[...] achieving a singular purpose against statistically long odds.
i've caught myself in a situation with a particular lady that i feel pretty fantastic about, but there's a lingering issue about 6 months in that i'm having a lot of trouble reconciling. if anyone has had a similar experience and can offer advice, i'd really love to hear it.
like i said, we're hitting just about the 6 month mark. it's been about 2 years since i've given anyone a really solid try in a relationship. i've dodged between gals here and there, but she really clicked with me, and i really dig her. there have been some pretty usual trials and tribulations, but we've worked through it. i'm a really busy guy and she's a busy gal, but we've tried and we both care so it's been alright.
but we've come to a point where the passion seems absent. we treat each other like really good friends, like pals, but not necessarily like people who are going anywhere together. we've done dates, trips, and have had some great experiences, but for faults of both of our own, it seems like we just can't push past where we've fell into. she's had a lot of problems in the past and put up a lot of walls, and we've worked on that. i have the same issues. i dunno, i guess i'm afraid there's no bouncing back point.
tl;dr is there ever a point where it's too late? we both seem to care about figuring out what's going on, and we're both working and trying. but it seems like something like this should be natural, just from personal experience. just looking for a light at the end of the tunnel i guess because i really don't like giving up.
Went on date. Had good time. Didn't stick the landing. Feel like I'm unintentionally pushing away good ladies. Oh well, rejection is part of the deal. But I'm kinda thinking this is a lot of energy and time to expend for a conversation. Need to up my date game perhaps. Do I need to learn how to dance or some shit? Nah, humans aren't worth the effort.
All right, this lady just asked for date number two, to my surprise.Take note humanists and optimists, this misanthrope gets Hell of dates!
Heh, and you thought you were hot shit with your dancin' and your ideals and hopes for humanity.
Pete
Petey Peter
you can take your existential nihilism
and you can shove it up your void hole
with me because technically I am too
weeeeee hedonism+existential nihilism?!?!???
guys I think my anxiety might be getting to me
I try to frame it this way
by the time Tuesday rolls around, I'll be so emotionally exhausted that it'll be a relief to sit down and talk to another human being
Well now I'm talking about Zeldas with one girl and generating animal crossing/silent hill crossover fan fiction with another so I guess I got my wish!
Who knows if either of those conversations are going anywhere but it's nice to at least get some dang acknowledgement
So many things make sense now! I KNEW those giant black slugs hanging from the ceiling were out of place! But nooooooo, everyone just keeps insisting to drink their hallucinogenic skin secretions
Tonight I went to a country bar and line danced like a fool
And then I sang some country karaoke and some older ladies were hella swooning
Then I skyped with the lady friend from the other night
Including this subconscious incredulity at the idea of people liking me and being in a relationship and it's weird to think about but I guess good to acknowledge and get around that
Brain
Went on date. Had good time. Didn't stick the landing. Feel like I'm unintentionally pushing away good ladies. Oh well, rejection is part of the deal. But I'm kinda thinking this is a lot of energy and time to expend for a conversation. Need to up my date game perhaps. Do I need to learn how to dance or some shit? Nah, humans aren't worth the effort.
All right, this lady just asked for date number two, to my surprise.Take note humanists and optimists, this misanthrope gets Hell of dates!
Heh, and you thought you were hot shit with your dancin' and your ideals and hopes for humanity.
This woman has a legitimate superpower that's both a blessing and a curse AND a tragic back story to go with it. I can't even fucking comprehend what I just went through. Never seen anything like it. Never even heard of anything like it. Hair trigger. Multiple. For all practical purposes unending. Wondrous. The homemade croissants weren't even the highlight. Words do not suffice! They should have sent a poet.
Including this subconscious incredulity at the idea of people liking me and being in a relationship and it's weird to think about but I guess good to acknowledge and get around that
Brain
Hello, yes, this is me, the guy who has turned down dates because if the belief that people couldn't possibly be romantically interested in him.
Including this subconscious incredulity at the idea of people liking me and being in a relationship and it's weird to think about but I guess good to acknowledge and get around that
Brain
I'm like this too. I'm always amazed when people accept me, or find me attractive. I seem to expect people to dislike me by default, so it's shocking when I'm proven wrong. Yay, self-confidence... :?
Including this subconscious incredulity at the idea of people liking me and being in a relationship and it's weird to think about but I guess good to acknowledge and get around that
Brain
Hello, yes, this is me, the guy who has turned down dates because if the belief that people couldn't possibly be romantically interested in him.
I write it off on so many people who I meet, I realize, like, write off the possibility that there could be interest without thinking of it, so don't even consider making an effort a lot of the time because what, no wayyy
I realize that now, silly
You also give pastries to monsters in German folklore, it's not only monsters passing them out
A surprising amount of German culture is pastry-based
Or maybe that isn't so surprising
Maybe some people here remember the Perchten, the costumed characters often looking like devils
In an early form of the Perchten tradition, they would visit isolated houses and ask for doughnuts
And they would claim some unspecified right of retaliation if they shouldn't receive any doughnuts
We mostly know about this because authorities were very concerned about this tradition - these masked and costumed people would often carry real weapons as part of their costume
I think some of the protocols I looked at were from the 17th century
Imagine living on an isolated homestead and then suddenly a band of people dressed like devils, carrying weapons, come out of the mist, clamoring for doughnuts
At some times there were fears that people would use this tradition to commit political murders or start a rebellion
But as far as I know, there's no record of any murder which was committed, however people were tortured because they were assumed to have been somehow connected to it
The German Peasants' War broke out because a countess ordered the local peasants to collect snail shells during harvest season (after a series of already bad harvests)
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like i said, we're hitting just about the 6 month mark. it's been about 2 years since i've given anyone a really solid try in a relationship. i've dodged between gals here and there, but she really clicked with me, and i really dig her. there have been some pretty usual trials and tribulations, but we've worked through it. i'm a really busy guy and she's a busy gal, but we've tried and we both care so it's been alright.
but we've come to a point where the passion seems absent. we treat each other like really good friends, like pals, but not necessarily like people who are going anywhere together. we've done dates, trips, and have had some great experiences, but for faults of both of our own, it seems like we just can't push past where we've fell into. she's had a lot of problems in the past and put up a lot of walls, and we've worked on that. i have the same issues. i dunno, i guess i'm afraid there's no bouncing back point.
tl;dr is there ever a point where it's too late? we both seem to care about figuring out what's going on, and we're both working and trying. but it seems like something like this should be natural, just from personal experience. just looking for a light at the end of the tunnel i guess because i really don't like giving up.
Gotta recognize and try at it together. If that's too much, well, at least someone is giving up and that's sometimes how it is.
http://www.audioentropy.com/
Pete
Petey
Peter
you can take your existential nihilism
and you can shove it up your void hole
with me because technically I am too
weeeeee hedonism+existential nihilism?!?!???
I try to frame it this way
by the time Tuesday rolls around, I'll be so emotionally exhausted that it'll be a relief to sit down and talk to another human being
Don't be.
just be chill and wait like a tiger in the tall grass.
Strike when you can and let those pass that don't fit what you are looking for.
This post brought to you by someone who knows the fire but none of the afterglow.
I don't know what I like only know what I don't.
Speed I'm e-hugging you right now
I am hoping that someone great replies to you and good things happen
Who knows if either of those conversations are going anywhere but it's nice to at least get some dang acknowledgement
http://www.audioentropy.com/
I am the smoothest operator
http://www.audioentropy.com/
And then I sang some country karaoke and some older ladies were hella swooning
Then I skyped with the lady friend from the other night
Tonight was pretty good y'all
not once
but best of luck yo
Outlook is not so good on requiring either soon.
Brains
Brain
This woman has a legitimate superpower that's both a blessing and a curse AND a tragic back story to go with it. I can't even fucking comprehend what I just went through. Never seen anything like it. Never even heard of anything like it. Hair trigger. Multiple. For all practical purposes unending. Wondrous. The homemade croissants weren't even the highlight. Words do not suffice! They should have sent a poet.
hair-trigger croissants
Flaky buttery goodness.
I'm like this too. I'm always amazed when people accept me, or find me attractive. I seem to expect people to dislike me by default, so it's shocking when I'm proven wrong. Yay, self-confidence... :?
I write it off on so many people who I meet, I realize, like, write off the possibility that there could be interest without thinking of it, so don't even consider making an effort a lot of the time because what, no wayyy
I realize that now, silly
I can literally be lured in with pastries
It's like a German fairy tale up in here
A surprising amount of German culture is pastry-based
Or maybe that isn't so surprising
Unless it's a metaphor for sex, yeah, run. Otherwise, you eat that gingerbread like it deserves.
hrm?
I guess??
Maybe some people here remember the Perchten, the costumed characters often looking like devils
In an early form of the Perchten tradition, they would visit isolated houses and ask for doughnuts
And they would claim some unspecified right of retaliation if they shouldn't receive any doughnuts
We mostly know about this because authorities were very concerned about this tradition - these masked and costumed people would often carry real weapons as part of their costume
Imagine living on an isolated homestead and then suddenly a band of people dressed like devils, carrying weapons, come out of the mist, clamoring for doughnuts
This was some gothic shit
But as far as I know, there's no record of any murder which was committed, however people were tortured because they were assumed to have been somehow connected to it
my favourite bit of history that never happened
I am sure I have mentioned this before