I have never reached out to others seeking advice and opinions on something as IMPORTANT in my life or the impact it will have on both of us. A bit of background. We are about 60YO, married since we were 23, three adult children and live alone in a BIG home where we raised our children. Over the past years I felt my interests and desires are not in line with my wife. I am adventuress but not to the point of cheating on my wife. She is a wonderful person, takes good care of herself and seems to have the interests of my well being, certainly health. She leads a very routine and 'plane Jane' lifestyle and she seems to think everything is wonderful. Myself on the other hand feels our relationship is dead... Our lives don't feel like they will ever be the same and I am exhausted to even try fixing anything. We have fallen out of common interests. We don't agree on things. She always shouts at my driving and is scared to death how i drive, although I have never had an accident. We have not had any sex or intimacy in years and at this point I don't care to have sex with her. When we go to bed, we immediately roll over and go to sleep. No interest on either side. I've been feeling of leaving but I am at a complete loss how to talk to her about all of this since she feels everything is wonderful. Yes, I have tried to talk to her about these things and my feelings and she would shout at me and tell me to stop it. It's like she does not want to hear it and just wants the problem to go away, but it won't.
I keep saying to myself "Nothing will ever be the same". I feel like I am missing out on other things in my life that I know she would not want anything to do with and I would never force her into, but that does not mean I should be giving up more things when we all have only one time around in our lives. I have no interests in other women at this time so it's not that I have a girl ready and waiting.
Where I am presently at...
- Still live in the same house but I do need to find another living quarters
- Need to tell her that I need to leave or separate for a while. Have NO idea how to do this, in person or just leave a note. Both methods are terrible
- I'm not ready to divorce, but clearly I want to be alone
All advice is appreciated.