I add people to my favourites so I can remember to look at the profile again and send a message sadly most of the time when I go back these women have deleted thier accounts
I have been asked for ID on a date it felt odd and really forced
A friend of mine went on a few dates with a gentlemandouchebag only to find out he lied about his age by 10 years. I can understand the ID thing a bit more because of that experience.
I know someone at work who lied about his age by ten years on his profile. I pointed out this will eventually catch up with him and the girls he meets will be like, "Oh look . . . A LIAR." But not to worry, he has a plan. To never tell his future girlfriend the truth ever. Great plan!!
So blame him and people like him for people demanding to see IDs, I guess.
I know someone at work who lied about his age by ten years on his profile. I pointed out this will eventually catch up with him and the girls he meets will be like, "Oh look . . . A LIAR." But not to worry, he has a plan. To never tell his future girlfriend the truth ever. Great plan!!
So blame him and people like him for people demanding to see IDs, I guess.
The plan is probably not the best but the effects of the reveal may vary. A friend of mind did something similar, tweaking her age down from the 40s (she definitely doesn't look her age unless you pay really, really close attention to certain wrinkle areas), and the guy she met through OKC had a lot of fun teasing her about it but wasn't declaring deceit and chicanery. Who knows, he might wind up meeting a woman that also is lying about her age. They could then make a screenplay for a romantic comedy.
Stuck in hospital overnight, my doctor is hot and I have no idea how to flirt with the man when he's taking my blood. But I work here too so maybe I can find him another time. Now I feel the creepy one. Maybe a picture of me in this gown will attract some good Internet daters!
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Been thinking of dipping my toes in the internet dating ring. I made a profile a while back (maybe two?). Long enough ago I just made a whole new one.
I'm kind of at a lose as to what is normal for a first message though. My first instinct is just "Hey, I see you like x, that's really awesome--what do you think about y aspect of x?" but I don't really know . . . that also seems too simple which apparently has been my downfall in my irl attempts.
Been thinking of dipping my toes in the internet dating ring. I made a profile a while back (maybe two?). Long enough ago I just made a whole new one.
I'm kind of at a lose as to what is normal for a first message though. My first instinct is just "Hey, I see you like x, that's really awesome--what do you think about y aspect of x?" but I don't really know . . . that also seems too simple which apparently has been my downfall in my irl attempts.
Maybe a little more 'this is why x is also important to me'(but not a lot), and funny doesn't hurt, unless it's self-deprecating 'here's a reason not to fuck me' funny.
Ok you know what give mentally with women. Even the short girls want six foot guys fine, they want be able to say to short guys to suck it up when they could be well a fat cow due to treating their bodies like shit and still get all the support in the world and even support groups popping up from them fine.
However the one thing that hasn't been able to stop pissing me off is the fact I'm constantly blow off for something I can't change without crippling surgery, and I'm told I'm not allowed to be bitter about it.
You don't have to shave your legs, wear make up, learn to walk in heels, wear a push up bra, co ordinate your underwear, worry about cellulite, wear extensions, skip dessert, shave your armpits, show some skin but oh shit not too much skin, fuckin WAX, bleach your facial hair, get an eating disorder, pluck your eyebrows, keep fit but not muscular because muscles are gross, put your body back into shape after pregnancy, or plan to account for the fact you're going to bleed from your genitals every month until youre grey. So yes, how about you stop being bitter about it.
Show me which one of those things is a must have for all girls, because I have dated women who have not observed at least two entries on that list each, and we got on just fine.
Show me where its a must have that all guys be plus six foot. Because that's the point I'm responding to.
Been thinking of dipping my toes in the internet dating ring. I made a profile a while back (maybe two?). Long enough ago I just made a whole new one.
I'm kind of at a lose as to what is normal for a first message though. My first instinct is just "Hey, I see you like x, that's really awesome--what do you think about y aspect of x?" but I don't really know . . . that also seems too simple which apparently has been my downfall in my irl attempts.
Maybe a little more 'this is why x is also important to me'(but not a lot), and funny doesn't hurt, unless it's self-deprecating 'here's a reason not to fuck me' funny.
Gotcha. I didn't really know where the including stuff about me line was since . . . well, it's more or less all on my page. Welp, here we go, I suppose.
Also, is it proper to just use your username at first, or do most people use their actual name in messages? I really don't know the site's protocol is about that (i'd only be use my first name for the record, if I went that route)
Also, is it proper to just use your username at first, or do most people use their actual name in messages? I really don't know the site's protocol is about that (i'd only be use my first name for the record, if I went that route)
Don't use your username, use your first name. It seems typical for the ladies not to mention their name now though, and it didn't use to be that way.
So I have exchanged a few messages with a lady on OkCupid and we were having a pleasant conversation, and then two weeks go by and she doesn't respond
It says under her "you should message me if" section: "if you're at least 6 feet tall"
I message her again a few days ago with a half-joking "I hope you didn't lose interest just because I'm not 6 feet tall!"
So I have exchanged a few messages with a lady on OkCupid and we were having a pleasant conversation, and then two weeks go by and she doesn't respond
It says under her "you should message me if" section: "if you're at least 6 feet tall"
I message her again a few days ago with a half-joking "I hope you didn't lose interest just because I'm not 6 feet tall!"
Height is only an issue if you make it one. If you're short and the girl wants tall guys, go after shorter girls or girls who don't want tall guys. There are millions of them out there...literally millions. I'm 5 ft 7 and have never had a problem. I typically date girls 5ft3 or shorter, but my gf of 6 months met on OkCupid is only slightly shorter than I am. She doesn't care and if anything I'm the one more conscious of it when she wears heels and is taller than me...but, meh. This is just another preference that some girls have...deal with it. Don't whine over how it's not fair. Work on the stuff you can control and fuck the rest.
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Height is only an issue if you make it one. If you're short and the girl wants tall guys, go after shorter girls or girls who don't want tall guys. There are millions of them out there...literally millions. I'm 5 ft 7 and have never had a problem. I typically date girls 5ft3 or shorter, but my gf of 6 months met on OkCupid is only slightly shorter than I am. She doesn't care and if anything I'm the one more conscious of it when she wears heels and is taller than me...but, meh. This is just another preference that some girls have...deal with it. Don't whine over how it's not fair. Work on the stuff you can control and fuck the rest.
Separate from whether or not this is good advice, this is phrased so condescendingly that I cannot imagine anyone it applies to being able to be helped by it.
"I've never had a problem" but "deal with it" and "don't whine"
Empathy!
If the last line was all you wrote I'd have agreed completely.
Well frig, a girl I was messaging this weekend has disappeared. Why do girls create accounts, start conversations, and suddenly close down everything and leave without warning?
Well frig, a girl I was messaging this weekend has disappeared. Why do girls create accounts, start conversations, and suddenly close down everything and leave without warning?
They got annoyed by the creepy bullshit, weren't actually interested in dating, found someone, 1 of a million other reasons, or were scared off by you, due to you being too stalkerish.
redx has been kidnapped by Richy and is being held for ransom! Solve the riddle to set em' free, or I'll hand em' over to Clamps!
I seem to be quite SERIOUS But really I'm just mysterious I'll give you some HELP, the answers not on yelp So you'll just have to ASK one of us Which forumer am I?
Hmm well I'm guessing at least some of the handsome men from around the world that view me are you people so someone tell me what our match % is! http://www.okcupid.com/profile/angelofages
A drunk guy on the bus tonight asked me to smack him in the face. When he got off the bus he licked the window by my seat. It seems that I'm just as lucky in real life with men!
Hacksaw has been kidnapped by spacekungfuman and is being held for ransom! Solve the riddle to set em' free, or I'll hand em' over to Clamps!
I constantly attacked, but not on the OFFENSIVE You might have seen my massive missives Partial to warcraft, but no white KNIGHT, Disagree? You’re in for a fight! Which forumer am I?
Angelina has been kidnapped by AngelHedgie and is being held for ransom! Solve the riddle to set em' free, or I'll hand em' over to Clamps!
My name is something you’d find near toilets But that’s nothing compared to the shit I deal with For a brief stint, I tried adoption But the kid I got turned out to be rotten Which forumer am I?
Hmm well I'm guessing at least some of the handsome men from around the world that view me are you people so someone tell me what our match % is! http://www.okcupid.com/profile/angelofages
A drunk guy on the bus tonight asked me to smack him in the face. When he got off the bus he licked the window by my seat. It seems that I'm just as lucky in real life with men!
All of 87%.
Your profile isn't unwelcoming at all, which is nice. For some reason, a lot of women near me seem to have "I don't even want to be doing online dating, so if I bother to answer your message count yourself lucky" as their default approach. I can understand that nobody wants to be inundated with messages, but nodody's tying you down and forcing you. Where does that attitude get you?
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Hmm well I'm guessing at least some of the handsome men from around the world that view me are you people so someone tell me what our match % is! http://www.okcupid.com/profile/angelofages
A drunk guy on the bus tonight asked me to smack him in the face. When he got off the bus he licked the window by my seat. It seems that I'm just as lucky in real life with men!
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A friend of mine went on a few dates with a gentlemandouchebag only to find out he lied about his age by 10 years. I can understand the ID thing a bit more because of that experience.
So blame him and people like him for people demanding to see IDs, I guess.
The plan is probably not the best but the effects of the reveal may vary. A friend of mind did something similar, tweaking her age down from the 40s (she definitely doesn't look her age unless you pay really, really close attention to certain wrinkle areas), and the guy she met through OKC had a lot of fun teasing her about it but wasn't declaring deceit and chicanery. Who knows, he might wind up meeting a woman that also is lying about her age. They could then make a screenplay for a romantic comedy.
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Of course, on the OKC site it just said "SOMEONE 5 starred you, join A List to find out who!"
But yeah, email just said who it was. So. Starring people does tell them.
I'm kind of at a lose as to what is normal for a first message though. My first instinct is just "Hey, I see you like x, that's really awesome--what do you think about y aspect of x?" but I don't really know . . . that also seems too simple which apparently has been my downfall in my irl attempts.
I took our argument to PMs, because I am the better (taller, read: more of a) man. :bz :bz :bz
Maybe a little more 'this is why x is also important to me'(but not a lot), and funny doesn't hurt, unless it's self-deprecating 'here's a reason not to fuck me' funny.
Even if women are shorter than me, they still seem to prefer men taller than me.
My last few romantic relationships have been with women who were slightly taller than me, however.
Well I hear tell you're pretty handsome, sooo...
Gotcha. I didn't really know where the including stuff about me line was since . . . well, it's more or less all on my page. Welp, here we go, I suppose.
Also, is it proper to just use your username at first, or do most people use their actual name in messages? I really don't know the site's protocol is about that (i'd only be use my first name for the record, if I went that route)
It says under her "you should message me if" section: "if you're at least 6 feet tall"
I message her again a few days ago with a half-joking "I hope you didn't lose interest just because I'm not 6 feet tall!"
Last night, her reply:
"pretty much"
shot through the heart, lady
Give me her info.
There are two words that come to mind, I didn't know if I'd get in trouble for posting them. After the night I've had, just, eurgh.
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edit: also I'm 5'9"! I'm hardly a hobbit.
Separate from whether or not this is good advice, this is phrased so condescendingly that I cannot imagine anyone it applies to being able to be helped by it.
"I've never had a problem" but "deal with it" and "don't whine"
Empathy!
If the last line was all you wrote I'd have agreed completely.
So long as I coat his forums in BLUE
Which forumer am I?
They got annoyed by the creepy bullshit, weren't actually interested in dating, found someone, 1 of a million other reasons, or were scared off by you, due to you being too stalkerish.
Why you got to be so stalkeris?
But really I'm just mysterious
I'll give you some HELP, the answers not on yelp
So you'll just have to ASK one of us
Which forumer am I?
67%, it seems.
You might have seen my massive missives
Partial to warcraft, but no white KNIGHT,
Disagree? You’re in for a fight!
Which forumer am I?
But that’s nothing compared to the shit I deal with
For a brief stint, I tried adoption
But the kid I got turned out to be rotten
Which forumer am I?
All of 87%.
Your profile isn't unwelcoming at all, which is nice. For some reason, a lot of women near me seem to have "I don't even want to be doing online dating, so if I bother to answer your message count yourself lucky" as their default approach. I can understand that nobody wants to be inundated with messages, but nodody's tying you down and forcing you. Where does that attitude get you?
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I'm not sure why you persist
For am I an UNLUCKY COUNCILMAN
Who does simply does not exist
Which forumer am I?
90!
So yeah, ummm, marry me?
But all things come to pass
In the end, it ain't so bad
I gained a lot of CLASS
Which forumer am I?
95