I'm 35. My hair has been thinning since I was 25 or so, but it has not been all that noticeable until about three years ago. I had awesome hair. No really, I'm not trying to brag or anything. It was a really really good head of hair and I was always really happy with it. It was part of my identity and how I saw myself.
I've been whining about shaving it for a couple years now, because of my indecision and resistance to the idea that it was going. Deep down I still wanted to be that kid with a good head of hair. To top it off, I've been battling severe depression for close to three years now for other reasons, but for a few months I've been able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
So I decided it was time to cut the cord, so I shaved my head. I'm not going to pretend my hair is sticking around, and I don't want to do surgery or anything for a variety of reasons. So I just went ahead and did it. No guard on the trimmer, but I didn't go full Mr. Clean. So basically a very close buzz. My wife was pretty unhappy. I get it. We've been together for 14 years and she fell in love with that kid with the long hair. But he's not coming back.
But I felt pretty confident after I did it. Gave me some control over the situation. Even got some compliments, which is nice, but I mostly did it for myself. All this is some leadup to the problem: I've always been losing my hair in a weird way.
So first, my hairline is basically the same. There's been some recession but it is basically where it was 10 years ago. So that's a bit odd, but nothing crazy. There is basically just a very large spot where almost no hair grows anymore. Also not too weird. Here are the two difficult parts. First, the left side of my head is thinning more
than the right. You can see even with a really close shave that the hair on the right side of the top of my head has noticeably more follicles and it just makes it look like I fucked up shaving or forgot to bick the rest of it or something. Second, I got a lumpy head. I think when I was a baby the plates in my skull didn't close all the way. There's a slight dip in the top center of my head, and a bony lump on the left side. So a full shave doesn't seem reasonable.
My wife was so miserable the day I did it that I've let some of it grow back, but because of the follicle pattern I mentioned above, it looks uneven. And my hair's really dark and thick on the sides, so it's noticeable. So I'm just trying to figure out what my best options are.
tl;dr: losing hair, decided to shave it, but I got a funny head and a weird hairloss pattern (thicker on one side). Any other options besides full Mr. Clean?