I'm trying to think of how you could make it happen. You'd need to capture a Zunist concubine very, very early and hope she could heritage out your heir, without getting rid of the Norse culture, since you need that for sea raids. Unless you just made a custom dude, in which case all bets are off.
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BeNarwhalThe Work Left UnfinishedRegistered Userregular
You pull a knife on your partner at any point during a relationship, you generally deserve the nicknames you earn :P
My coworker got her degree today. I'm at her graduation party. Girls are ooing and aahing over my red wing boots. One girl made me lift my foot and poked her boyfriend, YOU NEED TO WEAR STUFF LIKE THAT
did... did I just cuck him with my left foot
You have been used as a weapon
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My coworker got her degree today. I'm at her graduation party. Girls are ooing and aahing over my red wing boots. One girl made me lift my foot and poked her boyfriend, YOU NEED TO WEAR STUFF LIKE THAT
My coworker got her degree today. I'm at her graduation party. Girls are ooing and aahing over my red wing boots. One girl made me lift my foot and poked her boyfriend, YOU NEED TO WEAR STUFF LIKE THAT
Jeez, so a good friend of mine just had a relationship of 4 years implode on her and it was soooorrrrrrrrta her fault?
About 4 years ago she met this dude in her first year of university. He wasn't a student, he worked full time. After a year of dating, they moved in together. After a year of living together (so the second year of their relationship), their schedules became such that they barely saw each other, school became her entire life plus she had a part time job, and his work consumed his, and their schedules were opposites. They'd have like, one day off together maybe every two weeks, and they'd be so exhausted on those days they'd really not want to do anything and would just want to decompress (or she'd have to spend those days studying anyway).
This went on for another couple years, and their relationship cooled. Their sex life became practically non-existent, and they pretty much turned into roommates who were technically in a relationship. They weren't shitty with each other, but they were both pretty lonely and unhappy with this situation.
So about eight months ago, she got the idea to "open the relationship" and make it polyamorous. They'd still be together, and live together, but they'd be allowed to date other people whose schedules fit their lives better. He wasn't in favor of it at first, and for a while believed it was just a prelude to her breaking up with him. But, eventually he agreed and they tried it out.
It went alright for him. He met women online and went on some casual dates. He also started dating a girl from work.
For her, nnnnnot so much. It turns out, while there's a giant swath of dudes who are willing to date you if you're blatantly cheating on your SO with them, they're not willing to date you if you're an openly polyamrous woman and your boyfriend is cool with it. She felt like her only solution was to lie, either to lie and say she was cheating on her boyfriend, or lie about her boyfriend not existing (de facto cheating on the guy she was dating, basically, by not informing him that she's still with her existing SO, really). Both sucked, and she hated it.
When she didn't meet guys who had a problem with her polyamory, she met dudes who were too into her polyamory and assumed it came with a bunch of other stuff that for her, it didn't? Like, they assumed she was bisexual (she isn't, she's hetero) or into BDSM (she's not), or into some MFM action (she is not).
So after eight months of this failed experiment (for her, for him it's been great!), she wanted to close the relationship, return to monogamy, seek out couples counseling and try to make their relationship work and find time for each other, etc.
He said no, she's being selfish, that is wrong of her to open this up and then try to close it purely because it's not working out for her, etc.
There are people on this forum who may agree with him, idk. I'm not super duper interested in having that debate?
Anyway, the conclusion they ended up coming to was, it was best for them to end the relationship. He moved out, ended up moving in with the girl from work he was dating, and now she is alone and depressed.
Right now, she is in pain and hurting and I am not going to point out hey, maybe the part where you tried to convince him to go to couples counselling and work on your schedules and make the relationship work should've been your first move instead of treating polyamory as a band-aid, huh.
But like, at a future point, if it's clear she hasn't come to that conclusion herself and purely blames him, as her friend we might have to have a talk about that.
Jeez, so a good friend of mine just had a relationship of 4 years implode on her and it was soooorrrrrrrrta her fault?
About 4 years ago she met this dude in her first year of university. He wasn't a student, he worked full time. After a year of dating, they moved in together. After a year of living together (so the second year of their relationship), their schedules became such that they barely saw each other, school became her entire life plus she had a part time job, and his work consumed his, and their schedules were opposites. They'd have like, one day off together maybe every two weeks, and they'd be so exhausted on those days they'd really not want to do anything and would just want to decompress (or she'd have to spend those days studying anyway).
This went on for another couple years, and their relationship cooled. Their sex life became practically non-existent, and they pretty much turned into roommates who were technically in a relationship. They weren't shitty with each other, but they were both pretty lonely and unhappy with this situation.
So about eight months ago, she got the idea to "open the relationship" and make it polyamorous. They'd still be together, and live together, but they'd be allowed to date other people whose schedules fit their lives better. He wasn't in favor of it at first, and for a while believed it was just a prelude to her breaking up with him. But, eventually he agreed and they tried it out.
It went alright for him. He met women online and went on some casual dates. He also started dating a girl from work.
For her, nnnnnot so much. It turns out, while there's a giant swath of dudes who are willing to date you if you're blatantly cheating on your SO with them, they're not willing to date you if you're an openly polyamrous woman and your boyfriend is cool with it. She felt like her only solution was to lie, either to lie and say she was cheating on her boyfriend, or lie about her boyfriend not existing (de facto cheating on the guy she was dating, basically, by not informing him that she's still with her existing SO, really). Both sucked, and she hated it.
When she didn't meet guys who had a problem with her polyamory, she met dudes who were too into her polyamory and assumed it came with a bunch of other stuff that for her, it didn't? Like, they assumed she was bisexual (she isn't, she's hetero) or into BDSM (she's not), or into some MFM action (she is not).
So after eight months of this failed experiment (for her, for him it's been great!), she wanted to close the relationship, return to monogamy, seek out couples counseling and try to make their relationship work and find time for each other, etc.
He said no, she's being selfish, that is wrong of her to open this up and then try to close it purely because it's not working out for her, etc.
There are people on this forum who may agree with him, idk. I'm not super duper interested in having that debate?
Anyway, the conclusion they ended up coming to was, it was best for them to end the relationship. He moved out, ended up moving in with the girl from work he was dating, and now she is alone and depressed.
Right now, she is in pain and hurting and I am not going to point out hey, maybe the part where you tried to convince him to go to couples counselling and work on your schedules and make the relationship work should've been your first move instead of treating polyamory as a band-aid, huh.
But like, at a future point, if it's clear she hasn't come to that conclusion herself and purely blames him, as her friend we might have to have a talk about that.
*feels relief in mistaken belief that it is impossible for two people to actually like one another. *
How can you be in what's essentially a dead relationship for 3 years? I just don't understand.
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BeNarwhalThe Work Left UnfinishedRegistered Userregular
I think that's the longest and most complex post where I've felt comfortable just clicking agree without providing additional commentary or disclaimer.
I think that's the longest and most complex post where I've felt comfortable just clicking agree without providing additional commentary or disclaimer.
i'm just kind of surprised the option that was proposed was poly rather than trying to adjust schedules
it seems like the interest wasn't in being poly so much as having a more active relationship
honestly when she's less depressed and this is less of a raw nerve and a touchy subject for her
I'm going to try to like, talk to her about what her goal was with this
I've never understood people who treat polyamory as a relationship band-aid
if you believe in polyamory as like, a valid expression of affection and your preferred relationship structure then okay sure man
or if it's something a couple decides to undertake as a mutual exploration thing at a certain point in their lives okay i guess?
but when it's used because a relationship is stale or shaky or otherwise has serious underlying problems in lieu of addressing those problems i'm always like
y tho
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
i'm just kind of surprised the option that was proposed was poly rather than trying to adjust schedules
it seems like the interest wasn't in being poly so much as having a more active relationship
honestly when she's less depressed and this is less of a raw nerve and a touchy subject for her
I'm going to try to like, talk to her about what her goal was with this
I've never understood people who treat polyamory as a relationship band-aid
if you believe in polyamory as like, a valid expression of affection and your preferred relationship structure then okay sure man
or if it's something a couple decides to undertake as a mutual exploration thing at a certain point in their lives okay i guess?
but when it's used because a relationship is stale or shaky or otherwise has serious underlying problems in lieu of addressing those problems i'm always like
y tho
people have a hard time ending relationships even when they know they should
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I'm trying to think of how you could make it happen. You'd need to capture a Zunist concubine very, very early and hope she could heritage out your heir, without getting rid of the Norse culture, since you need that for sea raids. Unless you just made a custom dude, in which case all bets are off.
You have been used as a weapon
That's a working mans foot there cuck.
*nods proudly*
About 4 years ago she met this dude in her first year of university. He wasn't a student, he worked full time. After a year of dating, they moved in together. After a year of living together (so the second year of their relationship), their schedules became such that they barely saw each other, school became her entire life plus she had a part time job, and his work consumed his, and their schedules were opposites. They'd have like, one day off together maybe every two weeks, and they'd be so exhausted on those days they'd really not want to do anything and would just want to decompress (or she'd have to spend those days studying anyway).
This went on for another couple years, and their relationship cooled. Their sex life became practically non-existent, and they pretty much turned into roommates who were technically in a relationship. They weren't shitty with each other, but they were both pretty lonely and unhappy with this situation.
So about eight months ago, she got the idea to "open the relationship" and make it polyamorous. They'd still be together, and live together, but they'd be allowed to date other people whose schedules fit their lives better. He wasn't in favor of it at first, and for a while believed it was just a prelude to her breaking up with him. But, eventually he agreed and they tried it out.
It went alright for him. He met women online and went on some casual dates. He also started dating a girl from work.
For her, nnnnnot so much. It turns out, while there's a giant swath of dudes who are willing to date you if you're blatantly cheating on your SO with them, they're not willing to date you if you're an openly polyamrous woman and your boyfriend is cool with it. She felt like her only solution was to lie, either to lie and say she was cheating on her boyfriend, or lie about her boyfriend not existing (de facto cheating on the guy she was dating, basically, by not informing him that she's still with her existing SO, really). Both sucked, and she hated it.
When she didn't meet guys who had a problem with her polyamory, she met dudes who were too into her polyamory and assumed it came with a bunch of other stuff that for her, it didn't? Like, they assumed she was bisexual (she isn't, she's hetero) or into BDSM (she's not), or into some MFM action (she is not).
So after eight months of this failed experiment (for her, for him it's been great!), she wanted to close the relationship, return to monogamy, seek out couples counseling and try to make their relationship work and find time for each other, etc.
He said no, she's being selfish, that is wrong of her to open this up and then try to close it purely because it's not working out for her, etc.
There are people on this forum who may agree with him, idk. I'm not super duper interested in having that debate?
Anyway, the conclusion they ended up coming to was, it was best for them to end the relationship. He moved out, ended up moving in with the girl from work he was dating, and now she is alone and depressed.
Right now, she is in pain and hurting and I am not going to point out hey, maybe the part where you tried to convince him to go to couples counselling and work on your schedules and make the relationship work should've been your first move instead of treating polyamory as a band-aid, huh.
But like, at a future point, if it's clear she hasn't come to that conclusion herself and purely blames him, as her friend we might have to have a talk about that.
And I like Dave Franco.
I have a lot of respect for actors that manage to literally repulse me, like Robert Deniro in This Boys Life and Dave Franco in Scrubs.
*feels relief in mistaken belief that it is impossible for two people to actually like one another. *
How can you be in what's essentially a dead relationship for 3 years? I just don't understand.
Way to ruin it.
"Hello, the Hague? Yes, yes I found one. Yes... yes I'll hold."
Yes
And if you're a shepherd and you love more than one of your flock,
You're polylamborous
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
I don't think I would ever let someone live "being a sore loser at poly" down.
Or should I eat vodka and chicken broth like an adult
I'd still be friends with them but I would point and do the Nelson "Ha-HA!" laugh a lot.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
PSN/XBL: Zampanov -- Steam: Zampanov
yes
that seems like a prelude to a "IT'S BORIS" video
Are you polyandroidorous?
yes
Only if you like more than one bot
Or if the one bot you like is made of polyurethane
PSN/XBL: Zampanov -- Steam: Zampanov
and like that anna
are you polyannarous
i tried to warn you
i tried warn all of you
Certain lifestyles speak to me on a primal level.
But you're ponyamorous yourself.
it seems like the interest wasn't in being poly so much as having a more active relationship
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The worst is being an axis minor and having the German AI shit the bed.
Last time I played they decided to take half of France and just stop. No unit in the way or anything.
Then the SU can just roll everyone.
@skippydumptruck
honestly when she's less depressed and this is less of a raw nerve and a touchy subject for her
I'm going to try to like, talk to her about what her goal was with this
I've never understood people who treat polyamory as a relationship band-aid
if you believe in polyamory as like, a valid expression of affection and your preferred relationship structure then okay sure man
or if it's something a couple decides to undertake as a mutual exploration thing at a certain point in their lives okay i guess?
but when it's used because a relationship is stale or shaky or otherwise has serious underlying problems in lieu of addressing those problems i'm always like
y tho
people have a hard time ending relationships even when they know they should