If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
I've never had anything i can really call a "relationship"
which kinda sucks!
but like, circumstance
so whateverrrrrr
I'm sort of in the same boat. There were two guys in high school that were very fixed on having the "boyfriend" label despite the fact that they were the least qualified for it. No way was I ready for a relationship in high school. And I was never "official" with the two guys that I have cared about most since then. "Relationships" are a messy field for definition.
oh no I have no problems with definitions here
either things that fit squarely into "fling" or things that fit squarely into "drunken mistakes"
or "unrequited love what are you even doing here already engaged even I'm better looking than your fiancee argh and oh godamnit he's a nice guy too now I can't even hate him why are you doing this to me"
Guy I'm with now told me that he was engaged. He was with a girl for three years and they were going to get married, but it didn't work out. He has infinitely more relationship experience than I can conceive at this point. Kind of intimidating.
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ShivahnUnaware of her barrel shifter privilegeWestern coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderatormod
I've never had anything i can really call a "relationship"
which kinda sucks!
but like, circumstance
so whateverrrrrr
I'm sort of in the same boat. There were two guys in high school that were very fixed on having the "boyfriend" label despite the fact that they were the least qualified for it. No way was I ready for a relationship in high school. And I was never "official" with the two guys that I have cared about most since then. "Relationships" are a messy field for definition.
Don't bother with definition! Make sure you both know what you and the other wants and what is expected, and then you have what you have, and it's awesome and custom-made.
In real life, I am exactly the same as I am on here, only my repulsiveness is far more insidious
You have a big hairy spider in your sig. You can't top that level of repulsiveness irl.
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ShivahnUnaware of her barrel shifter privilegeWestern coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderatormod
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
Yeah everyone is super reasonable, and we've been living together in peace for three years. And we're in the last month of our lease.
It's just funny to me at this point. Like, how does your brain work that way. "Hey can my friend stay here?" "Sure" "Okay well you take care of him while I go on with my life."
Well, I suppose it's possible there's no real expectation for you to entertain the friend.
Like the friend just needs somewhere to be, but doesn't want to be in the way or anything.
I've never had anything i can really call a "relationship"
which kinda sucks!
but like, circumstance
so whateverrrrrr
How old are you again?
I had a multiple year girlfriend in high school but I'm not sure I'd count that. After that I didn't have a relationship for years, and again, it was different from most.
twenty...
(counting)
one. Twenty-one.
I have to count too. Sometimes.
I didn't have an adult relationship until after that.
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
Most of my intimidation comes through sheer volume.
Like, I'm not a loud dude, but I can be.
I've never had to resort to violence because of it!
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Ravenhpltc24 on
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simonwolfi can feel a differencetoday, a differenceRegistered Userregular
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
It has? Well I mean, that's why you need to set it up explicitly. I mean "boyfriend" means different things to different people too, so you'll want to go over that anyway...
Also that would be totally adorable and you should do that.
In real life I'm naturally pretty introverted, like even around my friends I usually prefer to be a listener rather than a talker. But I also used to coach speech and debate and I've worked in the hospitality industry for years, so I can play a pretty charming fucker for a while, it's just kind of tiring.
A trap is for fish: when you've got the fish, you can forget the trap. A snare is for rabbits: when you've got the rabbit, you can forget the snare. Words are for meaning: when you've got the meaning, you can forget the words.
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BeNarwhalThe Work Left UnfinishedRegistered Userregular
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
In real life I'm naturally pretty introverted, like even around my friends I usually prefer to be a listener rather than a talker. But I also used to coach speech and debate and I've worked in the hospitality industry for years, so I can play a pretty charming fucker for a while, it's just kind of tiring.
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
Most of my intimidation comes through sheer volume.
Like, I'm not a loud dude, but I can be.
I've never had to resort to violence because of it!
Also because I am a fairly rational person.
Are you trying to be loud and intim, or are people getting intim when you get loud?
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
alternatively
say
"will you be my boyfriend?"
because if he is anything like me it would be too cute and his heart would melt and any and all aversion to commitment wouldn't matter because saying no would be like pushing a puppy through a meat grinder
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
Most of my intimidation comes through sheer volume.
Like, I'm not a loud dude, but I can be.
I've never had to resort to violence because of it!
Also because I am a fairly rational person.
Are you trying to be loud and intim, or are people getting intim when you get loud?
You seem even keel to me.
intim is norwegian for intimate
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
In real life I'm naturally pretty introverted, like even around my friends I usually prefer to be a listener rather than a talker. But I also used to coach speech and debate and I've worked in the hospitality industry for years, so I can play a pretty charming fucker for a while, it's just kind of tiring.
That's pretty much textbook introvert, yeah.
I'm fairly gregarious for periods of time and then I sort of crash and just want to read a book in a ball on the floor for a couple days. It goes in waves.
simon, please stop. Self-deprecation is one thing, but this is outright self-hatred, and it's just hurting you. I liked it when we played Borderlands last year; you were congenial and shit. You're not an awful person, so don't believe you are.
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Ewww. I could never say "so what are we, anyway?" I will need to come up with a scripted game plan of how to breach this topic of conversation. Also he is attentive as fuck.
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Who goes to a strip club to watch TV shows and movies?
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Ewww. I could never say "so what are we, anyway?" I will need to come up with a scripted game plan of how to breach this topic of conversation. Also he is attentive as fuck.
my for real advice is be as adorable as possible about it
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BeNarwhalThe Work Left UnfinishedRegistered Userregular
If push comes to shove [chat], the plan is we all pool our resources and live together in a compound. Grow our own food, solar panels, puppies&kittens, the works.
We're gonna be okay.
Living with [chat]ters? We would strangle each other to death by the third week.
All evidence points to [chat] being able to get along in person.
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
Most of my intimidation comes through sheer volume.
Like, I'm not a loud dude, but I can be.
I've never had to resort to violence because of it!
Also because I am a fairly rational person.
Are you trying to be loud and intim, or are people getting intim when you get loud?
You seem even keel to me.
Mostly the former. I'm often pretty quiet in person, actually (unless I've had a few, then I can get kinda sloppy with the volume knob).
So when I AM loud, I can kind of use it as an instrument of intimidation if that's my goal.
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simonwolfi can feel a differencetoday, a differenceRegistered Userregular
simon, please stop. Self-deprecation is one thing, but this is outright self-hatred, and it's just hurting you. I liked it when we played Borderlands last year; you were congenial and shit. You're not an awful person, so don't believe you are.
When that's reflected in real life, I'll believe it
simon, please stop. Self-deprecation is one thing, but this is outright self-hatred, and it's just hurting you. I liked it when we played Borderlands last year; you were congenial and shit. You're not an awful person, so don't believe you are.
When that's reflected in real life, I'll believe it
how do you expect it to be reflected in real life?
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simonwolfi can feel a differencetoday, a differenceRegistered Userregular
Anyway, I've been warned by the mods in the past about being a sad sack, so I will stop posting about it and just dwell on it internally
back to your regularly scheduled cat pictures
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ShivahnUnaware of her barrel shifter privilegeWestern coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderatormod
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Ewww. I could never say "so what are we, anyway?" I will need to come up with a scripted game plan of how to breach this topic of conversation. Also he is attentive as fuck.
Just ask him adorably!
It will be adorable!
I mean everyone here says it will be and we have good tastes in adorable.
Look at how many of our awesomes are from pictures of kittens.
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BeNarwhalThe Work Left UnfinishedRegistered Userregular
Like seriously, every time you start thinking about definitions and what makes something a 'real' X just stop and reevaluate everything based on the facts without regards to categories.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the fast. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Who goes to a strip club to watch TV shows and movies?
The scenario kinda went off the tracks pretty quickly.
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
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Hey, I do something like that!
It's mostly fear-based respect, though. :rotate:
Guy I'm with now told me that he was engaged. He was with a girl for three years and they were going to get married, but it didn't work out. He has infinitely more relationship experience than I can conceive at this point. Kind of intimidating.
Don't bother with definition! Make sure you both know what you and the other wants and what is expected, and then you have what you have, and it's awesome and custom-made.
You have a big hairy spider in your sig. You can't top that level of repulsiveness irl.
That is my suggestion as the hugest hypocrite ever.
We'll all learn jujitsu and it'll be great!
Well, I suppose it's possible there's no real expectation for you to entertain the friend.
Like the friend just needs somewhere to be, but doesn't want to be in the way or anything.
Maybe.
no shit.
it's a friday, man!
also the drinking too much was just a cover.
I have to count sometimes when I'm sober too.
Most of my intimidation comes through sheer volume.
Like, I'm not a loud dude, but I can be.
I've never had to resort to violence because of it!
Also because I am a fairly rational person.
Yeah but... this has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. I thought I had something that evidently wasn't there from his side. I kind of want to say "will you be my boyfriend?" to Boy and hope that it comes off as endearing.
Challenge accepted
(also it is a spider crab)
I have it on good authority that syndalis and nexus do this every "sausage saturday"
so much you guys
so much
No I don't.
I don't drink too much. I drink often and I drink a bunch when I do, because the friends I've got now drink often and we drink a bunch when we do.
But like, shit, I've had far more unhealthy drinking habits before when I was drinking far less.
Damnit, what am I supposed to do with this erection for one month?
https://twitter.com/Hooraydiation
It has? Well I mean, that's why you need to set it up explicitly. I mean "boyfriend" means different things to different people too, so you'll want to go over that anyway...
Also that would be totally adorable and you should do that.
Here's precisely how the conversation goes down.
You two are doing whatever, sitting together, cuddled up, all that jazz. While you only half have his attention, say "So what are we, anyway?"
"Hmm?" He'll respond, distracted by the movie / TV show / strippers.
"Like, are we boyfriend / girlfriend, or...?"
"Oh! Hmm, yeah, that sounds good."
And then your romantic evening at the strip club continues.
Teach me how to schmooze, Kana.
Are you trying to be loud and intim, or are people getting intim when you get loud?
You seem even keel to me.
:winky:
alternatively
say
"will you be my boyfriend?"
because if he is anything like me it would be too cute and his heart would melt and any and all aversion to commitment wouldn't matter because saying no would be like pushing a puppy through a meat grinder
intim is norwegian for intimate
That's pretty much textbook introvert, yeah.
I'm fairly gregarious for periods of time and then I sort of crash and just want to read a book in a ball on the floor for a couple days. It goes in waves.
Ewww. I could never say "so what are we, anyway?" I will need to come up with a scripted game plan of how to breach this topic of conversation. Also he is attentive as fuck.
Who goes to a strip club to watch TV shows and movies?
my for real advice is be as adorable as possible about it
Mostly the former. I'm often pretty quiet in person, actually (unless I've had a few, then I can get kinda sloppy with the volume knob).
So when I AM loud, I can kind of use it as an instrument of intimidation if that's my goal.
When that's reflected in real life, I'll believe it
how do you expect it to be reflected in real life?
back to your regularly scheduled cat pictures
Just ask him adorably!
It will be adorable!
I mean everyone here says it will be and we have good tastes in adorable.
Look at how many of our awesomes are from pictures of kittens.
The scenario kinda went off the tracks pretty quickly.
It is a goddamn shame we lost this beautiful crazy bastard.
@Kana is backup!
Geth, close the thread