if the dude cares about what dish you order that much he is a douche anyway
this is another thing [chat] needs to take collective action on. mya, send us links to your potential okcupid amours prior to engaging with them. you'll be in a rewarding relationship in no time. look at some of our success stories like, uh, richy?
if the dude cares about what dish you order that much he is a douche anyway
I wouldn't go that far, but if he wants to pay then yeah he wants to pay.
if he wants to pay then that's fine, if he has $ restrictions he should let her know, mya should not be auto-shaming herself in this situation it's fucking ridiculous
I'm just saying it's a far leap from Mya internally pressuring herself on the assumption of what the dude believed to saying the guy's a douche.
IF he is the type of guy that would really care that much THEN he is a douche
So Mya did you at least enjoy your date's company?
To be honest, I cannot tell if he liked me or not. He was looking around most of the time, not really looking at me.
And I don't know; not really any fireworks you know; but he didn't immediately get up and say "OK LET'S GO" as soon as dinner ended, either.
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The whole mindset and history behind Sweet 16/Quinceañera is really disturbing to me, and nothing moreso about that than it's still a thing.
Always kinda odd when I go to the Galleria on a Saturday and have to remind myself that's not a group of kids coming from their prom.
It just seems like such a gross condoning of oppressive objectification and sexualizing of young girls.
But, I mean, that's definitely a thing that people do.
not to apologize for the sheer grossness of quinceaneras but the tradition is based on the idea that a 16 year-old girl is now a woman
it's exactly the same thing as a bar/ bat mitzvah
It can be, depending on how religiously-tinged the ceremony is, but Bar/Bat Mitzvahs tend to be much more about the person's transition into the religious community.
In that way, S16/Quince is much more akin to debutante balls, being little more than a patriarchal expression of permission given to another person for control of their own body, performed in front of a crowd of their closest friends and family.
i mean that is kind of the anthropological basis of all coming-of-age ceremonies i think
this person is an adult => this person has agency over their lives => this person has bodily and sexual agency
the thing i hate about quinceaneras is that they're incredibly crass, what with the preening and the pinning of money on the dress and all of that.
but i think the anthro subtext is nearly universal.
So Mya did you at least enjoy your date's company?
To be honest, I cannot tell if he liked me or not. He was looking around most of the time, not really looking at me.
And I don't know; not really any fireworks you know; but he didn't immediately get up and say "OK LET'S GO" as soon as dinner ended, either.
if the dude cares about what dish you order that much he is a douche anyway
I wouldn't go that far, but if he wants to pay then yeah he wants to pay.
if he wants to pay then that's fine, if he has $ restrictions he should let her know, mya should not be auto-shaming herself in this situation it's fucking ridiculous
I'm just saying it's a far leap from Mya internally pressuring herself on the assumption of what the dude believed to saying the guy's a douche.
IF he is the type of guy that would really care that much THEN he is a douche
this is an if then statement
BRAH
/imperial red
There is room in your if statement for a guy who cares about prices AND is not a douche.
It's on both of them to talk about each of their expectations before a mismatch of expectations becomes a problem.
e: SIS.
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if the dude cares about what dish you order that much he is a douche anyway
I wouldn't go that far, but if he wants to pay then yeah he wants to pay.
if he wants to pay then that's fine, if he has $ restrictions he should let her know, mya should not be auto-shaming herself in this situation it's fucking ridiculous
I'm just saying it's a far leap from Mya internally pressuring herself on the assumption of what the dude believed to saying the guy's a douche.
IF he is the type of guy that would really care that much THEN he is a douche
this is an if then statement
BRAH
/imperial red
There is room in your if statement for a guy who cares about prices AND is not a douche.
It's on both of them to talk about each of their expectations before a mismatch of expectations becomes a problem.
oh my fucking GOD ked
ok you are right
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if the dude cares about what dish you order that much he is a douche anyway
I wouldn't go that far, but if he wants to pay then yeah he wants to pay.
if he wants to pay then that's fine, if he has $ restrictions he should let her know, mya should not be auto-shaming herself in this situation it's fucking ridiculous
I'm just saying it's a far leap from Mya internally pressuring herself on the assumption of what the dude believed to saying the guy's a douche.
IF he is the type of guy that would really care that much THEN he is a douche
this is an if then statement
BRAH
/imperial red
There is room in your if statement for a guy who cares about prices AND is not a douche.
It's on both of them to talk about each of their expectations before a mismatch of expectations becomes a problem.
oh my fucking GOD ked
ok you are right
Yeah I've been pretty damn pedantic for the last two days in particular.
It doesn't feel good for me either.
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yup, I used to be in band in high school and played piano.
yup, I was a student senator, and a sorority. lots of fun; made a lot of girl friends.
I LOVE TO DANCE.
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So Mya did you at least enjoy your date's company?
To be honest, I cannot tell if he liked me or not. He was looking around most of the time, not really looking at me.
And I don't know; not really any fireworks you know; but he didn't immediately get up and say "OK LET'S GO" as soon as dinner ended, either.
Well good luck, I hope you get another date if you want one.
And if you want one, consider being the one to bring it up even if he doesn't.
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this is another thing [chat] needs to take collective action on. mya, send us links to your potential okcupid amours prior to engaging with them. you'll be in a rewarding relationship in no time. look at some of our success stories like, uh, richy?
IF he is the type of guy that would really care that much THEN he is a douche
this is an if then statement
BRAH
/imperial red
all leather jacket and blue hair sending incomprehensible snapchat videos.
what a delight!
which is either winning the game or being too lazy to participate depending on how you look at it
To be honest, I cannot tell if he liked me or not. He was looking around most of the time, not really looking at me.
And I don't know; not really any fireworks you know; but he didn't immediately get up and say "OK LET'S GO" as soon as dinner ended, either.
man that's just a Mexican thing
Mexicans are weird
wasn't
pass
I approve of blue hair
is her skirt short
There is room in your if statement for a guy who cares about prices AND is not a douche.
It's on both of them to talk about each of their expectations before a mismatch of expectations becomes a problem.
e: SIS.
"no"
"did you do any clubs in college?"
"no"
"do you like to dance?"
"no"
Dude this happened like, 4 hours ago?
Nothing is blown. Call the fucking girl up and tell her you are a dumbass and actually interested. I highly doubt she's moved on.
oh my fucking GOD ked
ok you are right
This is why open ended questions are better.
Yeah I've been pretty damn pedantic for the last two days in particular.
It doesn't feel good for me either.
Well yeah you're right. Tonight is blown, but, yeah. I'm just really annoyed at myself.
I mean
there is oblivious and there is ignoring that.
holy cow what boring answers
I refuse to accept that "a girl among the multitudes is into me" is bragging even in [chat]
I played the game until I beat it.
gg no re, single life.
Yeah the guy could be doing a lot better.
I mean, you can do a lot even with bad questions.
He sounds really boring and dull.
Pass.
yup, I used to be in band in high school and played piano.
yup, I was a student senator, and a sorority. lots of fun; made a lot of girl friends.
I LOVE TO DANCE.
y/n questions are terrible
they lead to y/n answers
So, what do you do for fun/professionally?
What do you like about it?
What's your family like?
If your date answers no/no/no to that, they are in a coma.
Well good luck, I hope you get another date if you want one.
And if you want one, consider being the one to bring it up even if he doesn't.
no but her jeans are black and her boots are high
best kinda lady basically.
except she might be crazy so...
i seent it
Has anyone noticed that cereal fucking sucks lately?
yeah see I totally asked those questions right off my bat, my rules are to talk about the F words
Family
Friends
Food
From?
Well, like I said you can do a lot even with no great questions.
No reason why they guy couldn't go "No, I didn't do any clubs in college, instead I spent my time doing..."
...and since you are a man I doubt that will stop you even if it is to the point where it really should