I'm still solidly against dating people with kids.
i would never completely discount it but it's certainly something that would give me pause
The kid is usually not the problem. Even though I don't want them, but the ex significant other is pretty much in your life for however long that relationship lasts. So there's extra additional drama, especially if they fight (they usually do).
Also, you are no longer a priority, or, at best, 2nd to their 1st. That's expected, but I'd rather the relationship be a partnership not me just tagging along.
Also being in a DINK relationship is fucking great.
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
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I'm still solidly against dating people with kids.
i would never completely discount it but it's certainly something that would give me pause
just gotta show up and tell them that you're their new dad, throw out any pictures/mementos of old dad, if the kid ever mentions old dad get really weird about it and pretend that you were always their father
tell them that the only way old dad is coming back is if they strike you down and become their own father, fulfilling the cycle of blood
I'm still solidly against dating people with kids.
i would never completely discount it but it's certainly something that would give me pause
just gotta show up and tell them that you're their new dad, throw out any pictures/mementos of old dad, if the kid ever mentions old dad get really weird about it and pretend that you were always their father
tell them that the only way old dad is coming back is if they strike you down and become their own father, fulfilling the cycle of blood
I usually go with, "If you love me enough I'll turn back into your real mom"
I'm still solidly against dating people with kids.
i would never completely discount it but it's certainly something that would give me pause
Yeah, my first sort of relationship after my divorce sort of fizzled out in part because of she had kids with her ex and I didn't come into the relationship at a good time at all
But I think I will just have to accept that most single people in their 30s either have kids from a previous relationship, or don't want kids
The thread gets all cool about disgusting body functions so of course I'm out shopping and then it's closed!? Blasphemy.
I'm allergic to cats which my cats remind me about as often as possible. Bonus, I think I'm getting my second sinus infection in July right now, so score! (Having seized frontal sinus cavities is less than awesome.)
i don't want kids, will never want kids, don't like kids and am horribly anxious to even be around them
but i wouldn't discount the possibility of myself dating someone with kids. it is however massively unlikely
but i completely understand having a very solid "no kids" rule.
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I love kids, but I still get a bit of uncertainty with dating someone with kids. Partially because I want to have kids of my own someday.
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
I am not at a position in my life where I would be comfortable dating someone with kids. And that's on me.
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Sometimes I feel bad that my main impetus for wanting kids is 50 years from now when I'm old
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I would like kids someday, but holy shit am I not ready for that
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
I want kids eventually but would be uncomfortable dating someone with them, if only because I am entirely not ready to be a parental figure and it would require the significant other to be living a different lifestyle than I am interested in for a good long while
Can't have irresponsible drinking nights or last-minute trips places, that kind of thing
I want kids eventually but would be uncomfortable dating someone with them, if only because I am entirely not ready to be a parental figure and it would require the significant other to be living a different lifestyle than I am interested in for a good long while
Can't have irresponsible drinking nights or last-minute trips places, that kind of thing
The worst part from kids is seeing my friends and family with them. They say "this is the best thing I've ever done" but their face and body language says "this is horrible don't do it."
Then they make passive aggressive comments about my freedom and how they wish they had it. Or that I should get busy making kids of my own.
How about no thanks. I don't want to be miserable.
I have no idea why they say it's the best thing, it always feels like a form of stockholms when you talk to people who have kids.
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
The worst part from kids is seeing my friends and family with them. They say "this is the best thing I've ever done" but their face and body language says "this is horrible don't do it."
Then they make passive aggressive comments about my freedom and how they wish they had it. Or that I should get busy making kids of my own.
How about no thanks. I don't want to be miserable.
I have no idea why they say it's the best thing, it always feels like a form of stockholms when you talk to people who have kids.
jokes on you, I don't have kids and I'm already miserable
I would be fine with dating someone with kids depending on the age. Most of my aversion to children is I have no interest in having my own and I don't find babies or young toddlers all that interesting.
But once they are closer to kindergarten-age where they start developing their own personalities, tastes, and can talk to you...Yeah I'm cool with that.
And obviously that would also depend on my partner's wish for what kind of relationship I would eventually have with said child once we had agreed it was a serious thing.
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say we started like, Uplifting animals. dogs, cats, dolphins, whatever
they look the same, but have a little electronic translator or something, maybe
they have become sentient, with hopes and dreams and ambition and agency, a whole Person
do you think you could fall in love with a dolphin
I'd say to disregard like, sexual love, but hey, they can consent, get weird with it I guess.
other topics in the game, aliens? robots. actual, real live furries?
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The original post WAS pip being positive!
i would never completely discount it but it's certainly something that would give me pause
The kid is usually not the problem. Even though I don't want them, but the ex significant other is pretty much in your life for however long that relationship lasts. So there's extra additional drama, especially if they fight (they usually do).
Also, you are no longer a priority, or, at best, 2nd to their 1st. That's expected, but I'd rather the relationship be a partnership not me just tagging along.
Also being in a DINK relationship is fucking great.
just gotta show up and tell them that you're their new dad, throw out any pictures/mementos of old dad, if the kid ever mentions old dad get really weird about it and pretend that you were always their father
tell them that the only way old dad is coming back is if they strike you down and become their own father, fulfilling the cycle of blood
well, I have a cool dog
I usually go with, "If you love me enough I'll turn back into your real mom"
Yeah, my first sort of relationship after my divorce sort of fizzled out in part because of she had kids with her ex and I didn't come into the relationship at a good time at all
But I think I will just have to accept that most single people in their 30s either have kids from a previous relationship, or don't want kids
I'm allergic to cats which my cats remind me about as often as possible. Bonus, I think I'm getting my second sinus infection in July right now, so score! (Having seized frontal sinus cavities is less than awesome.)
but i wouldn't discount the possibility of myself dating someone with kids. it is however massively unlikely
but i completely understand having a very solid "no kids" rule.
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Can't have irresponsible drinking nights or last-minute trips places, that kind of thing
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I think I'd make an okay parent, certainly better than my own.
But I just.. have no desire?
Then they make passive aggressive comments about my freedom and how they wish they had it. Or that I should get busy making kids of my own.
How about no thanks. I don't want to be miserable.
I have no idea why they say it's the best thing, it always feels like a form of stockholms when you talk to people who have kids.
Wait
Is it... are we each other's dates
my fanfiction!
jokes on you, I don't have kids and I'm already miserable
I mean
We'd definitely show each other a good time I reckon
do you need a hug
I just hurt my back on sunday so I'm in a shitty mood
also my inability to form lasting romantic relationships
My current hate is sending off messages and getting 0 response back from people that have already said "I like your stuff."
Dating sucks.
I can somewhat understand why the rapid fire message method is deployed frequently, even though it's dumb.
my cats can support me in 10 years when i lose my independent mobility
right?
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yes
But once they are closer to kindergarten-age where they start developing their own personalities, tastes, and can talk to you...Yeah I'm cool with that.
And obviously that would also depend on my partner's wish for what kind of relationship I would eventually have with said child once we had agreed it was a serious thing.