I hate even more that it's almost a useful categorization because i hear things that qualify for that attitude regularly
I hate to ask, but what does it mean
Lotta dudes using it on Bumble outta nowhere and I have no idea if it's code or something
They’re attracted to “intelligence”
I've seen it used by women on Bumble, etc as well. As a straight white male nerd who isn't good at dating, it sounded interesting at first but after I though about it a bit it made me feel more wary than anything. While I hope most of them don't mean it this way there's something elitist and eugenics-y about it that I really don't like.
It's not even necessarily that
That's some "I'm the nice guy" self identifying bullshit
Oh, come off it. The first time I ever saw it referenced was in a bisexual woman's dating profile. Ya'll are being overly cynical, and this is me saying this.
I will take your advice on who isn't a jerk very, very seriously munkus, thank you
The term sapiosexual is fucked up from the beginning because it equates being attracted to intelligence with sexual orientation, so you know something's off when someone uses it.
Yeah, intelligence being a component of your attraction to a person is one thing, but I feel like most people who say it's the singular defining characteristic are lying, either to you or themselves. Attraction is a complex mix of physical and personality traits (with different aspects even changing in prominence over time) and intelligence is difficult to actually define in any universal sense anyway.
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I have basically never seen it referenced as the "singular defining characteristic" and almost always as part of a list, as if the person was clarifying "intelligence is important to me" in shorthand.
Humor can be dissected as a frog can, but dies in the process.
I have basically never seen it referenced as the "singular defining characteristic" and almost always as part of a list, as if the person was clarifying "intelligence is important to me" in shorthand.
If that is the case, it's still a bad shorthand, as it is conflating an interest in "intelligent" partners with an expression of sexual orientation.
Cline thinks "smart" means "can quote star wars facts"
"intelligence" is easy code for "have the same beliefs and interests that I do"
It's a way of saying "I want someone who already likes the things I like and believes the things I do and also if you don't value those things, I believe you to be stupid"
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Someone who says they're sapiosexual is saying that they believe that they are inherently a better person than someone who doesn't know the meaning of the word sapiosexual.
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Someone who says they're sapiosexual is saying that they believe that they are inherently a better person than someone who doesn't know the meaning of the word sapiosexual.
And that's not just wrong, but the opposite of the truth, all of us are worse people for knowing the word sapiosexual.
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I'm personally attracted to constitution. it's why i live in america
the obama years must have been rough for you!!
hehe... the truth might surprise you. you can read all about it in my upcoming memoirs "edging in the obama presidency: one american's solution to 8 years of no 'tution"
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the cline poem is so potent. it hits like a cobra kai kick to the solar plexus (now I know how recipients of the tatsumaki senpukyaku feel!)
I was talking to a woman on a dating site who used the term sapiosexual.
Turns out she wasn't my type! I feel bad but she was clearly putting on airs to fit in with a specific kind of guy (the Ernest Cline type of nerdy guy) and I kinda just felt sorry for her for that and bounced. (it wasn't just her using the term, it was some of her question answers on OKC and some of our conversations we had)
H- how do you not see the Garf in that GIF? It's even colored to catch the eye...
Oh is it an animated gif? I'm using a very slightly aged ipad so it barely functions and apparently just shows the first frame of animated gifs
That would explain it. Yeah, these Olly Moss Garfs are often a short animation that reveals the Garf in something that, at first blush, appears mundanely Garfless
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Not to mention that sort of terminology is like catnip to the sort of "smart people" that picked up things quickly in high school and that solidified their perception of themselves
I can't say for sure, but I bet you any lady putting that into their online dating profile would get buried in fedoras
Not to mention that sort of terminology is like catnip to the sort of "smart people" that picked up things quickly in high school and that solidified their perception of themselves
I can't say for sure, but I bet you any lady putting that into their online dating profile would get buried in fedoras
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I will take your advice on who isn't a jerk very, very seriously munkus, thank you
Yeah, intelligence being a component of your attraction to a person is one thing, but I feel like most people who say it's the singular defining characteristic are lying, either to you or themselves. Attraction is a complex mix of physical and personality traits (with different aspects even changing in prominence over time) and intelligence is difficult to actually define in any universal sense anyway.
If that is the case, it's still a bad shorthand, as it is conflating an interest in "intelligent" partners with an expression of sexual orientation.
But Graham that means she'll be operating your dirk at a -1 modifier
Why isn't it possible to hate someone to death
I'm glad it's not because I really like you and want you to stick around
Cline thinks "smart" means "can quote star wars facts"
"intelligence" is easy code for "have the same beliefs and interests that I do"
It's a way of saying "I want someone who already likes the things I like and believes the things I do and also if you don't value those things, I believe you to be stupid"
it suuuuucks
STOP MAKING ME BLUSH WHILE IM ANGRY ITS VERY AWKWARD
ha ha ha fuck my entire life up
And that's not just wrong, but the opposite of the truth, all of us are worse people for knowing the word sapiosexual.
Ah, having checked it is not the Columbus I can offer a spare bedroom in, sorry.
Oh goddammit I didn't see it at first.
hehe... the truth might surprise you. you can read all about it in my upcoming memoirs "edging in the obama presidency: one american's solution to 8 years of no 'tution"
I cant' find the garf
Okay everyone, when they find me dead, tell em Pooro did it
Shouldn't that be "like a Cobra Kai kick (from the classic film Karate Kid) to the solar plexus."
God I've listened to too much 372 Pages.
problem is all boys think they're smart, and then they appropriate the term because boys appropriate everything
intelligence does not equal good-partner-ness
And isn't really quantifiably definable anyway.
Turns out she wasn't my type! I feel bad but she was clearly putting on airs to fit in with a specific kind of guy (the Ernest Cline type of nerdy guy) and I kinda just felt sorry for her for that and bounced. (it wasn't just her using the term, it was some of her question answers on OKC and some of our conversations we had)
Oh is it an animated gif? I'm using a very slightly aged ipad so it barely functions and apparently just shows the first frame of animated gifs
That would explain it. Yeah, these Olly Moss Garfs are often a short animation that reveals the Garf in something that, at first blush, appears mundanely Garfless
I can't say for sure, but I bet you any lady putting that into their online dating profile would get buried in fedoras
The lady I found was WEARING a fedora.