Nah, I'm just sayin'. Any time I see a couple 'get back together,' it's fairly toxic. Any negative stuff from their past relationship tends to resurface. Then again, there are plenty of well-adjusted people who can deal with said baggage.
Nah, I'm just sayin'. Any time I see a couple 'get back together,' it's fairly toxic. Any negative stuff from their past relationship tends to resurface. Then again, there are plenty of well-adjusted people who can deal with said baggage.
Thus far, nothing has, and it's been a couple weeks at this point.
Most likely because what had come up previously was really, really stupid stuff which was stress-induced, but enough to mess things up in what was a fledgling relationship in the first place.
We're both well-adjusted, so I could see it working. At the same time, I could see it not, as well. But I think it was obvious we'd both been thinking about one another a fair bit, and we're both still interested, so I'm more than willing to give it another shot.
Then I well and truly wish you two the best. I may be a synical, bitter jerk, but I almost always wanna see two people who are happy together stay that way.
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Yo, Fartacus, you said you paid $75 for a 2 person meal. i'd like to know if that includes any tips/taxes/ alcohol
My parents often pay that much for one person but thats for haute cuisine française and they drink wine like it was water. What did you ate that cost so much?
I'm not critical, just curious
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I'm with Organichu on this. Most restaurants around DC/Baltimore are going to be about $20/plate, and if you're having a good time with someone that means you're probably sitting at the table longer and can do shit like order dessert. Because dessert is fun when you're having a good time. Maybe even a coffee. And hell yeah you get drinks at dinner when you're out with someone that you like.
Sure, if the person's a fug and you just want to eat and run, the bill won't top $50. Some personal stats — my last meal out with the wife for an anniversary was $150, including a bottle of wine and tax and tip. My last anniversary meal that I cooked was easily $75 for the two of us because I got fancy-ass scallops, a nice bottle of wine, and probably made a wine reduction sauce and other shit. We're married and we like each other -- why not live it up?
I think you guys complaining just don't know how to enjoy going out to eat. You do it occasionally, and you make it worthwhile.
I split an $80 tab just this Friday having a casual dinner with a friend at a local sushi place (did not include tip, but did include delicious alcohol). Restaurants be pricey, yo.
I finally dipped my toe back into OKC. Then I remembered why I stopped checking my messages there.
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RentI'm always rightFuckin' deal with itRegistered Userregular
edited November 2010
So I really hit it off I think with this asian girl on okc
At least I'm pretty sure she digs me because she messaged me first etc
So I'm trying to make the convo more personal (we've exchanged like ten messages within like, a day), but I'm kind of at a loss for how to do that
what do y'all suggest I do
I've tried asking her what she likes but her messages are really short and there's not much to go off on there
So I really hit it off I think with this asian girl on okc
At least I'm pretty sure she digs me because she messaged me first etc
So I'm trying to make the convo more personal (we've exchanged like ten messages within like, a day), but I'm kind of at a loss for how to do that
what do y'all suggest I do
I've tried asking her what she likes but her messages are really short and there's not much to go off on there
Rather than try and get more personal via e-mail, why not try and get more personal...personally?
Ask her if she'd want to grab a cuppa sometime and suggest a time/place. Preferably if you can work it into the conversation in some manner, but if not then be relatively blunt about it since it'd just be a coffee date. Or, if you think that you can skip the 'prove you aren't a serial killer and that we'll click' phase ask her to dinner or something.
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edited November 2010
I dunno she literally just started messaging me this morning
I dunno she literally just started messaging me this morning
Isn't that a bit abrupt?
Yes, pretty abrupt.
You need to start communicating via some other channel, like instant messaging or texting. Email will only get you so far, and you really can't get a feel for the other person without having a constant back-and-forth with them.
Especially because I'm not looking for it(I swear!)
But uhh, anyone know any good, free websites meant for casual sex?
I know about the following, that can be used for it
OKC
PoF
CL
Looking for any other free ones with at least a decent userbase, and again, fully free.
Enjoy your Clap/Chlamydia/Hep/Syph
Again, not looking for it. Although I have met girls on PoF and OKC for it, and those turned out great(but seriously, not looking to get laid here, this is a fact finding expedition).
I dunno she literally just started messaging me this morning
Isn't that a bit abrupt?
Get her AIM or something, or if you're feeling adventurous, her telephone number, and chat there for a few hours or what-have-you. Then when you're comfortable talking to one another, ask her to grab some coffee with you.
If you traded a bunch of messages today, I think it's fine to send a message to the effect of "hey, you seem pretty cool, want to get a coffee on saturday?" or whatever.
You did or said something well enough that this person is interested enough to carry on a convo via email with you; an invite to real-life meeting from there isn't that outlandish.
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BeastehTHAT WOULD NOTKILL DRACULARegistered Userregular
edited November 2010
nobody has viewed my profile since october 12th, can anyone give an opinion as to why
nobody has viewed my profile since october 12th, can anyone give an opinion as to why
You haven't updated anything?
The easiest way to get people to check out your profile is to upload a new picture. Re-write your "What I do on Friday Nights" to be "What I did the last 2 Friday Nights". That way you update your profile every week-2 weeks, and it keeps your profile active and refreshing on the girls main pages.
It's funny to me that the thing in my description that attracted dismay and surprise was spending $75 on dinner, but in real life, all my friends thought that was a good deal, but balked at the carriage ride part, to the point where I'm not even mentioning it to anyone who doesn't already know, because everyone's giving me so much shit for it.
I guess my friends are all jaded high-spenders and folks here are cheap dorks
Cheap dorks? Most kids on here are in college, what did you expect?
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
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Cheap dorks? Most kids on here are in college, what did you expect?
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
not a first date, no
Although I have spent that on a first date before
I mean, the plus side is that I get to enjoy the really great food
I would give you shit for the carriage ride but she was into it so whatever. It's a hell of a lot better than a movie. Plus had you done it before? Some of the sappy things like that are OK to do on a date because if you've never done them before you can enjoy it as a new experience. Like "I can't believe I'm on a carriage ride."
Rent: I don't think it's that weird -- she thinks you're cute and apparently has been enjoying the conversation. When you've gone on dates in the past do you say "hey, I was wondering if you'd like to get lunch. What's your email? I'll send you a few messages and after we talk for a bit we can graduate up to IMs, maybe texts, and then we can see what time works for the both of us to get lunch."?
Cheap dorks? Most kids on here are in college, what did you expect?
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
not a first date, no
Although I have spent that on a first date before
I mean, the plus side is that I get to enjoy the really great food
Like people seem to be missing that part
The food is an end unto itself
I'm with you, Fartacus. If the food is really great the entire date seems better. If I were a man of means (instead of a woman of freelance) I'd definitely take girls out to swanky restaurants. Plus, and I don't want to sound like a typical girl who is interested only in money here, but a guy's willingness to spend a few bucks on a date sort of implies that he's invested in the idea of us, that he actually likes me, and isn't just setting up dates with every girl he can find.
Hell, I'd go DUTCH on a really great restaurant as an early date, or first date. I just don't get that many chances to go to a great restaurant, and going there with someone I know isn't going to grouse about prices would be good. I go to this really awesome Tapas place every year that ends up being like $30-35 each ($45-50 with lots of Sangria) and it's one of my favorite things. Live a little.
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So this girl who's profile I like tells people not to message her unless they're "at least kind of a smartass"
She also asks what color the dot she has is,
So I'm thinking:
The color of your dot
...Is red. Of course, you might not actually READ this message because apparently you don't respond to any messages.
Helpful hint, I guess.
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
Cheap dorks? Most kids on here are in college, what did you expect?
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
not a first date, no
Although I have spent that on a first date before
I mean, the plus side is that I get to enjoy the really great food
Like people seem to be missing that part
The food is an end unto itself
I'm with you, Fartacus. If the food is really great the entire date seems better. If I were a man of means (instead of a woman of freelance) I'd definitely take girls out to swanky restaurants. Plus, and I don't want to sound like a typical girl who is interested only in money here, but a guy's willingness to spend a few bucks on a date sort of implies that he's invested in the idea of us, that he actually likes me, and isn't just setting up dates with every girl he can find.
Hell, I'd go DUTCH on a really great restaurant as an early date, or first date. I just don't get that many chances to go to a great restaurant, and going there with someone I know isn't going to grouse about prices would be good. I go to this really awesome Tapas place every year that ends up being like $30-35 each ($45-50 with lots of Sangria) and it's one of my favorite things. Live a little.
Ugh, I get too many first date duds to shell out 30-60 dollars on every first date.
Not to say I wont take her someplace nice, I just happen to understand price does not equate equaly with quality.
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RentI'm always rightFuckin' deal with itRegistered Userregular
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
See the thing is I AM a huge smartass
if anything I've been presenting myself as someone who's NOT one to a majority of potential dates
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
See the thing is I AM a huge smartass
if anything I've been presenting myself as someone who's NOT one to a majority of potential dates
Then go for it man. As I said to my timid friend, ain't nobody got with a fine lady by pondering what to say to her until she moved on.
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edited November 2010
Oh that reminds me
I asked for criticisms and didn't receive any so I'm asking again
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
See the thing is I AM a huge smartass
if anything I've been presenting myself as someone who's NOT one to a majority of potential dates
Then go for it man. As I said to my timid friend, ain't nobody got with a fine lady by pondering what to say to her until she moved on.
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
See the thing is I AM a huge smartass
if anything I've been presenting myself as someone who's NOT one to a majority of potential dates
You and me, Rent. It's you and me against the world!
Cheap dorks? Most kids on here are in college, what did you expect?
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
not a first date, no
Although I have spent that on a first date before
I mean, the plus side is that I get to enjoy the really great food
Like people seem to be missing that part
The food is an end unto itself
I'm with you, Fartacus. If the food is really great the entire date seems better. If I were a man of means (instead of a woman of freelance) I'd definitely take girls out to swanky restaurants. Plus, and I don't want to sound like a typical girl who is interested only in money here, but a guy's willingness to spend a few bucks on a date sort of implies that he's invested in the idea of us, that he actually likes me, and isn't just setting up dates with every girl he can find.
Hell, I'd go DUTCH on a really great restaurant as an early date, or first date. I just don't get that many chances to go to a great restaurant, and going there with someone I know isn't going to grouse about prices would be good. I go to this really awesome Tapas place every year that ends up being like $30-35 each ($45-50 with lots of Sangria) and it's one of my favorite things. Live a little.
I don't get the idea that great food at a nice restaurant only comes at 35+$ per person.
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Thus far, nothing has, and it's been a couple weeks at this point.
Most likely because what had come up previously was really, really stupid stuff which was stress-induced, but enough to mess things up in what was a fledgling relationship in the first place.
We're both well-adjusted, so I could see it working. At the same time, I could see it not, as well. But I think it was obvious we'd both been thinking about one another a fair bit, and we're both still interested, so I'm more than willing to give it another shot.
My parents often pay that much for one person but thats for haute cuisine française and they drink wine like it was water. What did you ate that cost so much?
I'm not critical, just curious
i'm not convinced that your local chili's qualifies as a good restaurant
I don't even know where the closest chilis is.
Sure, if the person's a fug and you just want to eat and run, the bill won't top $50. Some personal stats — my last meal out with the wife for an anniversary was $150, including a bottle of wine and tax and tip. My last anniversary meal that I cooked was easily $75 for the two of us because I got fancy-ass scallops, a nice bottle of wine, and probably made a wine reduction sauce and other shit. We're married and we like each other -- why not live it up?
I think you guys complaining just don't know how to enjoy going out to eat. You do it occasionally, and you make it worthwhile.
I finally dipped my toe back into OKC. Then I remembered why I stopped checking my messages there.
At least I'm pretty sure she digs me because she messaged me first etc
So I'm trying to make the convo more personal (we've exchanged like ten messages within like, a day), but I'm kind of at a loss for how to do that
what do y'all suggest I do
I've tried asking her what she likes but her messages are really short and there's not much to go off on there
Rather than try and get more personal via e-mail, why not try and get more personal...personally?
Ask her if she'd want to grab a cuppa sometime and suggest a time/place. Preferably if you can work it into the conversation in some manner, but if not then be relatively blunt about it since it'd just be a coffee date. Or, if you think that you can skip the 'prove you aren't a serial killer and that we'll click' phase ask her to dinner or something.
Isn't that a bit abrupt?
Exchange real first names if you haven't yet
Talk about family/work, but only elaborate on either if it's interesting
Exchange embarrassing stories
Go into detail about your favorite band/movie/whatever and why you like it so much
Yes, pretty abrupt.
You need to start communicating via some other channel, like instant messaging or texting. Email will only get you so far, and you really can't get a feel for the other person without having a constant back-and-forth with them.
Especially because I'm not looking for it(I swear!)
But uhh, anyone know any good, free websites meant for casual sex?
I know about the following, that can be used for it
OKC
PoF
CL
Looking for any other free ones with at least a decent userbase, and again, fully free.
3ds friend code: 2981-6032-4118
Edit: Yup, pay component.
3ds friend code: 2981-6032-4118
Enjoy your Clap/Chlamydia/Hep/Syph
Again, not looking for it. Although I have met girls on PoF and OKC for it, and those turned out great(but seriously, not looking to get laid here, this is a fact finding expedition).
3ds friend code: 2981-6032-4118
Get her AIM or something, or if you're feeling adventurous, her telephone number, and chat there for a few hours or what-have-you. Then when you're comfortable talking to one another, ask her to grab some coffee with you.
You did or said something well enough that this person is interested enough to carry on a convo via email with you; an invite to real-life meeting from there isn't that outlandish.
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You haven't updated anything?
The easiest way to get people to check out your profile is to upload a new picture. Re-write your "What I do on Friday Nights" to be "What I did the last 2 Friday Nights". That way you update your profile every week-2 weeks, and it keeps your profile active and refreshing on the girls main pages.
I guess my friends are all jaded high-spenders and folks here are cheap dorks
I didn't read about the whole expensive dinner scenario you posted, but was this for a first date or what? Dropping seventy five on that is extremely stupid.
She actually offered to text me
This is...this is really bizarre
Are you up for an SMS relationship? I got some beefy fingers and mad text skills after one of those.
not a first date, no
Although I have spent that on a first date before
I mean, the plus side is that I get to enjoy the really great food
Like people seem to be missing that part
The food is an end unto itself
Rent: I don't think it's that weird -- she thinks you're cute and apparently has been enjoying the conversation. When you've gone on dates in the past do you say "hey, I was wondering if you'd like to get lunch. What's your email? I'll send you a few messages and after we talk for a bit we can graduate up to IMs, maybe texts, and then we can see what time works for the both of us to get lunch."?
She also asks what color the dot she has is,
So I'm thinking:
I mean I think it's weird because I've never had a girl aggressively pursue me before. Especially not a hot 18-year-old asian one
I'm with you, Fartacus. If the food is really great the entire date seems better. If I were a man of means (instead of a woman of freelance) I'd definitely take girls out to swanky restaurants. Plus, and I don't want to sound like a typical girl who is interested only in money here, but a guy's willingness to spend a few bucks on a date sort of implies that he's invested in the idea of us, that he actually likes me, and isn't just setting up dates with every girl he can find.
Hell, I'd go DUTCH on a really great restaurant as an early date, or first date. I just don't get that many chances to go to a great restaurant, and going there with someone I know isn't going to grouse about prices would be good. I go to this really awesome Tapas place every year that ends up being like $30-35 each ($45-50 with lots of Sangria) and it's one of my favorite things. Live a little.
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Dont question it, man. First rule of Lucid dreaming is not to pick things apart, just go with it.
Unless you're looking for someone to be abrasive with, is this really a good idea? Don't change yourself to meet someone's expectations, or you'll be deeply unhappy until the relationship dies.
Ugh, I get too many first date duds to shell out 30-60 dollars on every first date.
Not to say I wont take her someplace nice, I just happen to understand price does not equate equaly with quality.
See the thing is I AM a huge smartass
if anything I've been presenting myself as someone who's NOT one to a majority of potential dates
College midterms
Election Frenzy
Fallout New Vegas
Halloween
Halloween regrets
The list is ripe with possibility. Alternatively, your profile sucks. Got a link to it?
Then go for it man. As I said to my timid friend, ain't nobody got with a fine lady by pondering what to say to her until she moved on.
I asked for criticisms and didn't receive any so I'm asking again
I mean I guess it's working for me because I'm getting views and messages and stuff but still...any problems?
Thanks dudes
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