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Coworker avoiding me?
Zython
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So a couple weeks ago, I asked a coworker out to the movies. She was busy the day I was available, but she did express interest in doing it some other time. However, I haven't had a good chance to try again, what with the holidays and all.
Flashforward to this week, and I notice that she's been acting colder to me. She doesn't really acknowledge my presence as she used to, and her body language is more closed-off. My demeanor to her hasn't changed in the past weeks, and I only noticed this this week. I don't think I've done anything to offend her, creep her out, or otherwise make her uncomfortable. Plus, the timing of this is extremely strange (if this were right after I asked her out, that would make way more sense). I'm fine with the idea of her not seeing me in that way, but I really don't want her to avoid or resent me.
I'm not sure what I should do in this scenario. Should I ask her about it, or should I just give her space for a few weeks and see what happens? Am I just being paranoid?
Flashforward to this week, and I notice that she's been acting colder to me. She doesn't really acknowledge my presence as she used to, and her body language is more closed-off. My demeanor to her hasn't changed in the past weeks, and I only noticed this this week. I don't think I've done anything to offend her, creep her out, or otherwise make her uncomfortable. Plus, the timing of this is extremely strange (if this were right after I asked her out, that would make way more sense). I'm fine with the idea of her not seeing me in that way, but I really don't want her to avoid or resent me.
I'm not sure what I should do in this scenario. Should I ask her about it, or should I just give her space for a few weeks and see what happens? Am I just being paranoid?
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Give her space, leave her alone.
Things get weird, let it go.
I know you were cool before, but she has had a change of heart. Don't bother her, there is the potential for severe workplace consequences.
Don't be that guy.
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That sounds a little rough, but I don't mean it to. It's easy for us omnipotent internet forum weirdos to take a stab at real human interaction quarterbacking, buuuut it kinda sounds like this might be...that, so...yeah.
Well, she gave me a specific, falsifiable work-related reason. I think she would have been more vague if that were her intention.
But I have certainly taken that possibility into consideration, which is why I’ve been hesitant to bring it up since.
Again, I have absolutely zero problem with her not being interested in me like that. Right now, that’s the least of my concerns. Taking rejection poorly is a road I went down a LONG time ago, and one I don’t care to retread.
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Be careful with making advances on people at work, it's a weird position to put someone in because if they aren't interested they still have to see you on a regular basis and it sucks when you're forced into an awkward situation in a place you spend 40 hours a week at. A good rule of thumb is to never ask anyone out romantically if you are at work or if they are at work.
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