Club PA 2.0 has arrived! If you'd like to access some extra PA content and help support the forums, check it out at patreon.com/ClubPA
The image size limit has been raised to 1mb! Anything larger than that should be linked to. This is a HARD limit, please do not abuse it.
Our new Indie Games subforum is now open for business in G&T. Go and check it out, you might land a code for a free game. If you're developing an indie game and want to post about it, follow these directions. If you don't, he'll break your legs! Hahaha! Seriously though.
Our rules have been updated and given their own forum. Go and look at them! They are nice, and there may be new ones that you didn't know about! Hooray for rules! Hooray for The System! Hooray for Conforming!

QUILTBAG: Hi gay, I’m Dad!

2456790

Posts

  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    edited September 2018
    I'm bisexual and demisexual.

    The latter means I lack the capacity to experience sexual attraction towards people I don't have an emotional connection with.
    This gets misconstrued as "I don't have sex with everyone I meet" alarmingly often, when what it actually means is the part of my brain that goes "I'd like to have sex at some point with another person" just doesn't ever turn on in regards to somebody I don't know. As far as I can tell, that literally can't happen.

    Folks on average can have this experience much more easily, though it may happen often or rarely. Everyone is different. And those that do experience it may or may not choose to act upon it for various reasons.

    Anyway, for most of my life, being around folks talking about sexual interests was a very alienating experience. I just never really had any interest in sex with anyone at all. I never got farther than making out with a handful of people over the last 23 or so years since puberty went off.

    At least until last year, when I met @Amara_P. It's because of her that I realized I'm demi. She's an amazing gal, and she totally changed my life. <3

    Goatmon on
    Switch Friend Code: SW-6680-6709-4204


    ShadowenErin The RedCurly_BraceRainfallZilla360never dieSkwigelfmysticjuicerKristmas Kthulhu
  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    Welp fuck I guess I'm making a Bowsette costume for Halloween

    OmnipotentBagelreplacewythyElldren3clipseStiltsYukiratzeentchlingForceVoidElbasunuRainfallShadowenWyvernLucedesFencingsaxStericaZilla360Goatmoncredeikinever diewanderingUsagiVeldrinAnialosH3KnucklesSorcechrishallett83SkwigelflonelyahavaEinzelJaysonFourJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicer
  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Hell yeah!

    cdci44qazyo3.gif

    3clipseZilla360GoatmonEinzel
  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    edited September 2018
    Oh yep found the dress I wanna use. Gonna get this and some black sparkly flats and it's gonna be v good. Found tutorials for claws and crowns and spiked choker and bracelets and stuff

    Erin The Red on
    3clipseForceVoidShadowenFencingsaxZilla360ElldrenGoatmonnever dieAnialosH3Knuckleschrishallett83Skwigelf21stCenturyJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicer
  • 3clipse3clipse I will build a labyrinth to house the cheese Registered User regular
    Oh yep found the dress I wanna use. Gonna get this and some black sparkly flats and it's gonna be v good. Found tutorials for claws and crowns and spiked choker and bracelets and stuff


    You are going to break hearts.

    I mean, I'd take Nick Offerman's spikey cat dick willingly
    Erin The RedRainfallForceVoidZonugalFencingsaxGundiZilla360ElldrenGoatmonMcFodderpimentoSkwigelfCare Free Bomb
  • ForceVoidForceVoid regular Registered User regular
    So, I'm wearing heels today and I'm standing next to my work bff and sorta smirking

    Her - "what are you smiling about?"
    Me - "like I need to be any taller..."
    Her - "you are built like a supermodel amazon, own that shit"
    Me - ☺️

    Needless to say, I haven't slouched all day.

    PsykomaShadowenPoketpixietzeentchling3clipseCromartyErin The RedFencingsaxDouglasDangerInfamyDeferredZilla360ElldrenGoatmoncredeikinever diepimentoAnialosH3KnucklesSorcechrishallett83SkwigelfEinzelCare Free BombCurly_BraceJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicerThe SauceKristmas Kthulhu
  • The BetgirlThe Betgirl I'm Molly! Registered User regular
    Hey its me, Molly, known bisexual trans girl disaster

    Steam PSN: The Betman
    You should listen to my Totally Spies rewatch podcast on Audio Entropy!
    ineedmayo.com
    OmnipotentBagelErin The RedFencingsaxShadowenStiltsYukiraRainfallStericaForceVoid3clipseZilla360ElldrenGoatmonnever dieVeldrinSorceJansonmysticjuicerKristmas Kthulhu
  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Hey its me, Molly, known bisexual trans girl disaster

    My friend, Molly

    cdci44qazyo3.gif

    FencingsaxForceVoidZilla360Goatmonmysticjuicer
  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    Hey its me, Molly, known bisexual trans girl disaster

    Good ol' KBTGD, we calls 'er

    FencingsaxForceVoid3clipseZilla360The Betgirlnever dieShadowenEinzelmysticjuicer
  • RainfallRainfall regular Registered User regular
    So I joined a gym yesterday and got in touch with a personal trainer who has done a lot of study about trans fitness and stuff.
    Gonna meet with her tomorrow and got a real good feeling about this.

    OmnipotentBagelShadowenErin The RedForceVoid3clipseZilla360ElldrenGoatmonnever dieFencingsaxPoketpixiepimentoDouglasDangerVeldrinThe Hanged ManH3KnucklesSkwigelflonelyahavaN1tSt4lkerBrovid HasselsmofApocalyptusmysticjuicerKristmas Kthulhu
  • StericaSterica When it comes to beauty, I rarely make boasts but I look quite good, compared to your posts!Registered User, Moderator mod
    Linehan’s skin is so thin that he doubles as model for musculature, so be careful when tweeting about him.

    YL9WnCY.png
    GoatmontzeentchlingErin The RedShadowenmysticjuicer
  • GundiGundi Serious Bismuth Registered User regular
    so today has been an especially nasty day in US politics and I just wanted to offer a hug if anyone was feeling shitty because of it.

    Goatmonnever diePoketpixieH3KnuckleslonelyahavaErin The RedShadowen
  • Zilla360Zilla360 21st Century. |She/Her| Surreal. Immersive. Earth.Registered User regular
    Welp fuck I guess I'm making a Bowsette costume for Halloween
    Heck yeah! Bowsette is love. Bowsette is life! :D :mrgreen:

    Skidzilla360.jpg | NH844lc.png | GACSALB.jpg My Blog | Gravatar | PSN | 72INGtl.jpg | HkSlskT.png
    GoatmonRainfallErin The Red
  • Satanic JesusSatanic Jesus Hi, I'm Liam! Registered User regular
    Hello! I'm a trans guy from Ireland, definitely homo romantic, most likely some sort of asexual, trying to make an appointment with someone who's able to give me a letter or something to start this stuff rolling. There doesn't seem to be many who deal with trans stuff here in Ireland.

    my backloggery 3DS: 0533-5338-5186 steam: porcelain_cow goodreads
    GoatmonZilla360RainfallPsykomaElldrencredeikiKetarnever dieOmnipotentBagelpimentoSkwigelfErin The RedKochikensBrovid HasselsmofCurly_BraceJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicerKristmas KthulhuShadowen
  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    edited September 2018
    Sterica wrote: »
    Linehan’s skin is so thin that he doubles as model for musculature, so be careful when tweeting about him.

    100% this. The man is a toxic shithead TERF who doesn't hesitate to QT (quote tweet) anybody disagreeing with him, turning his awful followers on them.

    Any desire to respond to his statements is best done using screenshots, which don't notify him of your presence.

    Goatmon on
    Switch Friend Code: SW-6680-6709-4204


    Zilla360RainfallElldrenShadowen
  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    Hello! I'm a trans guy from Ireland, definitely homo romantic, most likely some sort of asexual, trying to make an appointment with someone who's able to give me a letter or something to start this stuff rolling. There doesn't seem to be many who deal with trans stuff here in Ireland.

    Nice to meet you, Satanic Jesus! :D

    Switch Friend Code: SW-6680-6709-4204


    Zilla360Satanic Jesus
  • Zilla360Zilla360 21st Century. |She/Her| Surreal. Immersive. Earth.Registered User regular
    70mghfvf3c5r.jpg
    Today was a really good day; because I finally got to see a doctor about a surgical referral! Whoop whoop! :biggrin:
    Consult should be in Spring next year; and then maybe up to another ~12 months for the actual procedure. :D :mrgreen:

    Skidzilla360.jpg | NH844lc.png | GACSALB.jpg My Blog | Gravatar | PSN | 72INGtl.jpg | HkSlskT.png
    RainfallElldrenWyvernPsykomaGoatmonnever dieSorceSkwigelflonelyahavaErin The RedForceVoidBrovid HasselsmofGunditzeentchlingCare Free BombJaysonFourJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicerKristmas Kthulhu
  • El FantasticoEl Fantastico regular Toronto, ONRegistered User regular
    New thread!

    It's me, the Canadian, all gay, knee-deep in bear subculture, in a triad now for almost a full year, and how the hell did things get here?

    Anyway, I'm pretty sure I'm a minority in this thread, but if anyone has questions about m2m stuff, I can answer some of the basics, keeping in mind I'm not a therapist, nor an expert. I only worked for an adult hook-up site for about 8 years though, so I guess I have some clout? :P

    akyxa17p3s5g.png
    PSN: TheArcadeBear
    Steam: TheArcadeBear

    GoatmonKetarPsykomaElldrennever dieZilla360ZonugalSkwigelfLucedeslonelyahavaErin The RedtzeentchlingApocalyptusmysticjuicerKristmas Kthulhu
  • credeikicredeiki regular Registered User regular
    All right, back from a long vacation where I didn’t think about gender shit basically at all because I didn’t interact with anyone heh and my sense of gender is pretty socially dependent

    That said today in transit I uh actually got kicked out of the women’s restroom by shocked Turkish ladies at the Istanbul airport (“no! Man! That way!”) and then on the plane the flight attendant was like wait I can’t serve you alcohol, how old are you, and was then disbelieving when I said 30.
    But then again, to get a taxi just now the guy was like sir—er ma’am—before I even opened my mouth so I just have no sense of how people read me. Did encounter some sexually aggressive gay guys in Berlin in the dance floor who were reading me as gay (male)(I had to actually be physically aggressive to get the one guy away; that was interesting) but also had a lovely conversation with a gay girl who was reading me as gay (female) so ????

    Regardless, I start a new job on Monday where I will be using my new name and am committed to correcting people on pronouns and I suppose using the men’s room. I will say: “actually, I use they pronouns or male pronouns so yeah he not she” or something to that effect. It will be highly educated probably young-skewing people in the DC area, so I assume everyone will be invested in performing allyship (they better be!)

    No one has told me the dress code but the interview was very much suit and tie and potentially the first day of work should be also...maybe suit and no tie though; so confusing; what do consultants wear (what is a consultant even, remains the question)

    Steam, LoL: credeiki
    air-photos.tumblr.com
    ElldrenRainfallFencingsaxZilla360pimentoZonugalMsAnthropyLucedeslonelyahavaErin The RedForceVoidtzeentchlingJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicer
  • tynictynic PICNIC BADASS Registered User, ClubPA regular
    Based solely on television, I think consultants wear suit and no tie with the top button left casually and confidently open in a way that says "I exist outside your power structure, clients."

    PsykomaElldrencredeikiOmnipotentBagelZilla360pimentoZonugalSorcepablo_priceErin The RedN1tSt4lkerPeenmysticjuicer
  • ElldrenElldren Is a woman dammit I'm a good person yes it's trueRegistered User regular
    tynic wrote: »
    Based solely on television, I think consultants wear suit and no tie with the top button left casually and confidently open in a way that says "I exist outside your power structure, clients."

    Unless they are consulting in some space with a lax dress code in which case they wear very expensive suits and ties and are impeccably put together in a way that somehow also says "I exist outside your power structure, clients."

    fuck gendered marketing
    tynicRainfallFencingsax3clipseZilla360ZonugalSorcePeenKayne Red Robemysticjuicer
  • PlatyPlaty anything but regular Registered User regular
    I was in Italy last week (unfortunately had a bad time overall) and I might've referred to myself as female on one occasion. Also walked into the ladies' room afterwards but I think that was because I'm used to the men's room being positioned on the left.

    credeiki
  • UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    Hi queerdos

    Your friendly femme-ish, queer, poly/RA, awkward Usagi reporting in <3

    ElldrenZilla360PsykomaGoatmonnever dieVeldrinZonugalSkwigelflonelyahavaErin The RedGundiCurly_BraceJansonmysticjuicerShadowen
  • wanderingwandering regular Registered User regular
    edited September 2018
    Kana wrote: »
    I have been on a big queer reading binge for the last couple of weeks, but now I've run out of books. Anyone have any recommendations? I've mostly been in the mood for fluffy stuff, coming out stories, that sort of thing, but I'm just generally curious about what folks are reading, too.
    @Kana

    I recommend Song of Achilles. Here's what I wrote about it in the book thread:
    A couple times I've half-jokingly said I'm going to make a videogame set in mythical ancient greece called The Hot Gay Adventures of Achilles and Patroclus. Anyway this lead me to wonder if anyone had ever written a gay romance novel about Achilles and his beloved companion Patroclus. I did some googling and it turned out someone did: The Song of Achilles, by Madeline Miller - winner of the 2012 Orange Prize for best British book by a female author. Of course I ordered it immediately, and just finished it yesterday.

    It's good! I cried at the end.

    It's interesting how mixed the reviews seem to be. Some are ecstatic, some pretty negative. The negative one in the New York Times complains that it feels like a young adult novel - I agree, but don't really see that as a bad thing. I think it's a novel that could be enjoyed by a wide variety of people, but yeah, if I had to pick the novel's 'ideal reader' the person that comes to mind is a teenage girl, or queer boy. And that's fine!

    The review also complains that the book has too many softcore gay sex scenes, and, mm...no

    no it does not

    After that I checked out Fire From Heaven by Mary Renault, about Alexander the Great, in part because Miller is often compared to Renault. Also good! But drier, less 'fluffy'. Also way subtler about the gay romance, which makes sense considering that it was written back in the 60s. Like, there was a passage where Alexander and Hephaestion are talking about 'feeling sad after' and I realized they were talking about post-orgasm sadness, and I'm like 'wait...did I...miss a sex scene?' So I went back and found a passage about some animals being scared off by their breathing and I'm like 'I...guess...that's the sex scene?'

    wandering on
    atcwebmqawjl.png
    KanaFencingsaxSkwigelfN1tSt4lkerRainfallZilla360mysticjuicer
  • pimentopimento they/pim Registered User regular
    edited September 2018
    Hi, I'm me, still figuring out what that means, but I'm here, I'm queer and I've no strong feelings either way on the quantity of bears.

    cred: Consultant dress code depends on the environment, but you can't be overdressed in a suit - and if you wear a tie, you can always take it off if you're the only guy in the room wearing one. I'm usually in slacks and a branded polo, but I'm a post sales IT consultant, and most of my customers down in the IT mines dress similarly. That also means I can wear kevlar lined motorcycling pants all day rather than having to cram one pant over another.. which seems like it'd suck in summer.

    pimento on
    H3KnucklescredeikimysticjuicerShadowen
  • GoatmonGoatmon Property of Amara_P Registered User regular
    Usagi wrote: »
    Hi queerdos

    Your friendly femme-ish, queer, poly/RA, awkward Usagi reporting in <3

    Hail Witch King Usagi!

    Switch Friend Code: SW-6680-6709-4204


    pimentoShadowenSorceUsagi
  • StericaSterica When it comes to beauty, I rarely make boasts but I look quite good, compared to your posts!Registered User, Moderator mod
    "Maybe you can't. I'm very talented." is the best response I've seen to that kind of BS.

    YL9WnCY.png
    Phoenix-DH3KnucklesFencingsaxchrishallett83LucedesToxErin The RedN1tSt4lkerRainfallElldren3clipseUsagi21stCenturyShadowenpablo_priceDarkPrimusGoatmonnever diekimemysticjuicer
  • H3KnucklesH3Knuckles Jack of all interests... ...master of noneRegistered User regular
    edited September 2018
    My dad is a consultant (engineering firm for the railroad industry). Went from always wearing a suit & tie to plaid flannel shirts and casual slacks (mostly navy or black) after the 90's dressing-down of office wear. Edit: he'd also wear cardigans over a button down dress shirt instead of the flannels some days. Most of his younger coworkers wore typical silicon valley/IT sector business casual (khakis and branded polos) the few times I met/saw pictures of them.

    H3Knuckles on
    If you're curious about my icon; it's an update of the early Lego Castle theme's "Black Falcons" faction.
    camo_sig2-400.png
    credeiki
  • lonelyahavalonelyahava Call me Ahava Move to New ZealandRegistered User regular
    Hi.

    I'm Ahava.

    I'm bi/pan cis in a hetero marriage and we have a child.

    I actually came out on Facebook last weekend in Bi visibility day and I the overall reaction was.... Silence.

    Big resounding silence. I honestly don't know how to take that.

    I mean, Erin commented. But Erin is awesome

    Zilla360orangeusErin The RedSkwigelfRainfallwanderingZonugalElldrenShadowenFencingsaxH3KnucklesLucedesnever dieJaysonFourJansonApocalyptusmysticjuicer
  • Erin The RedErin The Red The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMA Baton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
    Hi.

    I'm Ahava.

    I'm bi/pan cis in a hetero marriage and we have a child.

    I actually came out on Facebook last weekend in Bi visibility day and I the overall reaction was.... Silence.

    Big resounding silence. I honestly don't know how to take that.

    I mean, Erin commented. But Erin is awesome

    Hey, you're awesome and valid and good and hopefully people went "oh ok!" And just went on with their day since it doesn't negatively affect them in any way.

    I feel bad-ish that virtually nobody I physically know knows about the whole poly thing? Aside from two co-workers and like 6 other people.

    I just... It doesn't feel worth the drama. If either of our sets of parents find out I'm sure they'll shit a brick wall. But why does it matter? How does it affect their lives? Urrrrrgh

    wanderingZilla360H3KnuckleslonelyahavaJaysonFourmysticjuicer
  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    Had my first day of my part time college course today. Got my name changed on my records and a new ID card. Got gendered as female the whole day but nobody seemed to react weirdly to my name. Which I guess means because it's not too common here maybe people think it can be a girl's name too, or they thought it was weird but were all extremely good at hiding it.

  • PsykomaPsykoma regular Registered User regular
    I've never heard of any girls with your name

    Sorry about the misgendering

    PlatyGoatmonmysticjuicer
  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    Eh, it does suck a bit but I'm not too bothered right now. I am so timid about this whole process that if I get to spend time adjusting to using a new name before dealing with trying to get gendered correctly then that's probably for the best.

    PsykomatyniccredeikiGoatmonnever dieKristmas Kthulhu
  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    I have gone out wearing a blouse and heeled boots, carrying a purse, and given my very feminine name, Lexi, and still been "sir'ed". People will straight up ignore every sign you put up and I have no doubt I could be wearing a big ol' tag with my pronouns on it and it would not make a difference.

    cdci44qazyo3.gif

    GrogErin The Red
  • 21stCentury21stCentury A lovely pixel artist and gamecrafter [They/Them]Registered User regular
    edited September 2018
    Hello new thread.

    I'm 21st, the Ace not-Cis person!

    I'm still unsure what my gender is but i know i don't like being a guy anymore. Please use "they" for me, as that makes me happy.

    I'm really not moving forward quickly with the gender exploration and it's probably a really bad idea but it's scary. I get very mild dysphoria now, though, which....... sucks. it really sucks. But without insurance things are tricky, even in Canada.

    Rainfall wrote: »
    15. Can I be operated on if I am overweight?

    Your weight and diet can significantly influence your healing, the results of your surgery, your ability to take care of yourself. It is preferable to have attained a healthy weight by the time of your surgery (a BMI between 18.5 and 25). If your BMI is below or above the normal range, your situation will be assessed and you will be informed of your possibilities for surgery. GRS Montréal can direct you to resources that can help you achieve your weight loss or weight gain goals.

    I gotta lose forty pounds this is bullshit Hurghlahfhaha

    Yo. it's in the Canadian Constitution that if you get to Montreal I have to take you to brunch.

    This goes to everyone. If you come to Montreal, I have to take you to brunch.

    21stCentury on
    Erin The RedGoatmonUsagiJansonmysticjuicer
  • RainfallRainfall regular Registered User regular
    I will absolutely let you know the second I have a montreal date, 21st.

    tzeentchling21stCenturymysticjuicer
  • PsykomaPsykoma regular Registered User regular
    What if you live in montreal?

  • 3clipse3clipse I will build a labyrinth to house the cheese Registered User regular
    What if I come to Montreal strictly for this brunch?

    I mean, I'd take Nick Offerman's spikey cat dick willingly
    21stCentury
  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel floof Registered User regular
    Psykoma wrote: »
    What if you live in montreal?

    Just go out for a sec and then back in

    cdci44qazyo3.gif

    21stCenturyLucedesmysticjuicer
This discussion has been closed.