I debated posting this with an alt, but eh, fuck it.
Pull up a chair, let me tell you a quick story.
Nine years ago my mother re-married a fella, who at the time was a foreign national, from middle east sandy climates. It was one of those 'met on the Internet' kinds of things, and while I wasn't crazy about it, if Mom was happy, I was happy. She'd been single the whole duration of raising me as a single mom, and I was glad for her. The guy she married got a job on a tropical Pacific Island, and she relocated with him. The guy works radiation machines in oncology clinics, which is a ridiculously difficult profession, requiring a profuse amount of schooling and certifications. While they lived on this Island, he accrued OTJ experience, passed his tests eventually, and they've just relocated to the midwest.
The problem is this: He's dying. It's an illness that one can seek treatment for, but he refuses to do so. And without being on an organ donor list (which he isn't, and doesn't want to be on it seems), and without treatment, it's all but an inevitability that in the next year or two (maybe longer, maybe shorter), he won't be around any more. He has no fear of death. None. I suspect it's the courage brought on by devout faith, but it is what it is. As far as I can tell, he's okay with dying - if it happens, it happens (and it WILL happen).
I'm not close to him, and have no real attachment to him, but my concern is for my mother, both her mental health, and her financial health. They have damn decent money in the bank, and she's the beneficiary for his life insurance policy. He doesn't have a will, because he doesn't want his estranged family getting his possessions or wealth (I don't know why, nor do I care). She's a teacher - 20 years in the field, but she's in her mid fifties now, and I can't help but wonder how in the heck her retirement would help - a teachers pension isn't something I think really goes far.
So given this inevitability of a relatively soon death, how can my mother prepare? Are there any legal pitfalls to watch out for? What can we do to be in the best position possible when this all turns to shit real quick?
This wasn't easy to write. But I hope the good folks in H/A have some wise words to share.
I think Pringles original intention was to make tennis balls... but on the day the rubber was supposed to show up a truckload of potatoes came. Pringles is a laid-back company, so they just said, "Fuck it, cut em up!".