Well, I guess I will be the odd one out and say that if she strikes you as being bitchy, she probably is. A lot of the nuances are lost if you just type out "She said this" since we weren't there and can't hear her tone of voice, read her body language, etc. Did it seem like she was trying to offer the girl who was "too poor" useful advice, or was she trying to cut her down to size? If it seemed like the latter, well, that's probably exactly what was going on.
Also, the Facebook photo thing . . . WTF.
Edit: Agree that the important thing is how YOU feel about her, regardless of whether she's a bitch or not. No point in dating someone you don't like.
A guy I messaged just messaged me back telling me he really enjoyed my profile. Then he apologized for the message being so short because he was on his phone and promised to send "a more proper message" once he got to a computer.
A guy I messaged just messaged me back telling me he really enjoyed my profile. Then he apologized for the message being so short because he was on his phone and promised to send "a more proper message" once he got to a computer.
That's a good sign, right?
I don't really know how to take that. On the one hand that could be kind of clingy/desperate/creepy because...why not just wait until you're at your computer to respond? It's akin to calling someone to let them know you're about to call them. On the other hand it could be kind of charming/flattering in that he like you enough to want to respond right away rather than wait.
So who knows. I guess you'll be able to figure it out as the messaging progresses.
A guy I messaged just messaged me back telling me he really enjoyed my profile. Then he apologized for the message being so short because he was on his phone and promised to send "a more proper message" once he got to a computer.
That's a good sign, right?
I don't really know how to take that. On the one hand that could be kind of clingy/desperate/creepy because...why not just wait until you're at your computer to respond? It's akin to calling someone to let them know you're about to call them. On the other hand it could be kind of charming/flattering in that he like you enough to want to respond right away rather than wait.
So who knows. I guess you'll be able to figure it out as the messaging progresses.
Here's a perfect example of someone completely misusing those terms
This type of shit happens all the time and it annoys the fuck out of me
Nothing about that is clingy, desperate, or creepy in the fucking slightest.
A guy I messaged just messaged me back telling me he really enjoyed my profile. Then he apologized for the message being so short because he was on his phone and promised to send "a more proper message" once he got to a computer.
That's a good sign, right?
I don't really know how to take that. On the one hand that could be kind of clingy/desperate/creepy because...why not just wait until you're at your computer to respond? It's akin to calling someone to let them know you're about to call them. On the other hand it could be kind of charming/flattering in that he like you enough to want to respond right away rather than wait.
So who knows. I guess you'll be able to figure it out as the messaging progresses.
Here's a perfect example of someone completely misusing those terms
This type of shit happens all the time and it annoys the fuck out of me
Nothing about that is clingy, desperate, or creepy in the fucking slightest.
It's exactly the same as that fucking "Wait 3 days or else you'll come off as clingy/desperate"
Clingy does not mean the same thing as interested goddammit
No, it's entirely different from 'wait 3 days' because it isn't saying "wait a proscribed length of time" but rather "don't send a message apologizing for the fact that you sent a message and detailing how you're going to send a different, better message at some later date."
Dude moniker you DO know there's an iPhone app for okc
I'm using it right now!
Yes, I use the Android one when I'm bored on the train at times. If I get a message and want to respond back I'll either type out what I wanted to say or wait until I am able to type out what I wanted to say. I don't send a message expressing my intent to message someone later that expresses what I want to say.
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Dude moniker you DO know there's an iPhone app for okc
I'm using it right now!
Yes, I use the Android one when I'm bored on the train at times. If I get a message and want to respond back I'll either type out what I wanted to say or wait until I am able to type out what I wanted to say. I don't send a message expressing my intent to message someone later that expresses what I want to say.
I see what you're saying but that to me just states that dude is socially awkward not a creeper
And also depending on what exactly the message was, not even that awkward.
"Hey man, I really liked your profile. You seem cool and cute, we should chat sometime. Sorry this message is short, I'm on my phone, but I will message you for real later."
I see absolutely nothing awkward, creepy, or clingy about something like that.
It's called expressing interest in someone. That's it. Just because he could have waited and done it in more detail does not make him creepy.
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I want one full page without someone giving out horrible advice on how to date.
That message was not creepy.
Almost everything about dating can be interpreted as creepy IF YOU WANT TO. It won't be if you're interested, it could be if you're not.
next message imma send will be "Hey I find you completely uninteresting. Lets arrange to be in the same time and place, but always stand facing away from each other so that nothing creepy can happen"
next message imma send will be "Hey I find you completely uninteresting. Lets arrange to be in the same time and place, but always stand facing away from each other so that nothing creepy can happen"
Yes, because that is exactly comparable to apologizing for the fact that you contacted someone.
next message imma send will be "Hey I find you completely uninteresting. Lets arrange to be in the same time and place, but always stand facing away from each other so that nothing creepy can happen"
Yes, because that is exactly comparable to apologizing for the fact that you contacted someone.
Apologizing for not having a more substantial message, not for the message existing.
Jesus christ on a popsicle, I can't believe how long that food discussion went on.
Spent half my day at work today chatting to the girl who is off on a business trip on gchat.:)
Also, I think Moniker has a point. Not that its creepy maybe, but it is a weird way to do things, and arguably makes a poor first impression, to say "Hi, here is a short crappy message, I will send you a better one later" I wouldn't recommend anyone here take that approach.
It'd be easier if your name was Jack. Then if someone questions you for not being "jacked" enough, you could show them your driver's license and then just punch them in the boob.
oh man, i had a great first date tonite. i gotta say, i haven't had a really good first date where i clicked with the guy off the bat in a long, long time.
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edited November 2010
Oh man this middle eastern chick whose profile I really dug messaged me back
Okay so there's a girl who's into Breaking Bad that I kinda like
Should I message her asking about if she's seen The Walking Dead? That seems like a good opening message, inoffensive but open to other conversational topics
In case you're wondering the conclusion to this turns out she hasn't and she took my recommendation and thinks it's "Soooooooo good"
Didn't realize you were only 20. That makes it a bit more reasonable then. When you are 28 like me, that would be a major warning flag.
Also:
Cute librarian that was into Board and Card games gave me a read/deleted. I was really hoping that one of all of the people I've messaged would at least reply back, even if just to become friends. We had a lot in common.
My point still stands -- but, no offense to you, it does seem odd that she'd message someone fifty miles away from her. Are there no suitable bachelors close by?
Someone wrote me back! In a one-line message answering exactly the initial question I had asked and asking no follow-ups of any kind. Is that a good or a bad thing?
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Someone wrote me back! In a one-line message answering exactly the initial question I had asked and asking no follow-ups of any kind. Is that a good or a bad thing?
My point still stands -- but, no offense to you, it does seem odd that she'd message someone fifty miles away from her. Are there no suitable bachelors close by?
Didn't realize you were only 20. That makes it a bit more reasonable then. When you are 28 like me, that would be a major warning flag.
Also:
Cute librarian that was into Board and Card games gave me a read/deleted. I was really hoping that one of all of the people I've messaged would at least reply back, even if just to become friends. We had a lot in common.
I read this as "libertarian" for some reason and was about to ask you what the fuck you were doing trying to date a libertarian
What's wrong with dating a libertarian? I also wonder if my Reagan shirt makes people think I'm a republican. I have really never thought of that before
I read this as "libertarian" for some reason and was about to ask you what the fuck you were doing trying to date a libertarian
There are advantages to dating libertarians. If you're having sex and want to skip foreplay, you can tell them to rely on the invisible handjob of the market.
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Also, the Facebook photo thing . . . WTF.
Edit: Agree that the important thing is how YOU feel about her, regardless of whether she's a bitch or not. No point in dating someone you don't like.
That's a good sign, right?
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I don't really know how to take that. On the one hand that could be kind of clingy/desperate/creepy because...why not just wait until you're at your computer to respond? It's akin to calling someone to let them know you're about to call them. On the other hand it could be kind of charming/flattering in that he like you enough to want to respond right away rather than wait.
So who knows. I guess you'll be able to figure it out as the messaging progresses.
Here's a perfect example of someone completely misusing those terms
This type of shit happens all the time and it annoys the fuck out of me
Nothing about that is clingy, desperate, or creepy in the fucking slightest.
I disagree.
Those words do not mean the same thing as interested goddammit
I'm using it right now!
But obviously if you use your phone rather than a proper computer you're a creeper
No, it's entirely different from 'wait 3 days' because it isn't saying "wait a proscribed length of time" but rather "don't send a message apologizing for the fact that you sent a message and detailing how you're going to send a different, better message at some later date."
3DS: 1607-3034-6970
Yes, I use the Android one when I'm bored on the train at times. If I get a message and want to respond back I'll either type out what I wanted to say or wait until I am able to type out what I wanted to say. I don't send a message expressing my intent to message someone later that expresses what I want to say.
I see what you're saying but that to me just states that dude is socially awkward not a creeper
"Hey man, I really liked your profile. You seem cool and cute, we should chat sometime. Sorry this message is short, I'm on my phone, but I will message you for real later."
I see absolutely nothing awkward, creepy, or clingy about something like that.
It's called expressing interest in someone. That's it. Just because he could have waited and done it in more detail does not make him creepy.
That message was not creepy.
Almost everything about dating can be interpreted as creepy IF YOU WANT TO. It won't be if you're interested, it could be if you're not.
Yes, because that is exactly comparable to apologizing for the fact that you contacted someone.
Apologizing for not having a more substantial message, not for the message existing.
Spent half my day at work today chatting to the girl who is off on a business trip on gchat.:)
Also, I think Moniker has a point. Not that its creepy maybe, but it is a weird way to do things, and arguably makes a poor first impression, to say "Hi, here is a short crappy message, I will send you a better one later" I wouldn't recommend anyone here take that approach.
Oh, never mind then.
how jacked do you have to be to put down jacked for body type
oh man, i had a great first date tonite. i gotta say, i haven't had a really good first date where i clicked with the guy off the bat in a long, long time.
Everything's turning up milhouse
The only concern I'd have here is...
Is she ACTUALLY 18?
Really enthusiastic "18" year old screams underage to me, so I'd at least be a BIT careful there to be safe. Otherwise, go for it.
In case you're wondering the conclusion to this turns out she hasn't and she took my recommendation and thinks it's "Soooooooo good"
Yeah but...she's honest about being a senior in high school, you'd think if she was faking she'd lie about that too
so that shouldn't be an issue
I mean 20 is nothing, I can't even get her booze
Also:
Cute librarian that was into Board and Card games gave me a read/deleted. I was really hoping that one of all of the people I've messaged would at least reply back, even if just to become friends. We had a lot in common.
3DS: 1607-3034-6970
I'd ask another, you don't have anything to lose.
I'm not questioning it
I read this as "libertarian" for some reason and was about to ask you what the fuck you were doing trying to date a libertarian