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My underage brother is planning a beer pong tournament
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And not being very discreet about it, advertising it in his twitter/facebook page. It's taking place in our parent's home.
The facts:
He's 20, and for the most part is a good kid. No previous issues with alcohol or the law, etc. Average basically.
I don't live at home anymore. I have an okay relationship with everyone, but I don't really keep in touch, not for some deep dark reason, but mostly cause that's just the way I am.
The question:
Should I do anything about this? I mean, part of me is like "Meh, they're 20 and at least they're doing it at home where it's safe."
But I'm worried about a worst case scenario thing where something goes wrong-wouldn't my mom be responsible/get in trouble for hosting(knowingly or not) underage drinking?
The facts:
He's 20, and for the most part is a good kid. No previous issues with alcohol or the law, etc. Average basically.
I don't live at home anymore. I have an okay relationship with everyone, but I don't really keep in touch, not for some deep dark reason, but mostly cause that's just the way I am.
The question:
Should I do anything about this? I mean, part of me is like "Meh, they're 20 and at least they're doing it at home where it's safe."
But I'm worried about a worst case scenario thing where something goes wrong-wouldn't my mom be responsible/get in trouble for hosting(knowingly or not) underage drinking?
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Otherwise you run the risk of being a meddler.
And yes, the largest thing I'd be worried about is the other people, not him, as your parents would be on the line if someone was drinking underage and, maybe, got into a car accident (or someone got killed, as unfortunate as that'd be). That's jail time just for the letting the minors drink I believe.
This is a bad situation all around, personally, I'd just tell your parents/mother know that you overheard someone talking about it in passing. But, it'll probably just mean he'll sneak around next time. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I mean, it's not like I didn't drink before I was 21. But I always did it elsewhere, not like, in my parent's house. It just seems irresponsible (which admittedly, is sort of par for the course at that age).
Tell your mom, i mean, you never know.
Happened to my cousin; jewelry was stolen, house was trashed..
If he's advertising an underage drinking party on facebook, he's not very bright and deserves to have his plans foiled.
Although I do generally believe that the legal drinking age in the United States should probably be 18, since you can vote and sign-up for the military at that age (which is a different debate altogether), the fact is that it is currently 21 and your sibling is obviously an idiot since he thinks advertising an underage drinking get-together on social sites is a good decision.
One five-minute phone call to your mother/father is probably the best, most hands-off approach that you could take. Assuming, of course, that your parents are at least semi-responsible.
Yeah, you should definitely call your parents. Like, right now.
I don't get kids these days. When I was younger, half the fun of underage drinking was sneaking around with it.
Also, it still boggles me that the drinking age in the US is 21.
It boggles me that I'm a veteran and still can't legally drink
Seriously what the fuck
this. all these wet blankets suggesting you call your mom are blowing it way out of proportion. it's just some kids having fun.
It's not that. It's that it's in his parent's home so anything that happens, they're liable for. If he wants to grow up and get his own place, he can do all the underage drinking he wants there.
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Yeah that's not even close to good advice
It's not being a baby to have concerns over his brother's stupid idea, and additionally that his mom may end up being liable for providing alcohol to minors since it's her home
How about being responsible, and an adult. Both things that his brother clearly isn't, and needs some damn guidance on.
Kids do this. It is far from anything out of the ordinary.
Go ahead and speak with your mother, OP, if you like but please be aware of the backlash that will inevitably fall on you when you screw around with someone else's life. No one likes having their plans ruined, and sometimes plans have to ruin themselves to teach lessons.
There is, of course, a liability issue. There is also the fact that in less than 12 months your brother will be of legal drinking age. If your brother was 16 or even 18 there would be a clear-cut issue. At the age of 20 this is nothing out of the ordinary for someone who is planning a tournament.
Talk to your brother first and gauge if there's a problem. If you get the impression that there will be 400 people in the house, and your brother seems not to be able to handle the scope or intensity of what he created, it'll be far easier to speak to your parents.
Yes, we are all wet blankets for wanting to stop an underage party that the owner doesn't know about, and could be held liable for. God knows nothing happens when people drink. Damn them.
Jesus, it's just a kid having a party.
Edit: Not even a kid! He's 20.
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And what "backlash?" Oh no, my brother didn't get to have a party. In a year he can hold one, legally. Boo hoo for him. He's got a real hard way to go.
A party with liquor that he is legally not able to purchase or imbibe, thus making his parents liable. In a year, he can do as he pleases, though still maybe not in his parents house without their knowledge. If he wants to do it somewhere else, have at it. But the way in which he's doing it, and the location he's chosen are both poor ideas.
It doesn't matter what age he is. He's under 21. The law doesn't care that he's less than 12 months away. It's clear cut if he's 20 years 364 days as it would be if he was 10.
What backlash? His brother will be miffed for a little bit? Who cares? If his brother wants to do adult things, he needs to act like an adult and stop living with his parents, where then the responsibility for said party will fall on his shoulders.
It his parent's house. Thus making it wrong. End of story.
Limed so fucking hard. These aren't 15 year olds watering down daddy's liquor cabinet to fill lines previously established with post it notes. These are 20 year olds pounding natty ice and playing some pong.
What the hell were you guys doing at 20?
OK, in a different light I'd absolutely agree with you
If the FB message said something like "Hey, lets party in my backyard" or "Stupid game night" I'd be likely to let a beer or dozen slide for that
But he advertised in a public manner that he is an underage person having a party for the purpose of getting shitfaced and having binge drinking competitions. Totally different animal.
this seems like some sort of projection thing. damn those kids for having fun drinking while I'm in my basement not doing anything! nobody should be allowed to have fun, ever! this sort of thing doesn't occur all the time or anything!
20 = kid. Especially when booze is involved.
Drinking with friends in my own fucking apartment and not being an idiot to tell the universe I was doing it
The guy is having an underage drinking party at his parents house. The PARENTS are held liable if anything happens.
If he wants to hold a party at his own place (like Esh said), where HE would be liable for anything that happens, then so be it. That's not the case though.
I for sure drank before I was 21. I also had my own apartment at 17.
Again, what all the "Let him do it!" camp are missing is that the OP is concerned about his parent's liability and possible damage to their property, not as to if his brother is getting drunk or not.
Hey, the Mom might know and be ok with it, we don't know this at all.
OP, you know your brother better than anyone, if you think he's getting himself in over his head, make sure your parents are aware. If you think he can take care of himself and is respectful of your parents home, let him know that publicly advertising the party on facebook might get him more attention than he wants.
Easy-Shmeasy.
Yeah for real. He should move out if he wants to party.