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  • RT800RT800 Registered User regular
    edited October 2012
    Maybe I'm just old, but one thing I've never really understood is how you can be bullied online.

    I mean, at school yeah. You have to be there.

    But online, ignoring people is just a click away. Just... don't read that shit. Problem solved.

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  • Magic PinkMagic Pink Tur-Boner-Fed Registered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm just old, but one thing I've never really understood is how you can be bullied online.

    I mean, at school yeah. You have to be there.

    But online, ignoring people is just a click away. Just... don't read that shit. Problem solved.

    You're not THAT old. Just because you're ingnoring someone doesn't mean everyone else is and they'll thake that online bullshit into the real world pretty fucking fast.

  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm just old, but one thing I've never really understood is how you can be bullied online.

    I mean, at school yeah. You have to be there.

    But online, ignoring people is just a click away. Just... don't read that shit. Problem solved.

    Part of me agrees, but social media has become so ingrained in kids lives that its impossible for them to click away.

    Look at me talking about kids like I'm an old man.

    I'm 25.

    I'M NOT OLD. I'M DOWN WITH THE COOL KIDS. I KNOW ABOUT 1 DIRECTION

    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
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  • King RiptorKing Riptor Registered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm just old, but one thing I've never really understood is how you can be bullied online.

    I mean, at school yeah. You have to be there.

    But online, ignoring people is just a click away. Just... don't read that shit. Problem solved.

    Okay well what we can do is take an embarrassing picture of you plaster it everywhere so nobody in your life hasn't seen it and call you a skank or whatever to anyone who will listen.

    Ignoring doesn't quit work in that scenario.

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  • RT800RT800 Registered User regular
    edited October 2012
    Well, in the case of an embarrassing picture I can see what you're talkin' about, but how often is that the case?

    I'm reminded of that story from a while back where that dude's college dorm mate secretly video taped him having sex with another man and then put it online and the guy killed himself. That was some straight up heinous shit, but it seems like something that'd be pretty rare.

    I think 90% of the reason bullies bully is to get a rise out of the victim. If the victim is oblivious it kinda takes the thrill out of it.

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  • GatsbyGatsby Registered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    Well, in the case of an embarrassing picture I can see what you're talkin' about, but how often is that the case?

    Often enough, but this story alone shows that once is one times too many
    Rolo wrote: »

    This happened less than a week ago.

  • BroloBrolo Broseidon Lord of the BroceanRegistered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    Well, in the case of an embarrassing picture I can see what you're talkin' about, but how often is that the case?

    I think 90% of the reason bullies bully is to get a rise out of the victim. If the victim is oblivious it kinda takes the thrill out of it.

    A lot of the online bullying going on takes place with people the victim knows personally. It could be a kid whose classmates are connected by facebook, and they use that as a means of launching somewhat-anonymously insults, or talking behind someone's back, or dredging up personal information and makint it public.

    CONTEXT: What you have just read is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying that i'm a complete dumbass.
  • GatsbyGatsby Registered User regular
    Sometimes it's not even an embarrassing photo or video. Sometimes it's something as simple as taking someone's picture, even one they like, and turning it against them online with anything from a meme generator to a fake profile or some horrible rumours with names attached. Cyber-bullying is all about taking a person's trust in their own ability and judgement to post things publicly and exploiting it in any fashion necessary.

  • ButtlordButtlord Fornicus Lord of Bondage and PainRegistered User regular
    RT800 wrote: »
    In middle school there was this one big dumb kid who I didn't even know that kept getting in my face for no discernible reason. I found out later that a bunch of little assholes were telling him that I'd insulted him and his family when I'd done no such thing. Apparently he just believed them. Idiot. I never believe anything anyone tells me.

    one time a kid tried doing something like this to me

    went to his VP (whose son was in half my classes) and said "buttlord's trying to start fights and shit with me"

    VP calls me in and i'm like "look this is bullshit and you know it" and he's like "yeah i know but i still had to call you in here before i could tell him to shut up"

  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Esq. Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    Please tell me they're going to find the guy who did that and kill him.

  • ButtlordButtlord Fornicus Lord of Bondage and PainRegistered User regular
  • DrZiplockDrZiplock Registered User regular
    To paraphrase Gabe, "I will burn down everything I have to ensure a bully doesn't go without punishment."

    I find the act of bullying in any way so utterly reprehensible that I will go out of my way to see it punished. This could stem from being bullied a bunch as a kid and that's fine. There was a girl we caught wind of at work who was being bullied at school because "girls can't like star wars!". Seriously. This is the shit that is out there.

    What did we do? Hooked her up with so much Star Wars swag she didn't know what to do with it all. Why? Cause fuck that noise. Be who you want to be, kid.

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  • Dead LegendDead Legend Registered User regular
    Buttlord wrote: »
    RT800 wrote: »
    In middle school there was this one big dumb kid who I didn't even know that kept getting in my face for no discernible reason. I found out later that a bunch of little assholes were telling him that I'd insulted him and his family when I'd done no such thing. Apparently he just believed them. Idiot. I never believe anything anyone tells me.

    one time a kid tried doing something like this to me

    went to his VP (whose son was in half my classes) and said "buttlord's trying to start fights and shit with me"

    VP calls me in and i'm like "look this is bullshit and you know it" and he's like "yeah i know but i still had to call you in here before i could tell him to shut up"

    I once hit a kid in the arm just to get him to shut up with whatever bullshit he was spouting. Bus driver reported me, principal called me. " so you hit jackass? Dont do it again but I can understand why" and I left

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  • King RiptorKing Riptor Registered User regular
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Please tell me they're going to find the guy who did that and kill him.

    Well I'm sure her family at least can leave him destitute forever with a civil suit. Not sure about criminal charges but she was a minor.

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  • ButtlordButtlord Fornicus Lord of Bondage and PainRegistered User regular
    Buttlord wrote: »
    RT800 wrote: »
    In middle school there was this one big dumb kid who I didn't even know that kept getting in my face for no discernible reason. I found out later that a bunch of little assholes were telling him that I'd insulted him and his family when I'd done no such thing. Apparently he just believed them. Idiot. I never believe anything anyone tells me.

    one time a kid tried doing something like this to me

    went to his VP (whose son was in half my classes) and said "buttlord's trying to start fights and shit with me"

    VP calls me in and i'm like "look this is bullshit and you know it" and he's like "yeah i know but i still had to call you in here before i could tell him to shut up"

    I once hit a kid in the arm just to get him to shut up with whatever bullshit he was spouting. Bus driver reported me, principal called me. " so you hit jackass? Dont do it again but I can understand why" and I left

    my mom did that once. "oh that's why you punched him? fuck it, kid's an asshole, you're not in any trouble at home."

    school always wrote me up but i reached an understanding with my VP: he understood why i did some of the shit i did and didn't give me guff over it, beyond the mandatory punishment (if that, there were times he let shit slide just so he didn't have to do paperwork) and i understood when he was just doing his job and didn't bitch about it

  • GatsbyGatsby Registered User regular
    Apparently when it was initially investigated by authorities, they couldn't accurately track him down but now it's gotten to the point where anonymous is claiming they've found him. I'm not holding my breath until it's been confirmed and made official though.

  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    edited October 2012
    It's funny when I think about what it was that made it so difficult to deal with teasing and shit back in the early days.

    Sure, I've always been sensitive, but that hasn't been as much of a problem as an adult. I know I've grown up, but I can still get pissed pretty easily with enough pressure put on me.

    I think, really, things just got better as I got older mostly because fewer and fewer of my peers were fucking idiots trying to stir up shit.

    I still think the whole idea of "Just ignore them" is, to an extent, a load of garbage, because most of the people who say that are at a point in their life where people their own age don't act like that anymore. I am terrible at ignoring things, I admit, and I did have to develop a thicker skin, but eventually I mostly lost the need for it.

    If there was some guy wherever you worked who was constantly poking his head into your space and going "Hey, FAGGOT, I BET YOU LIKE TO SUCK DICKS" you would find that very difficult to ignore for long.

    The difference being that, in school, the people in charge don't do shit about it if you complain.

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  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
    Koshian wrote: »
    JOKE'S ON YOU
    MY POTENTIAL IS ALREADY WASTED
  • Blake TBlake T Registered User regular
    DrZiplock wrote: »
    To paraphrase Gabe, "I will burn down everything I have to ensure a bully doesn't go without punishment."

    I find the act of bullying in any way so utterly reprehensible that I will go out of my way to see it punished. This could stem from being bullied a bunch as a kid and that's fine. There was a girl we caught wind of at work who was being bullied at school because "girls can't like star wars!". Seriously. This is the shit that is out there.

    What did we do? Hooked her up with so much Star Wars swag she didn't know what to do with it all. Why? Cause fuck that noise. Be who you want to be, kid.

    Daaaaaaw.

  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    Gatsby wrote: »
    Apparently when it was initially investigated by authorities, they couldn't accurately track him down but now it's gotten to the point where anonymous is claiming they've found him. I'm not holding my breath until it's been confirmed and made official though.

    IF (and that's a big if) they've found him, I hope the family of that poor girl sue him into oblivion.

    Though distributing a photo of a topless 15 year old girl, could they nail him on child porn charges?

    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
    Koshian wrote: »
    JOKE'S ON YOU
    MY POTENTIAL IS ALREADY WASTED
  • King RiptorKing Riptor Registered User regular
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    There are some sick fucks in the world man they don't have any ryhme or reason.

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  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    DrZiplock wrote: »
    To paraphrase Gabe, "I will burn down everything I have to ensure a bully doesn't go without punishment."

    I find the act of bullying in any way so utterly reprehensible that I will go out of my way to see it punished. This could stem from being bullied a bunch as a kid and that's fine. There was a girl we caught wind of at work who was being bullied at school because "girls can't like star wars!". Seriously. This is the shit that is out there.

    What did we do? Hooked her up with so much Star Wars swag she didn't know what to do with it all. Why? Cause fuck that noise. Be who you want to be, kid.

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  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    There are some sick fucks in the world man they don't have any ryhme or reason.

    It even makes less sense if it was a boy her age.

    If you're a 15 year old boy and you just got a girl to show you her tits?

    That's like the holy grail to 15 year old boys.

    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
    Koshian wrote: »
    JOKE'S ON YOU
    MY POTENTIAL IS ALREADY WASTED
  • King RiptorKing Riptor Registered User regular
    Karl wrote: »
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    There are some sick fucks in the world man they don't have any ryhme or reason.

    It even makes less sense if it was a boy her age.

    If you're a 15 year old boy and you just got a girl to show you her tits?

    That's like the holy grail to 15 year old boys.

    I mean she could have turned him down in that scenario but it sounds like a pretty aggressive sexual predator intent on torturing this girl not a 15 year old kid.

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  • TheBigEasyTheBigEasy Registered User regular
    Yeah "flattering her into flashing the camera" doesn't sound like a 15 year old would be capable of.

  • Dead LegendDead Legend Registered User regular
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    I take it you've seen the side by side image with her and her story up there (except its "flashes her tits and has sex with a guy in a relationship") with the poor dorky looking guy "age 15, bullied about being ugly, commits suicide and no one cares"

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  • BroloBrolo Broseidon Lord of the BroceanRegistered User regular
    DrZiplock wrote: »
    To paraphrase Gabe, "I will burn down everything I have to ensure a bully doesn't go without punishment."

    I find the act of bullying in any way so utterly reprehensible that I will go out of my way to see it punished. This could stem from being bullied a bunch as a kid and that's fine. There was a girl we caught wind of at work who was being bullied at school because "girls can't like star wars!". Seriously. This is the shit that is out there.

    What did we do? Hooked her up with so much Star Wars swag she didn't know what to do with it all. Why? Cause fuck that noise. Be who you want to be, kid.

    post needs more awesomes

    CONTEXT: What you have just read is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying that i'm a complete dumbass.
  • Blake TBlake T Registered User regular
    I know right?

  • MalReynoldsMalReynolds The Hunter S Thompson of incredibly mild medicines Registered User regular
    I was bullied in the fourth grade.

    It was typical shit; being called a fag, being called queer, getting shoved around. I liked reading more than I liked monkey bars, so sitting around discussing Watership Down made me a pretty big target.

    One day, in the fifth grade, our guidance counselor brought in the four most bullied students to her office, and then she brought in the four biggest bullies. I was aghast; the guidance counselor wanted us to talk about how tormented we were to our tormentors, and I seemed like the only person in the room to recognize how this wouldn't solve anything. Because sitting there, crying about how hurt we were to the kids that hurt us would only give them fuel.

    I did something terrible; I was the last to speak. My contemporaries in victimhood all shared their stories about how they were pantsed and punched, how they were browbeaten and shouted down.

    When it came to me, I said that the bullies had done nothing. That I always interpreted what they were doing as fun and games. The look on my side of the table was one of incredulous derision, and the look on the other side of the table was one incredulous appreciation.

    I got invited to hang out with the bullies after that. They offered an olive branch, and I accepted. My other fellows felt betrayed, and with good reason. I ditched them.

    In the fifth grade, I rose to a modicum of popularity, standing outside, talking about South Park. I was still the biggest loser in the popular crowd, and I saw the way they'd forumlate new ways to fuck with those they considered beneath them.

    And one day, I just said, "Wouldn't it be better to not do that? What's the point? I mean, really, what have they done."

    For whatever reason, that worked. We spent the rest of the year playing mafia on the fifth grade equipment. I was still on the lowest rung of the high social ladder, by my old friends were never messed with again. When one of them started dating a 'weird' girl in middle school, one of the guys I was hanging with started talking shit about them. Thinking about slipping a note into his locker. It was bad enough that the two of them endured whispers every day.

    I said to my friend, "Why? Because he likes someone? The fuck is wrong with you."

    I did what I could to mitigate actual bullying from where I was, and in high school, my acerbic wit came to good use; I was actually popular-popular, as much as one could be as a theater geek, and whenever I saw someone picked on, I'd step in and give verbal dressing-downs. It not only worked to diffuse situations, but it brought some people together. Met one of my best friends that way.

    So, this signifies nothing other than I was a remorseful turncoat, but I like to think that I helped in my own, weird, not really helpful way.

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  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    I take it you've seen the side by side image with her and her story up there (except its "flashes her tits and has sex with a guy in a relationship") with the poor dorky looking guy "age 15, bullied about being ugly, commits suicide and no one cares"

    Actually no I haven't seen that picture.

    Though bullying someone because they're "ugly" is also fucking terrible. And someone should care if it drove a child to kill themselves.

    My comment was in regards to her MOVING away to get rid of the bullying. And the bullying spending the time to work out where she went to continue the bullying.

    I mean, that requires effort.

    I'm just at a loss to see the reasoning behind putting in that effort.

    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
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    JOKE'S ON YOU
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  • MuzzmuzzMuzzmuzz Registered User regular
    There are so many fucking assholes on the internet who think they`re pretending to play the devil`s advocate by saying "To be fair, she started it"


    Fuck you.

    I did many thing that I got made fun of. You know how long those incidents were made fun of?

    One, two weeks, a month at best. Kids and teens have very short attention spans. Now, everyso often, the old shame would pop up but it'd be quickly forgotten again "Hey, remember the time Muzzmuzz's hand-me-down jeans ripped in the crotch area? It was hilarious"

    This was a deliberate attempt by the perpetrator to keep the incident fresh in the limelight by sending the pic to everyone in school. Not just one school, two, then three schools.

    There is a an sociopath (albeit one of many) who went out of his way to purposely torment a teenage girl repeatedly. The schoolkids took it and ran with it. And what did she do, she and her parents did what they could to mitigate the situation, to no avail. And people have the audacity to keep pointing out that it was her fault, in some way, somehow. Hell, there are people saying she was 'selfish' for killing herself.


    Fuck you all.



    *"Fuck you all" refers to the douchebags who keep blaming her for flashing, and not the fine posters on this board.

  • DruhimDruhim Registered User, ClubPA regular
    Karl wrote: »
    Karl wrote: »
    What I don't understand is why bully her in the first place.

    Its just malicious on a scale that I cannot comprehend.


    I take it you've seen the side by side image with her and her story up there (except its "flashes her tits and has sex with a guy in a relationship") with the poor dorky looking guy "age 15, bullied about being ugly, commits suicide and no one cares"

    Actually no I haven't seen that picture.

    Though bullying someone because they're "ugly" is also fucking terrible. And someone should care if it drove a child to kill themselves.

    My comment was in regards to her MOVING away to get rid of the bullying. And the bullying spending the time to work out where she went to continue the bullying.

    I mean, that requires effort.

    I'm just at a loss to see the reasoning behind putting in that effort.

    There could be all sorts of motivations for him. For starters, the attention he got from others for doing it in the first place.

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  • FandyienFandyien But Otto, what about us? Registered User regular
    some of the motivational posters/macros i've seen about that girl have been absolutely despicable

    just the most misoginystic, victim blamey heinous shit

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  • TefTef Registered User regular
    You don't think 15 year old boys is capable of that? I know a 15 year old kid a few years younger than me filmed his girlfriend sucking him off and he put burned it on a DVD and sold that shit to people.

    He not only reproduced the video and aired it without her consent he made a profit doing it

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  • FandyienFandyien But Otto, what about us? Registered User regular
    Tef wrote: »
    You don't think 15 year old boys is capable of that? I know a 15 year old kid a few years younger than me filmed his girlfriend sucking him off and he put burned it on a DVD and sold that shit to people.

    He not only reproduced the video and aired it without her consent he made a profit doing it

    in a perfect world the only people being bullied would be people who do things like this

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  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    Fandyien wrote: »
    some of the motivational posters/macros i've seen about that girl have been absolutely despicable

    just the most misoginystic, victim blamey heinous shit

    I'd like to think posting anything like that here is a ban-able offence.

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  • King RiptorKing Riptor Registered User regular
    I really want to meet a person who says a 15 year old is capable of making smart choices in a consistent manner and its their fault they made a mistake like trusting a suave older person.

    So I can kick them.in the mouth.

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  • TefTef Registered User regular
    Hey for those of you who dob't get how nasty online bullying is think of it like this.

    You know when you know people are snickering about you in the hallway? It's that but when you're at home.

    Other shit like friending your parents and family. Think about instead of someone saying they fucked your mother, they're saying your mother's name. Shit like that

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  • nightmarennynightmarenny Registered User regular
    I really want to meet a person who says a 15 year old is capable of making smart choices in a consistent manner and its their fault they made a mistake like trusting a suave older person.

    So I can kick them.in the mouth.

    Man, even then it takes a special kinda stupid to sell a self made porno instead of just, y'know, enjoying the fact that you have a sexually generous girlfriend.

    ...That was not a good way to phrase that but I can't think of a good one.

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  • KarlKarl Registered User regular
    Tef wrote: »
    Hey for those of you who dob't get how nasty online bullying is think of it like this.

    You know when you know people are snickering about you in the hallway? It's that but when you're at home.

    Other shit like friending your parents and family. Think about instead of someone saying they fucked your mother, they're saying your mother's name. Shit like that

    When I was at school, some tossers prank called my house.

    Then proceeded to bully me because my Indian mother had an Indian accent.

    YOU'RE ALL BABIES.
    SO MUCH POTENTIAL TO WASTE.
    Koshian wrote: »
    JOKE'S ON YOU
    MY POTENTIAL IS ALREADY WASTED
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