDEOGAMES is significantly less relatable
unfold in the messages, in the subsequent dates
but pitching out all your crazy and your nerd right there in the profile means you're going to get significantly less messages and replies AT ALL, and it doesn't necessitate that the people who do are going to be somehow "better"
they might just be more desperate
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Like, this one guy I was talking to didn't mention that he has a boyfriend of a couple years that he wanted me to have a threeway with or that he wanted me to pee in his mouth until we had been talking for about a month. How do you even respond to that?
I think what I said was "well I've been eating a lot of broccoli this week"
Asparagus is grosser
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Viv, should I put a list of video games I like on my profile? Is this a good idea? We all would like to know, I think.
my first response to this was "shit, I do" but I guess it would be unfair of me to give you that answer because, let's face it... girls who admit they like games snag guys more easily than the reverse
whether or not you should put an interest on your profile depends on two things... one, what is your goal? do you want to be accessible so that you can get a girl interested enough to meet you and then reveal the rest of your personality as you guys date? OR do you want to only attract girls who share your key interests and go from there?
two, how important is this interest to you?
if you're looking for a girl who is into video games, then yes, absolutely, list games you like... and spread the titles around to cover various genres
if you don't care if a girl likes video games or not, make a solid mention of video games as an interest but don't bother listing them... if she's into games, she'll ask you what you like
if you are just trying to be accessible, just mentioning video games as an interest in passing... most guys (nerds and jocks alike, if you want to use those terms) nowadays do play some form of video game so it's not like she's going to be all "EW HE PLAYS VIDEO GAMES"... and if she is well too bad for her she missed out
basically it comes down to your own priorities in terms of the person you want to attract and how accessible you want to be to them
Like, this one guy I was talking to didn't mention that he has a boyfriend of a couple years that he wanted me to have a threeway with or that he wanted me to pee in his mouth until we had been talking for about a month. How do you even respond to that?
I think what I said was "well I've been eating a lot of broccoli this week"
Asparagus is grosser
I love asparagus, but I had been eating a lot of broccoli. This was an actual thing that happened to me. This is the world I live in.
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but people like people they feel like they can relate to
and a guy whose entire damn profile is warhammer 40K based or HEY VIDEOGAMES is significantly less relatable
unfold in the messages, in the subsequent dates
but pitching out all your crazy and your nerd right there in the profile means you're going to get significantly less messages and replies AT ALL, and it doesn't necessitate that the people who do are going to be somehow "better"
they might just be more desperate
I don't think this is what she was trying to say
I think it was a more of just because you like something that might be seen as stupid by some people doesn't mean you should hide it.
She wasn't saying turn your profile into a shrine to your Warhammer collection
but people like people they feel like they can relate to
and a guy whose entire damn profile is warhammer 40K based or HEY VIDEOGAMES is significantly less relatable
unfold in the messages, in the subsequent dates
but pitching out all your crazy and your nerd right there in the profile means you're going to get significantly less messages and replies AT ALL, and it doesn't necessitate that the people who do are going to be somehow "better"
they might just be more desperate
like I said, that's on them to decide how upfront they want to be, because it comes down to what they want to do with their OKC profile
I'm just saying, there's no point being ashamed of being nerdy, just like Twilight fans aren't ashamed of being Twilight fans and girls aren't ashamed of being girls
if you want to attract a higher number of messages, then I agree, you want to seem more accessible and relatable
if you want to attract someone more suited to your taste, then you want to put that right there in the profile to filter out those who won't share your interests
there is nothing wrong with either approach; the point of online dating isn't just to meet people, it also offers you a MATCHING tool
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My favorite thing to list in a profile are hidden elements.
Things that are innocuous to the uninitiated, but once you are on the inside you totally understand.
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Like, this one guy I was talking to didn't mention that he has a boyfriend of a couple years that he wanted me to have a threeway with or that he wanted me to pee in his mouth until we had been talking for about a month. How do you even respond to that?
I think what I said was "well I've been eating a lot of broccoli this week"
Asparagus is grosser
I love asparagus, but I had been eating a lot of broccoli. This was an actual thing that happened to me. This is the world I live in.
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yea it seems like you should want a girl with relatively common interests. It doesn't have to be a 1/1 situation, but making a profile as vague and general as possible to get as many potential women as you can is discounting the fact that there are going to be a lot of women out there who are horrible for you.
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Ok serious advice to all: Don't preface your profile with "I don't usually need" or "Am not so sure about" or "Am really weary of" online dating. If you're ashamed to be turning to OKC you shouldn't have a profile on it.
Besides, trying to pick someone up on the internet is not even half as depressing as trying to pick someone up in a bar.
Ok serious advice to all: Don't preface your profile with "I don't usually need" or "Am not so sure about" or "Am really weary of" online dating. If you're ashamed to be turning to OKC you shouldn't have a profile on it.
yes
absofuckinglutely
if you treat OKC or online dating or any sort of dating with a defeatist attitude, it will only hand it right back to you
my god being a good writer couldn't have any connection to editing a profile
nope, no way
no way no how I could use that skill to pare down boring things and trite things and shitty things
you are right, these two tasks are completely incompatible
But you're giving criticisms of the content, not the form.
Annie makes a good point here, sir
writing well means knowing how to write to a specific audience
and in this case, that audience is your average okcupid lady
the idea that you single out an okcupid lady as being a specific sort of lady makes me doubt your familiarity with your audience
but that could just be semantics
people are on OKC for different reasons... some are looking for a date, some are looking for sex, and some are looking for that one similarly quirky personality they haven't been able to find in their area
There are 5 obscure pop-culture jokes in my profile. One of them totally ruins the flow of the page, but the rest come off pretty normal. It makes my day when a guy messages me and comments about one of them.
my god being a good writer couldn't have any connection to editing a profile
nope, no way
no way no how I could use that skill to pare down boring things and trite things and shitty things
you are right, these two tasks are completely incompatible
But you're giving criticisms of the content, not the form.
Annie makes a good point here, sir
writing well means knowing how to write to a specific audience
and in this case, that audience is your average okcupid lady
the idea that you single out an okcupid lady as being a specific sort of lady makes me doubt your familiarity with your audience
but that could just be semantics
people are on OKC for different reasons... some are looking for a date, some are looking for sex, and some are looking for that one similarly quirky personality they haven't been able to find in their area
There are 5 obscure pop-culture jokes in my profile. One of them totally ruins the flow of the page, but the rest come off pretty normal. It makes my day when a guy messages me and comments about one of them.
There are 5 obscure pop-culture jokes in my profile. One of them totally ruins the flow of the page, but the rest come off pretty normal. It makes my day when a guy messages me and comments about one of them.
the more attractive traits you display and the less unattractive ones the more successful you will be?!?!?!
Well yeah but the point is an attractive trait is subjective, and ridiculously so. You've of course got a bunch of generally attractive traits that you can pretty much assume 90% of everyone wants, but if you build a profile based on all of those you are essentially building a Ken (or Barbie) doll.
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the more attractive traits you display and the less unattractive ones the more successful you will be?!?!?!
Well yeah but the point is an attractive trait is subjective, and ridiculously so. You've of course got a bunch of generally attractive traits that you can pretty much assume 90% of everyone wants, but if you build a profile based on all of those you are essentially building a Ken (or Barbie) doll.
i come from the platonic school of picking up women
There are 5 obscure pop-culture jokes in my profile. One of them totally ruins the flow of the page, but the rest come off pretty normal. It makes my day when a guy messages me and comments about one of them.
It's like a test.
If you get all 5 of them you win a prize.
This is actually true. I mention under one of my profile photos that if people can identify the lady in the picture with me I will go on a date with them, no questions asked. It is this lady
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I think what I said was "well I've been eating a lot of broccoli this week"
but people like people they feel like they can relate to
and a guy whose entire damn profile is warhammer 40K based or HEY VIDEOGAMES is significantly less relatable
unfold in the messages, in the subsequent dates
but pitching out all your crazy and your nerd right there in the profile means you're going to get significantly less messages and replies AT ALL, and it doesn't necessitate that the people who do are going to be somehow "better"
they might just be more desperate
Nah
The profile should just be full of potential conversation starters
"Oh you like ska? I love ska too! Who are your favorite bands"
"Oh you like video games? So do I! What kind of video games do you like"
Asparagus is grosser
my first response to this was "shit, I do" but I guess it would be unfair of me to give you that answer because, let's face it... girls who admit they like games snag guys more easily than the reverse
whether or not you should put an interest on your profile depends on two things... one, what is your goal? do you want to be accessible so that you can get a girl interested enough to meet you and then reveal the rest of your personality as you guys date? OR do you want to only attract girls who share your key interests and go from there?
two, how important is this interest to you?
if you're looking for a girl who is into video games, then yes, absolutely, list games you like... and spread the titles around to cover various genres
if you don't care if a girl likes video games or not, make a solid mention of video games as an interest but don't bother listing them... if she's into games, she'll ask you what you like
if you are just trying to be accessible, just mentioning video games as an interest in passing... most guys (nerds and jocks alike, if you want to use those terms) nowadays do play some form of video game so it's not like she's going to be all "EW HE PLAYS VIDEO GAMES"... and if she is well too bad for her she missed out
basically it comes down to your own priorities in terms of the person you want to attract and how accessible you want to be to them
I love asparagus, but I had been eating a lot of broccoli. This was an actual thing that happened to me. This is the world I live in.
Single parents, fat chicks, black chicks. Going down the list of my unprovoked messages, you can fit 90% of them into one of those three categories.
I don't think this is what she was trying to say
I think it was a more of just because you like something that might be seen as stupid by some people doesn't mean you should hide it.
She wasn't saying turn your profile into a shrine to your Warhammer collection
like I said, that's on them to decide how upfront they want to be, because it comes down to what they want to do with their OKC profile
I'm just saying, there's no point being ashamed of being nerdy, just like Twilight fans aren't ashamed of being Twilight fans and girls aren't ashamed of being girls
if you want to attract a higher number of messages, then I agree, you want to seem more accessible and relatable
if you want to attract someone more suited to your taste, then you want to put that right there in the profile to filter out those who won't share your interests
there is nothing wrong with either approach; the point of online dating isn't just to meet people, it also offers you a MATCHING tool
Things that are innocuous to the uninitiated, but once you are on the inside you totally understand.
heyo!
But you're giving criticisms of the content, not the form.
San Diego
You'll never find a more wretched hive of scum and panda bears
Besides, trying to pick someone up on the internet is not even half as depressing as trying to pick someone up in a bar.
Annie makes a good point here, sir
yes
absofuckinglutely
if you treat OKC or online dating or any sort of dating with a defeatist attitude, it will only hand it right back to you
neither is making it super specific and unrelatable
may we agree that the answer lies somewhere in the middle?
writing well means knowing how to write to a specific audience
and in this case, that audience is your average okcupid lady
the idea that you single out an okcupid lady as being a specific sort of lady makes me doubt your familiarity with your audience
but that could just be semantics
people are on OKC for different reasons... some are looking for a date, some are looking for sex, and some are looking for that one similarly quirky personality they haven't been able to find in their area
yeah but they're all looking
aw jeah
It's like a test.
If you get all 5 of them you win a prize.
Satans..... hints.....
a DATE with FIZ!
A. Not Annie's point
B. You don't know Annie
that's fair enough, but I mean he was talking about one thing being related to another thing when the two things are actually that closely related
but all the same, I apowogize
Well yeah but the point is an attractive trait is subjective, and ridiculously so. You've of course got a bunch of generally attractive traits that you can pretty much assume 90% of everyone wants, but if you build a profile based on all of those you are essentially building a Ken (or Barbie) doll.
i come from the platonic school of picking up women
This is actually true. I mention under one of my profile photos that if people can identify the lady in the picture with me I will go on a date with them, no questions asked. It is this lady
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6iW46WKw3S8
I've had to go on two dates because of that. Guys who were in town for AwesomeCon. Cute, but maybe on the young side for somebody my age
Skull Man isn't writing profiles for people because the whole point of going out and trying to get a date is putting some effort into it
And unless you put some effort into your profile, Skull Man isn't going to help you
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Sigh. I suppose that will have to do.
does that make me a bad person?
not fucking someone cause you don't want herpes makes you a good person