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edited November 2010
Okay, whew. This med student isn't going to go down like the writing grad student. She asked today "Do I get to see you Friday though?" This one is going to work out, I can feel it! Mutual interest verified. She's so pretty, awkward and awkwardly funny. Also she can drop it like it's hot.
I've been tinkering with my OKCupid profile now and then, as the mood strikes. Could any of you good gents and gentettes give it a look-see and some humbling critique?
well, that didn't work out. got the standard yet nevertheless insulting "it's not you it's me" style email (not even a phone call, what the hell), which came as a shock because he certainly didn't sing that tune like 24 hours ago. it's not like we only went out once either, it was a few times and spent a bunch of this past weekend together and had a great time. there was chemistry goddamn it!
i'm giving up on this shit for awhile, deleted my account and everything. maybe when i move to the west coast i'll meet someone worth my energy.
well, that didn't work out. got the standard yet nevertheless insulting "it's not you it's me" style email (not even a phone call, what the hell), which came as a shock because he certainly didn't sing that tune like 24 hours ago. it's not like we only went out once either, it was a few times and spent a bunch of this past weekend together and had a great time. there was chemistry goddamn it!
i'm giving up on this shit for awhile, deleted my account and everything. maybe when i move to the west coast i'll meet someone worth my energy.
I like smart, down-to-earth people which I think is a lot of people in this thread. That's about all it takes. Consequently, I'm dating a lot of grad/phd/med students lately. I can't believe it took me this long to figure out.
I hope you end up with a gorgeous med student. She can be your sugar-mama one day!
I work with a few guys that are married to med students/doctors. They joke about their wives being the sugar mama. The only note-worthy thing is the inversion of a few of the gender roles in the relationship. Since the wife's job is generally more important if at least better paying, the husband tends to take time off for kids, home duties, signing paperwork for the family. Often also, he's the one making the after work trips to the store or starting dinner since they tend to be home sooner.
Thanks! Yeah, that'd be cool with me. I hope to save up enough money from my current office job to transition into writing full time for at least a year. If I had a doctor on my side, that'd be neat and I like household chores just fine. Haha, maybe there's something to gold digging! (totally joking!)
My roommate/best friend has been dating a med student forever. She is his sugar mama via loan money now and someday soon via doctor moneys. I think she's a 4th year so... ugh, 2/3 done.
This is the way to go
Now officially GF/BF with the grad student I mentioned before. Things are going swimmingly. Doing nice things for her is really fun because she gets so darn excited about it. It's nice to date someone who's not a jaded hipster like me. Although I probably am spending too much damn money as a result. Just dropped $100 on tickets to see the Roots to surprise her, but then again I get to see the Roots, so all's well, really.
But, yes, as it turns out her family is loaded and like everyone including her is an overachiever with an advanced degree. Plus she plans to move to France eventually, where strict visa laws would probably bar me from working anyway -- forced to be a househusband! I'll just drink wine and cook French food and smoke all day. By god I am going to make this relationship work.
Okay, whew. This med student isn't going to go down like the writing grad student. She asked today "Do I get to see you Friday though?" This one is going to work out, I can feel it! Mutual interest verified. She's so pretty, awkward and awkwardly funny. Also she can drop it like it's hot.
Can she actually drop it? Can she get low, down to the flo'?
Because these have very serious implications, TLC
You can't just throw these terms around willy-nilly
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Well middle eastern girl apparently has already met somebody who wants to be monogamous and "actually wants her to delete her account"
Man I wouldn't be so pissed about this if she had told me at any time that this had happened, also wtf you meet someone in two weeks and they want it to be exclusive immediately? whatev's
ed: and now she deleted her account. woah
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Okay, whew. This med student isn't going to go down like the writing grad student. She asked today "Do I get to see you Friday though?" This one is going to work out, I can feel it! Mutual interest verified. She's so pretty, awkward and awkwardly funny. Also she can drop it like it's hot.
Can she actually drop it? Can she get low, down to the flo'?
Because these have very serious implications, TLC
You can't just throw these terms around willy-nilly
She did indeed drop it down, stop then wiggle with it and brought it up from the floor, my good man.
edit: And ON the topic of OKC and internet dating, I really need to start taking profile pictures somewhere other than my damn bathroom. But this apartment is really dim, and it's the only place with decent lighting.
You could take photos... outside of your apartment.
I thought this was a legitimate issue. Obviously, the best picture is one which shows you out with other people doing something kooky and fun. But not everybody is that social.
So what are you going to do? Take pictures of yourself in public? You'd look like a lunatic.
In answer to the question then, I don't know. I have the same problem. Get some lights, I guess. And go near a window. And during the day.
Well middle eastern girl apparently has already met somebody who wants to be monogamous and "actually wants her to delete her account"
Man I wouldn't be so pissed about this if she had told me at any time that this had happened, also wtf you meet someone in two weeks and they want it to be exclusive immediately? whatev's
ed: and now she deleted her account. woah
You dodged a bullet. That whole situation sounded bad.
I got a message from a Middle Eastern woman once. I asked if she actually met up with people off the internet because...well, these people generally don't do that. They get married young and often to some degree of arrangement. She said that she doesn't but she replies to ads and offers advice. Well, that's super.
As for me, I went out with a Chinese gal from the internet twice but on the second date she kept moaning about how quiet I am so that was that. She did that cute thing that women like to do where they just ignore your messages rather than...you know...say "I don't want to go out anymore".
It's really pathetic, I have to say. I mean, I'm an understanding kind of guy and I know that the theory behind this is that they don't want to offend the guy. But I give absolutely no legitimacy to this "just don't reply" mentality.
If after a date, nobody contacts each other...fine. It can be assumed that neither party wants to continue the relationship.
But if one party is still trying to communicate with the other, it's only common courtesy to reply. I've had this myself with women contacting me after a date and I decided that I didn't want to go out anymore. I didn't just ignore the messages like some kind of lunatic. I said some variation of "Thanks for meeting me but I don't think we're really suitable together. Good luck in finding somebody, though."
What's so hard about that? But women don't do it.
So anyway, next I'm going to check out the MILF action on plentyoffish. Well, "MILF" is probably too strong an acronym. But M's anyway. I saw one old Indian gal with some boobs who subtly suggested that the site should be called "Plenty of Fucking". I think I might start with her.
Well middle eastern girl apparently has already met somebody who wants to be monogamous and "actually wants her to delete her account"
Man I wouldn't be so pissed about this if she had told me at any time that this had happened, also wtf you meet someone in two weeks and they want it to be exclusive immediately? whatev's
ed: and now she deleted her account. woah
You dodged a bullet. That whole situation sounded bad.
I got a message from a Middle Eastern woman once. I asked if she actually met up with people off the internet because...well, these people generally don't do that. They get married young and often to some degree of arrangement. She said that she doesn't but she replies to ads and offers advice. Well, that's super.
Its learned hand making sweeping generalisations about females from ethnicities other than caucasian, generalisations about a subset of the human population numbering in their millions. Why are you surprised by this?
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Its learned hand making sweeping generalisations about females from ethnicities other than caucasian, generalisations about a subset of the human population numbering in their millions. Why are you surprised by this?
I'm new here, is this his "thing"
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It's both entertaining and horrifying to read his post history in this thread. HE has been recently joined by some other fine examples of humanity over the last 10 pages.
Its learned hand making sweeping generalisations about females from ethnicities other than caucasian, generalisations about a subset of the human population numbering in their millions. Why are you surprised by this?
I'm new here, is this his "thing"
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Sorry, gentlemen. I didn't appreciate that saying that Middle Eastern women generally marry at a younger age than Western women and arranged marriages aren't uncommon there would be remotely contentious. I thought it was just, you know, factual.
Clearly, we are the problem. Also the women you date. Not you!
I am often reminded of the following:
When a true genius appears in the world, you may know him by this sign, that the dunces are all in confederacy against him.
As for the ladies, a lot of them don't like the quietness. That's it. That's the only complaint. I mean, I'm not ill. I'm just introverted. Some women are fine with it.
I'm not like some of the people in this thread who talk about how they're banging desperate internet women on the first date and then never having anything to do with them. This is a common complaint that I've heard from these internet women. Every dude is some sleazy dude trying to fuck them. I don't do that. And it gives a bad name to internet dating that everybody is just out for quick fucks with desperate people. Some people are interested in a relationship.
And yet I get accused of being sexist? Where are you when these guys are talking about banging these desperate chicks on the first date and then never contacting them again?
And that guy talking about a Middle Eastern woman and how he started talking about 9/11 with her. Really? That was your topic of conversation with a Middle Eastern woman? If she was from Fall River, Massachusetts would that be your topic? It just sounds like gratuitous baiting to me. But nobody accused him of being racist.
Guys, this is the internet and this is the internet dating thread. You can do what you want. But I see no need to criticize me over the respectful meetups that I have with these women.
And that guy talking about a Middle Eastern woman and how he started talking about 9/11 with her. Really? That was your topic of conversation with a Middle Eastern woman? If she was from Fall River, Massachusetts would that be your topic? It just sounds like gratuitous baiting to me. But nobody accused him of being racist.
Rent talked about 9/11 because she was interested in foreign policy, you goose.
Guys, this is the internet and this is the internet dating thread. You can do you want. But I see no need to criticize me over the respectful meetups that I have with these women.
And that guy talking about a Middle Eastern woman and how he started talking about 9/11 with her. Really? That was your topic of conversation with a Middle Eastern woman? If she was from Fall River, Massachusetts would that be your topic? It just sounds like gratuitous baiting to me. But nobody accused him of being racist.
She asked me about being a veteran who served in Iraq so I told her one of my prime motivators was 9-11 because amazingly, that motivated a lot of people including myself to join the military
Yea I knew she had a boyfriend but didn't really care.
I know the guy but am not close friends with him.
honestly if you did this to me I'd be pretty furious
like, possibly would do something I'd regret deeply later furious (just to be clear I'm not condoning these types of actions I'm just saying what I would do in a situation like this; make sure you watch your back dudes)
Less furious than if you had been a friend, and I wouldn't really be mad at you at all if you didn't know, but yeah dude this was kinda messed up of you man
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I dated a girl who'd broken up with her boyfriend around Thanksgiving. I knew him casually. He asked to talk to me outside when he tracked me down on Jan. 16 at a local game store.
I said okay and he said he was going to hit me. I shrugged and let him. HE DID NOT MENTION THE ROLL OF DIMES IN HIS HAND.
The appropriate reaction to a fellow stating, in dead honesty, that he's going to hit you, is to hit him hard enough that the apologizes to himself for concocting such a foolish idea. You execute this as a preemptive strike, and then you pick his silly ass up off of whatever surface he landed on, dust him off, and buy him the beverage of his choice.
Or, as a more legally-acceptable alternative, you simply don't 'talk outside' with the ex-boyfriend of the young lady you are now seeing.
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Hitting the guy your ex is dating is clearly the logical course of action.
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Shrug. Whatever, Captains of Hindsight. I tell that story to warn people about crazies, not to listen to anyone tell me what I should've done different. So yeah, lets change the subject as I now regret even sharing that story.
edit: But, yes, never let anyone hit you. That is lesson #1. And what you did is a lot more likely to bring about a punch than dating a girl who has been broken up for a month.
Shrug. Whatever, Captains of Hindsight. I tell that story to warn people about crazies, not to listen to anyone tell me what I should've done different. So yeah, lets change the subject as I now regret even sharing that story.
edit: But, yes, never let anyone hit you. That is lesson #1. And what you did is a lot more likely to bring about a punch than dating a girl who has been broken up for a month.
Fair enough, and agreed. Also, yeah, one should probably feel pretty bad if they bang somebody's significant other.
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i'm giving up on this shit for awhile, deleted my account and everything. maybe when i move to the west coast i'll meet someone worth my energy.
Where on the west coast?
Cause I got my pocket on lockdown
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This is the way to go
Now officially GF/BF with the grad student I mentioned before. Things are going swimmingly. Doing nice things for her is really fun because she gets so darn excited about it. It's nice to date someone who's not a jaded hipster like me. Although I probably am spending too much damn money as a result. Just dropped $100 on tickets to see the Roots to surprise her, but then again I get to see the Roots, so all's well, really.
But, yes, as it turns out her family is loaded and like everyone including her is an overachiever with an advanced degree. Plus she plans to move to France eventually, where strict visa laws would probably bar me from working anyway -- forced to be a househusband! I'll just drink wine and cook French food and smoke all day. By god I am going to make this relationship work.
Can she actually drop it? Can she get low, down to the flo'?
Because these have very serious implications, TLC
You can't just throw these terms around willy-nilly
Man I wouldn't be so pissed about this if she had told me at any time that this had happened, also wtf you meet someone in two weeks and they want it to be exclusive immediately? whatev's
ed: and now she deleted her account. woah
She did indeed drop it down, stop then wiggle with it and brought it up from the floor, my good man.
I thought this was a legitimate issue. Obviously, the best picture is one which shows you out with other people doing something kooky and fun. But not everybody is that social.
So what are you going to do? Take pictures of yourself in public? You'd look like a lunatic.
In answer to the question then, I don't know. I have the same problem. Get some lights, I guess. And go near a window. And during the day.
You dodged a bullet. That whole situation sounded bad.
I got a message from a Middle Eastern woman once. I asked if she actually met up with people off the internet because...well, these people generally don't do that. They get married young and often to some degree of arrangement. She said that she doesn't but she replies to ads and offers advice. Well, that's super.
As for me, I went out with a Chinese gal from the internet twice but on the second date she kept moaning about how quiet I am so that was that. She did that cute thing that women like to do where they just ignore your messages rather than...you know...say "I don't want to go out anymore".
It's really pathetic, I have to say. I mean, I'm an understanding kind of guy and I know that the theory behind this is that they don't want to offend the guy. But I give absolutely no legitimacy to this "just don't reply" mentality.
If after a date, nobody contacts each other...fine. It can be assumed that neither party wants to continue the relationship.
But if one party is still trying to communicate with the other, it's only common courtesy to reply. I've had this myself with women contacting me after a date and I decided that I didn't want to go out anymore. I didn't just ignore the messages like some kind of lunatic. I said some variation of "Thanks for meeting me but I don't think we're really suitable together. Good luck in finding somebody, though."
What's so hard about that? But women don't do it.
So anyway, next I'm going to check out the MILF action on plentyoffish. Well, "MILF" is probably too strong an acronym. But M's anyway. I saw one old Indian gal with some boobs who subtly suggested that the site should be called "Plenty of Fucking". I think I might start with her.
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Yes, I'm at work and don't feel like digging in the archive. It is about being racist, having an Asian fetish and writing insipid dialogue.
Guess we have to go to Wikipedia for this one.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage
They're missing a lot of countries but they have Iran and Iraq. Check those out and then compare them to a Western country of your choice.
As for arranged marriage:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage
Not much there but there is this quote:
"Today, arranged marriage is still practiced in South Asia, and the Middle East and East Asia to some extent."
Anyway, back to the "ur a racialist" talk. And maybe internet dating.
I am often reminded of the following:
When a true genius appears in the world, you may know him by this sign, that the dunces are all in confederacy against him.
As for the ladies, a lot of them don't like the quietness. That's it. That's the only complaint. I mean, I'm not ill. I'm just introverted. Some women are fine with it.
I'm not like some of the people in this thread who talk about how they're banging desperate internet women on the first date and then never having anything to do with them. This is a common complaint that I've heard from these internet women. Every dude is some sleazy dude trying to fuck them. I don't do that. And it gives a bad name to internet dating that everybody is just out for quick fucks with desperate people. Some people are interested in a relationship.
And yet I get accused of being sexist? Where are you when these guys are talking about banging these desperate chicks on the first date and then never contacting them again?
And that guy talking about a Middle Eastern woman and how he started talking about 9/11 with her. Really? That was your topic of conversation with a Middle Eastern woman? If she was from Fall River, Massachusetts would that be your topic? It just sounds like gratuitous baiting to me. But nobody accused him of being racist.
Guys, this is the internet and this is the internet dating thread. You can do what you want. But I see no need to criticize me over the respectful meetups that I have with these women.
Because that's exactly what I did to this one dude and there's a chance he might find out.
If I was friends with you, I'd keep that previous clause in the past tense.
I'd probably shout at everybody involved.
I'd consider that pretty reasonable. How reasonable is this hypothetical boyfriend?
By the way, calling everybody dunces is not a great way to get people to stop being pissed at you.
Rent talked about 9/11 because she was interested in foreign policy, you goose.
They are in no way respectful.
Did you know that she had a bf when you fucked her
and if so are you friends with the bf
She asked me about being a veteran who served in Iraq so I told her one of my prime motivators was 9-11 because amazingly, that motivated a lot of people including myself to join the military
I know the guy but am not close friends with him.
honestly if you did this to me I'd be pretty furious
like, possibly would do something I'd regret deeply later furious (just to be clear I'm not condoning these types of actions I'm just saying what I would do in a situation like this; make sure you watch your back dudes)
Less furious than if you had been a friend, and I wouldn't really be mad at you at all if you didn't know, but yeah dude this was kinda messed up of you man
I said okay and he said he was going to hit me. I shrugged and let him. HE DID NOT MENTION THE ROLL OF DIMES IN HIS HAND.
Or, as a more legally-acceptable alternative, you simply don't 'talk outside' with the ex-boyfriend of the young lady you are now seeing.
Why did you even let him do that
I'd be like fuck no motherfucker she dumped your ass that's not my fucking fault you douche
And Disney World is nowhere in sight.
edit: But, yes, never let anyone hit you. That is lesson #1. And what you did is a lot more likely to bring about a punch than dating a girl who has been broken up for a month.
Fair enough, and agreed. Also, yeah, one should probably feel pretty bad if they bang somebody's significant other.