okay, fine, you want details? i'll give you details. i'll give you details that will make me wish i didn't.
i'm a real shut-in. I have been ever since a really bad bromance break-up caused by my own assholish nature. That happened about 8-10 years ago. Basically, my best friend kinda dropped me for other, better friends and i never really healed.
Problem is, I get lonely every once in a while because, as introverted as i may be, being a shut-in is not fun all the time.
One thing i never managed to do but wanted to is play an actual real-life tabletop RPG campaign with people. And i really would love to do that. i tried online Tabletop RPGs, with programs, over IRC or play-by-post and it just doesn't really work for me.
Anyway, until I can manage to heal over that time when a person i considered my best friend decided that i was a bad person, I think i'll keep getting lonely every once in a while. it's kinda hard to get a better sense of self-worth when you also struggle with depression, tho.
Aaaanyways, i hope that's enough details.
Have you thought about mending that bond?
Might help, or, at worst, give you some closure that you need.
Find a group that gets together and join them for the tabletop thing. If it doesn't work or you don't like it, don't go back again.
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okay, fine, you want details? i'll give you details. i'll give you details that will make me wish i didn't.
i'm a real shut-in. I have been ever since a really bad bromance break-up caused by my own assholish nature. That happened about 8-10 years ago. Basically, my best friend kinda dropped me for other, better friends and i never really healed.
Problem is, I get lonely every once in a while because, as introverted as i may be, being a shut-in is not fun all the time.
One thing i never managed to do but wanted to is play an actual real-life tabletop RPG campaign with people. And i really would love to do that. i tried online Tabletop RPGs, with programs, over IRC or play-by-post and it just doesn't really work for me.
Anyway, until I can manage to heal over that time when a person i considered my best friend decided that i was a bad person, I think i'll keep getting lonely every once in a while. it's kinda hard to get a better sense of self-worth when you also struggle with depression, tho.
Aaaanyways, i hope that's enough details.
Have you thought about mending that bond?
Might help, or, at worst, give you some closure that you need.
Find a group that gets together and join them for the tabletop thing. If it doesn't work or you don't like it, don't go back again.
I have but the wound is still pretty painful to this day.
As for finding a group, that's not really something I could do until i move to the city or get a car and neither seem possible in the short term. otherwise, i just don't have the time or the means to show up regularly.
okay, fine, you want details? i'll give you details. i'll give you details that will make me wish i didn't.
i'm a real shut-in. I have been ever since a really bad bromance break-up caused by my own assholish nature. That happened about 8-10 years ago. Basically, my best friend kinda dropped me for other, better friends and i never really healed.
Problem is, I get lonely every once in a while because, as introverted as i may be, being a shut-in is not fun all the time.
One thing i never managed to do but wanted to is play an actual real-life tabletop RPG campaign with people. And i really would love to do that. i tried online Tabletop RPGs, with programs, over IRC or play-by-post and it just doesn't really work for me.
Anyway, until I can manage to heal over that time when a person i considered my best friend decided that i was a bad person, I think i'll keep getting lonely every once in a while. it's kinda hard to get a better sense of self-worth when you also struggle with depression, tho.
Aaaanyways, i hope that's enough details.
So I was just joking and also itching to post the vague alarm. I'd been sitting on it too long.
But I want you to know that this here is genuinely better than sighs and frowny faces, and declarations that you don't feel good, or whatever. Those things feel like you are baiting people into an unrewarding interaction to selfishly fill an emotional need.
This on the other hand is something we can engage with and relate to or skip over if we're not interested.
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okay, fine, you want details? i'll give you details. i'll give you details that will make me wish i didn't.
i'm a real shut-in. I have been ever since a really bad bromance break-up caused by my own assholish nature. That happened about 8-10 years ago. Basically, my best friend kinda dropped me for other, better friends and i never really healed.
Problem is, I get lonely every once in a while because, as introverted as i may be, being a shut-in is not fun all the time.
One thing i never managed to do but wanted to is play an actual real-life tabletop RPG campaign with people. And i really would love to do that. i tried online Tabletop RPGs, with programs, over IRC or play-by-post and it just doesn't really work for me.
Anyway, until I can manage to heal over that time when a person i considered my best friend decided that i was a bad person, I think i'll keep getting lonely every once in a while. it's kinda hard to get a better sense of self-worth when you also struggle with depression, tho.
Aaaanyways, i hope that's enough details.
So I was just joking and also itching to post the vague alarm. I'd been sitting on it too long.
But I want you to know that this here is genuinely better than sighs and frowny faces, and declarations that you don't feel good, or whatever. Those things feel like you are baiting an unrewarding interaction from other people to fulfill an emotional need.
This is something we can engage with and relate to or skip over if we're not interested.
Yeah, you're right.
i'm just constantly afraid of bumming people out with my weird idiosyncrasies. it's something i need to work on.
@21stCentury, bro, I feel what you are saying 100%.
You are most certainly not an isolated case of this kind of shit happening, it's ok to be hurt and depressed by it, and while no one can make that pain go away, know that there are a lot of us that share or have shared it. It sucks to lose a friend, and it sucks worse to be an introvert and unable to see any way to have meaningful interactions with other people when you have no one to interact with.
I really need to move to the city. It would give me a lot more time and opportunities to socialize.
In your situation, getting shared housing with people your own age would probably be pretty beneficial. Your commute is bad isn't it? So you gain time and you gain some people to hang out with.
They'll probably have some very terrible habits but it'd also a sort of base level of socializing.
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basically there's a possibility I can get an educational grant from the government to go back to school
but it basically has to be something i can make a fair argument there's a good job market for and that i can reasonably do given my disability
i was trying to angle for IT/sysadmin but as it turns out upon further inspection the college course i was looking at on that is not all it's cracked up to be and is sorta bogus
and i'm not really sure what to do
i have this opportunity
i don't know what to do with it
i don't want to go back to school for more than a year, tops
so anything that's a proper degree is basically out
trades aren't necessarily out by default but name me a trade that isn't going to be a problem for the fact that i am physically disabled or that i don't drive
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I walked by my old apartment yesterday and the building was demolished. I asked someone on a porch across the street how long it had been that way.
Apparently they kicked everyone out in the middle of the winter, during the unprecedented blizzard we had, because the heat failed and they ran out of money to clear the snow. The updated lease agreements, the ones that I moved out because they were so awful and one-sided, allowed them to do that. They knocked the building down in March. Had I stayed, I would have had 4 more months, then a few weeks of hell with no heat, no water, and nowhere to put my car, then I would have had to find a new place, all in the middle of the worst winter on record.
Holy shit that dodged bullet!
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@21stCentury Do you feel like there's anything a group could do to make it less intimidating to pick up?
I'm kind of doing work locally to help people connect with this sort of stuff. And I know one big thing that keeps coming up is that a lot of people into tabletop gaming are also super nervous about just busting in on strangers.
So far my strategy of "personally befriend everyone and introduce them to each other" doesn't seem like it will scale.
21stCentury Do you feel like there's anything a group could do to make it less intimidating to pick up?
I'm kind of doing work locally to help people connect with this sort of stuff. And I know one big thing that keeps coming up is that a lot of people into tabletop gaming are also super nervous about just busting in on strangers.
So far my strategy of "personally befriend everyone and introduce them to each other" doesn't seem like it will scale.
Pick up what? RPGs?
i never actually played an RPGs in real life with other people.
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Have you thought about mending that bond?
Might help, or, at worst, give you some closure that you need.
Find a group that gets together and join them for the tabletop thing. If it doesn't work or you don't like it, don't go back again.
The St. Bernard puppy likes to play with sliced limes...
I don't like killing stuff. And spiders are usually good house guests.
should I be worried
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ok this is a pretty cute way to communicate with other players online
especially NOOOOOOO link
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I have but the wound is still pretty painful to this day.
As for finding a group, that's not really something I could do until i move to the city or get a car and neither seem possible in the short term. otherwise, i just don't have the time or the means to show up regularly.
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Yes.
Get him FATAL or something else that's less horrible.
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Man, I feel like I type that thing every day. Geth should just know.
So I was just joking and also itching to post the vague alarm. I'd been sitting on it too long.
But I want you to know that this here is genuinely better than sighs and frowny faces, and declarations that you don't feel good, or whatever. Those things feel like you are baiting people into an unrewarding interaction to selfishly fill an emotional need.
This on the other hand is something we can engage with and relate to or skip over if we're not interested.
Hmm, limes: natures tennis balls.
Yeah, you're right.
i'm just constantly afraid of bumming people out with my weird idiosyncrasies. it's something i need to work on.
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Bottling up emotions just makes it worse.
Especially if we can help.
A lot of us have been through that situation a few times.
why doesn't it learn???
*attaches geth to the human centipede*
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everything is booked the entire month of September
what
who are all these people
wtf
You are most certainly not an isolated case of this kind of shit happening, it's ok to be hurt and depressed by it, and while no one can make that pain go away, know that there are a lot of us that share or have shared it. It sucks to lose a friend, and it sucks worse to be an introvert and unable to see any way to have meaningful interactions with other people when you have no one to interact with.
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They'll probably have some very terrible habits but it'd also a sort of base level of socializing.
I'll tell you what isn't happening
I definitely didn't book out the suites for me and all my narwhal friends for our clandestine invasion of Illinois
omg and by doing so you're keeping all the sharks out
the state will be defenseless!
you sonofa-
what a lovely day!
We will not be stopped - unless we forget to actually do the invasion
basically there's a possibility I can get an educational grant from the government to go back to school
but it basically has to be something i can make a fair argument there's a good job market for and that i can reasonably do given my disability
i was trying to angle for IT/sysadmin but as it turns out upon further inspection the college course i was looking at on that is not all it's cracked up to be and is sorta bogus
and i'm not really sure what to do
i have this opportunity
i don't know what to do with it
i don't want to go back to school for more than a year, tops
so anything that's a proper degree is basically out
trades aren't necessarily out by default but name me a trade that isn't going to be a problem for the fact that i am physically disabled or that i don't drive
harumph
It's a trick.
Spiders are highly intelligent and chaotic evil.
Apparently they kicked everyone out in the middle of the winter, during the unprecedented blizzard we had, because the heat failed and they ran out of money to clear the snow. The updated lease agreements, the ones that I moved out because they were so awful and one-sided, allowed them to do that. They knocked the building down in March. Had I stayed, I would have had 4 more months, then a few weeks of hell with no heat, no water, and nowhere to put my car, then I would have had to find a new place, all in the middle of the worst winter on record.
Holy shit that dodged bullet!
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I'm kind of doing work locally to help people connect with this sort of stuff. And I know one big thing that keeps coming up is that a lot of people into tabletop gaming are also super nervous about just busting in on strangers.
So far my strategy of "personally befriend everyone and introduce them to each other" doesn't seem like it will scale.
just don't do the riddler missions, oh god
Pick up what? RPGs?
i never actually played an RPGs in real life with other people.
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I am going to curbstomp someone tomorrow.
Each syllable in the stutter rhymes with the other stutter syllables.
In a way, the worst stutterers rhyme more than anyone else in the world.