Is there such a thing as being too aggressive on timing a second date?
Because I am thinking fuck it why not this Friday I know she is free and then I'm gone for all of the next week and then a long weekend after too - and it'd be good to hang
But I am also hesitant but I had a good time and feel like she did as well so
(It's not like I have experience to back either thought up hence asking to the crowd)
There is still that whole mental bit of breaking past that barrier of disbelief of oh, people can actually be into me too, as a thing - so maybe it's not so ludicrous and that the other person is a person who might also enjoy it, and it doesn't have to be some intricate game, or an intimidating thing that I probably subconsciously built up especially due to my age and etc
... I was/am doing some high self reflection in bed because I couldn't sleep from the beer. It's helped actually. Honestly I've been surprised by the effect of going to therapy for the last year, meditation on and off, and introspection (often the last bit uh while stupid high) has had though on helping think things through
Opinions still welcome
Oh god I made a stupid high post I guess, whatever, it's valid thoughts I ain't embarrassed
But really ya big dum dum
If a girl kisses you a buncha times then duh that whole incredulity at the idea that someone might actually find you attractive / capable of invoking attraction in another human being is real dumb
I feel like that was totally a subconscious lack of confidence thought I had for a while and even when I have had various examples to disprove it now over the last year plus
Still I totally felt that feel and forgot at times and am in disbelief
Huh it's kind of like when multiple people comment that I've gotten in shape and am looking more yakked or whatever I'm still like not really believing them and feel puny and like a babby
Oh okay I guess I got a second date on Fri in addition to this first date Thurs
And it's nice out so I'm kind of tempted to ask this other person out tonight ergh
All this traveling is compressing my available time down like cray
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I the weather is as nice tonight as it is right now cause I got a date and it would be fun to go to the patio bar he was talking about
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I'm a narcissist and I still have trouble believing that other people find me attractive
I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day
Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell
Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site
I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day
Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell
Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site
Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy
The suspense is murdering me
speed you're a cool dude, just chillax! (i know this is bad advice bc anxiety doesn't just do that, but try to do something else for a while so you aren't thinking about it)
I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day
Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell
Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site
Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy
The suspense is murdering me
She is totally making sure she has like a half-day free this weekend with all her prior commitments, then she is going to agree to go on a date with you and you are both going to have a fantastic time.
I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day
Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell
Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site
Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy
The suspense is murdering me
She is totally making sure she has like a half-day free this weekend with all her prior commitments, then she is going to agree to go on a date with you and you are both going to have a fantastic time.
So there! :-P
Or she is deciding what accessories would go well with a Speed's skin suit.
Either way you're clearly working yourself up for the wrong reasons.
well maybe it's a long distance date and they need a place to stay after the date
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
Or she says no, which sucks in the short term, but it will let you actually experience rejection instead of just being afraid of it, and it will be less of a bogeyman for you in the future
Either you get what you want or you get some actual experiential data on what the worst case scenario feels like
ha remember that time I was acting like I'm not a complete basket case
So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair lol" it just made me uncomfortable .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...
That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.
He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."
So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair lol" it just made me uncomfortable .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...
That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.
He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."
Yeah, that's no bueno.
First time I talked to my wife via okcupid, she was telling me about the last guy she was conversing with. He was trying to invite himself to her house to watch the superbowl with her and the rest of her family. You know, after she had told him it was a family tradition kinda thing they did.
Then she says, "Soooo, that's why I decided to message you."
Or she says no, which sucks in the short term, but it will let you actually experience rejection instead of just being afraid of it, and it will be less of a bogeyman for you in the future
Either you get what you want or you get some actual experiential data on what the worst case scenario feels like
ha remember that time I was acting like I'm not a complete basket case
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Unless Racer X comes in and steals the girl at the last second!
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So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair lol" it just made me uncomfortable .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...
That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.
He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."
I know right....I felt so creeped out and gross....I couldn't even really enjoy the fair after he said that....I'm just not talking to him anymore and hoping he gets that he really messed up and leaves me alone :X
This guy is the first guy who's ever gotten me flowers. Literally no one else I've dated has done that, and I didn't realize how nice it is when someone does. (I've only ever gotten flowers for hospitalizations before.)
second date successfully scheduled for friday with yest lady, yus, gonna get dope food and see mad max again which she not seen
and thus the test for if she enjoys it or not to prove if she is cool or not i guess
girl for first date tomorrow responded, but she forgot her phone at home all day which is why she didn't respond earlier
which then meant she apparently got her mother worried she was dead or something who then asked her to go visit, so, date cancelled
but this is bad, because... basically there are only 3 weeknights between now and july 13 when i am free and in nyc, since i am traveling so much - she said we will hang out when i am back, but i worry that the almost 3.5 weeks till then is unfortunate. oh well. maybe i can think of things to converse about via text. probably not.. i dunno what to converse about via text with people i have not met, i don't wanna ask a bunch of questions. so hopefully she will still want to meet up by then
Hopefully she'd just tell you if she's not interested, instead of ignoring you. Still crossing my fingers for you that she'll accept the date though! Try to keep busy and eat lots of ice cream (or frozen yogurt, because it's better :P).
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But really ya big dum dum
If a girl kisses you a buncha times then duh that whole incredulity at the idea that someone might actually find you attractive / capable of invoking attraction in another human being is real dumb
I feel like that was totally a subconscious lack of confidence thought I had for a while and even when I have had various examples to disprove it now over the last year plus
Still I totally felt that feel and forgot at times and am in disbelief
Huh it's kind of like when multiple people comment that I've gotten in shape and am looking more yakked or whatever I'm still like not really believing them and feel puny and like a babby
Have some self confidence and pride ya dum dum
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I'm very used to my own face after all.
And it's nice out so I'm kind of tempted to ask this other person out tonight ergh
All this traveling is compressing my available time down like cray
Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy
The suspense is murdering me
http://www.audioentropy.com/
speed you're a cool dude, just chillax! (i know this is bad advice bc anxiety doesn't just do that, but try to do something else for a while so you aren't thinking about it)
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GOD DAMMIT IT'S JUST AN EMAIL FOR 20% OFF OF A RADISSON HOTEL ROOM
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She is totally making sure she has like a half-day free this weekend with all her prior commitments, then she is going to agree to go on a date with you and you are both going to have a fantastic time.
So there! :-P
Or she is deciding what accessories would go well with a Speed's skin suit.
Either way you're clearly working yourself up for the wrong reasons.
IT AIN'T BAD BUT I DON'T REALLY NEED A HOTEL ROOM RIGHT NOW
http://www.audioentropy.com/
Radisson's all, so you got a date coming up? :winky:
Or do you?
WHEN DOES IT EXPIRE?
I could use one of those...
^^ better answer ^^
If we're to the point where companies know about our dates before we do, this targeted advertising thing has gone way too far.
Why would a hotel be interested in someone going on a date?
But you will.
Just see if they charge by the hour.
ha remember that time I was acting like I'm not a complete basket case
http://www.audioentropy.com/
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do some meditation mate. Calm your mind. You'll feel better.
Use calm.com alongside this
mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/catPurrNoiseGenerator.php
It's like you're outside in the mountains
with a cat on your lap.
Also still haven't settled any solid plans with the lady I was introduced to last week but hopefully soon will figure something out.
That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.
He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."
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Even though I'm no longer a grad student, this is still the way to my heart yes.
Yeah, that's no bueno.
First time I talked to my wife via okcupid, she was telling me about the last guy she was conversing with. He was trying to invite himself to her house to watch the superbowl with her and the rest of her family. You know, after she had told him it was a family tradition kinda thing they did.
Then she says, "Soooo, that's why I decided to message you."
Score.
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Speed you're gonna be fine
I know right....I felt so creeped out and gross....I couldn't even really enjoy the fair after he said that....I'm just not talking to him anymore and hoping he gets that he really messed up and leaves me alone :X
she kind of schooled me in the kissing department
http://www.audioentropy.com/
and thus the test for if she enjoys it or not to prove if she is cool or not i guess
girl for first date tomorrow responded, but she forgot her phone at home all day which is why she didn't respond earlier
which then meant she apparently got her mother worried she was dead or something who then asked her to go visit, so, date cancelled
but this is bad, because... basically there are only 3 weeknights between now and july 13 when i am free and in nyc, since i am traveling so much - she said we will hang out when i am back, but i worry that the almost 3.5 weeks till then is unfortunate. oh well. maybe i can think of things to converse about via text. probably not.. i dunno what to converse about via text with people i have not met, i don't wanna ask a bunch of questions. so hopefully she will still want to meet up by then
Ughhhhhh she got back off without responding to me I'm dyingggggff
http://www.audioentropy.com/
try not to think too hard about it
have some ice cream instead