people change, but sometimes they change in such a way that they're still really good together
yes but only in very rare cases.
by the time most people have graduated high school they have changed a lot since they started
and they will change even more in the next 5-10-20-30 years
basically relationships are very hard to work because people are not always going to stay the same
not every high school romance is doomed, though
people change, but sometimes they change in such a way that they're still really good together
yes but only in very rare cases.
by the time most people have graduated high school they have changed a lot since they started
and they will change even more in the next 5-10-20-30 years
basically relationships are very hard to work because people are not always going to stay the same
So what you're saying is that having super serious long term relationships in general is kinda dumb?
what he's saying is that, given that relationships are difficult because people change, and that people in high school are subject to frequent, extreme change, it is foolish for those in high school to think of their relationships as being serious, long-term things
especially when it comes to things like, say, deciding where to go to school/work
Well, I assumed if you're in a highschool relationship and you expect it to last then moving for school/work is something you think you can handle.
And as for extreme changes in personality... hey, it's a good test! If you can make it through late teen angst together, you can make it through anything! (haha, not really, no).
The lack of proper maturity to actually handle those changes is the actual problem here IMHO. The changes aren't bigger than, say, mid-life personality crisis, it's just that by then you know how cope with them.
and early relationships are the proper time to learn those coping mechanisms
Sure, it might not be great to follow your six-month girlfriend across the country because you're sure she's the one. But aside from potentially life-damaging decisions, I'd say that treating relationships as serious when you're younger is crucial in developing the proper maturity for serious relationships later
my angle on it is that the late teens are a really big time for change and so it's TYPICALLY best to have as little as possible anchoring one to one's teenage identity
my friends that didn't make it out of our hometown or stayed with the same people are comparably much the same as they were, and not for the better
Well, I assumed if you're in a highschool relationship and you expect it to last then moving for school/work is something you think you can handle.
And as for extreme changes in personality... hey, it's a good test! If you can make it through late teen angst together, you can make it through anything! (haha, not really, no).
The lack of proper maturity to actually handle those changes is the actual problem here IMHO. The changes aren't bigger than, say, mid-life personality crisis, it's just that by then you know how cope with them.
Eh... I don't know what you mean by the changes in personality during late adolescence / young adulthood being comparable to a midlife crisis. Developmentally speaking, the former time is pretty much solely defined as the stage when you're figuring out who you are and are undergoing massive changes in personality/identity/sense of self. You can change certain things about yourself midlife, but for the vast majority of people it's not a time of actual major personality change.
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TP faces out. Knives are point down, spoons and forks are bowl/tines up in the dishwasher. At least two kinds of shampoo/conditioner on hand at all times.
I have more but eh, not important. What's important is that Dru humors me for the most part
What?
No.
Sharp sides of the knives face up.
This way the sharp side doesn't rest on anything and get infinitesimally less sharp.
TP faces out. Knives are point down, spoons and forks are bowl/tines up in the dishwasher. At least two kinds of shampoo/conditioner on hand at all times.
I have more but eh, not important. What's important is that Dru humors me for the most part
What?
No.
Sharp sides of the knives face up.
This way the sharp side doesn't rest on anything and get infinitesimally less sharp.
Yeah, you're making the assumption that she's talking about the sharp knives. We only hand wash those. She's talking about general purpose knives.
TP faces out. Knives are point down, spoons and forks are bowl/tines up in the dishwasher. At least two kinds of shampoo/conditioner on hand at all times.
I have more but eh, not important. What's important is that Dru humors me for the most part
What?
No.
Sharp sides of the knives face up.
This way the sharp side doesn't rest on anything and get infinitesimally less sharp.
Yeah, you're making the assumption that she's talking about the sharp knives. We only hand wash those. She's talking about general purpose knives.
I used to stock general use silverware handles up because it seemed like a good idea to have the business end closer to the jets but I got passive-aggressive noted by a roommate and waffled on that bit of policy
I used to stock general use silverware handles up because it seemed like a good idea to have the business end closer to the jets but I got passive-aggressive noted by a roommate and waffled on that bit of policy
I used to stock general use silverware handles up because it seemed like a good idea to have the business end closer to the jets but I got passive-aggressive noted by a roommate and waffled on that bit of policy
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My only memorable breakup story is that one time I dated a certifiably batshit insane teenager and she called me at 2am one night when I was in another state and told me she loved me and she was going to kill herself that night then turned her phone off.
And I spent the rest of the night calling her local cops, school, trying to find the numbers of her parents or close friends, doing everything I could to make sure she was ok and was just being a melodramatic teenager. She was, of course.
I told her dad that he should take her to a doctor and get her some damn therapy, then I told her that I couldn't deal with her problems as well as mine and that she should call me when she realised how unfair it was what she'd done.
She did. About 18 months later. Apologised and told me life became so much easier when she accepted that she was gay. Now she's happy, successful. I talk to her on facebook now and then.
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people change, but sometimes they change in such a way that they're still really good together
yes but only in very rare cases.
by the time most people have graduated high school they have changed a lot since they started
and they will change even more in the next 5-10-20-30 years
basically relationships are very hard to work because people are not always going to stay the same
Dru let's get civil union'd
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especially when it comes to things like, say, deciding where to go to school/work
And as for extreme changes in personality... hey, it's a good test! If you can make it through late teen angst together, you can make it through anything! (haha, not really, no).
The lack of proper maturity to actually handle those changes is the actual problem here IMHO. The changes aren't bigger than, say, mid-life personality crisis, it's just that by then you know how cope with them.
Sure, it might not be great to follow your six-month girlfriend across the country because you're sure she's the one. But aside from potentially life-damaging decisions, I'd say that treating relationships as serious when you're younger is crucial in developing the proper maturity for serious relationships later
my friends that didn't make it out of our hometown or stayed with the same people are comparably much the same as they were, and not for the better
Eh... I don't know what you mean by the changes in personality during late adolescence / young adulthood being comparable to a midlife crisis. Developmentally speaking, the former time is pretty much solely defined as the stage when you're figuring out who you are and are undergoing massive changes in personality/identity/sense of self. You can change certain things about yourself midlife, but for the vast majority of people it's not a time of actual major personality change.
What?
No.
Sharp sides of the knives face up.
This way the sharp side doesn't rest on anything and get infinitesimally less sharp.
Satans..... hints.....
unless you already have shitty knives, I suppose
Yeah, you're making the assumption that she's talking about the sharp knives. We only hand wash those. She's talking about general purpose knives.
Yeah, you're making the assumption that she's talking about the sharp knives. We only hand wash those. She's talking about general purpose knives.
let's make this work
because I have no conviction
because I have no conviction
because I have no conviction
I had a good run though
And I spent the rest of the night calling her local cops, school, trying to find the numbers of her parents or close friends, doing everything I could to make sure she was ok and was just being a melodramatic teenager. She was, of course.
I told her dad that he should take her to a doctor and get her some damn therapy, then I told her that I couldn't deal with her problems as well as mine and that she should call me when she realised how unfair it was what she'd done.
She did. About 18 months later. Apologised and told me life became so much easier when she accepted that she was gay. Now she's happy, successful. I talk to her on facebook now and then.
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You did good, buddy.
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