I'm sorry it wasn't your thing! I hope you weren't overly uncomfortable.
But your toes are pretty cute.
Thank you!
I was just as uncomfortable as I am at any other big gathering of people, which is to say, a lot
I’m just not a party person, and the solution to that issue is not, apparently, “just fill the party with queer people”
In fact it made me feel more uncomfortable because I had his sinking feeling of “ugh, I should be feeling like I fit in here, I should be able to let loose and have fun, but I’m not”
It was just a depressing day really
Unfortunately a lot of queer spaces can be by default pretty unwelcoming to those of us who don't deal well with lots of noise, or crowds, flashing lights etc. This can be especially the case for neurodivergent people, a lot of whom tend to be queer!
Where are the queer book clubs, tea parties, and baking groups?
There's a Hannah Gatsby bit about that.
Ah, I had a vague feeling what I was typing seemed familiar. I guess there's worse people to accidentally plagiarise than Hanna Gadsby!
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Metzger MeisterIt Gets Worsebefore it gets any better.Registered Userregular
also re: yet another thread topic:
as an lgbtq person with ASD, i can't really do bars or parties without an unreasonable amount of effort, so...
i basically just hang at home with my partner, being quietly gay?
personal musings.
i think the ASD stuff is a huge part of why i haven't wanted to transition.
even if my body was more appropriate and the dysphoria went away,
i pretty much still don't have the spoons to deal with social situations, being visibly trans, etc.
surgery is OK but not what i'd ideally want, and i think ultimately i'd be fine if i just didn't have to deal with gender roles.
what i would want to be is (even more) offensive to societal conceptions of sex and gender, but uh,
i don't have the raw firepower to live that life anyway, and i'm not particularly charismatic enough to pull it off.
instead i've just been quietly dressing queerer as i get older and get better at social stuff.
Hey y'all, what's your favorite "gay bop?" Something like, say, Born This Way by Lady Gaga, or Single Ladies by Beyonce. Maybe I Wanna Dance With Somebody. You know what I'm talking about.
For me, Cher's Believe is probably right up near the top.
Hey y'all, what's your favorite "gay bop?" Something like, say, Born This Way by Lady Gaga, or Single Ladies by Beyonce. Maybe I Wanna Dance With Somebody. You know what I'm talking about.
For me, Cher's Believe is probably right up near the top.
Oh, and while we're still on the subject of awesome gay music; here's two lesbians in a trench coat singing about how awesome their relationship is, while beating up a toxic jackass.
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
oh my god this is so good
It REALLY IS SO VERY GOOD
I hope there's some m/m stuff with that level of awesome, it might be enough to make me voluntarily play a dude in an action game
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3cl1ps3I will build a labyrinth to house the cheeseRegistered Userregular
My understanding is that the male lead can cross swords, so to speak, with any of the male love interests.
Yeah my concern with games where "you can romance any of the available characters" is that in order to have all those options, there's usually not a lot of substance to any of the relationships. Quality queer relationships in games are few and far between.
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
oh my god this is so good
It REALLY IS SO VERY GOOD
I hope there's some m/m stuff with that level of awesome, it might be enough to make me voluntarily play a dude in an action game
It feels (to me) like there's been a severe shortage of decent romanceable dudes. Then again, I've definitely flubbed a couple of the relationships that I've given a shot so maybe I've just missed stuff?
I just had an incredibly gay quest resolution in Assassin's Creed Odyssey and I'm happy as heck.
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
So I trained with the other champion, Roxana, and we became close (smooching and all) during the training but we knew we'd have to fight at the end of the tournament.
Then this happened. https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
oh my god this is so good
It REALLY IS SO VERY GOOD
I hope there's some m/m stuff with that level of awesome, it might be enough to make me voluntarily play a dude in an action game
It feels (to me) like there's been a severe shortage of decent romanceable dudes. Then again, I've definitely flubbed a couple of the relationships that I've given a shot so maybe I've just missed stuff?
I'll give it a look up when I eventually get Odyssey, see what the general consensus is before I pick who to play as. It's been ages since I've been able to do a proper m/m romance in a game that wasn't crap so I am just keen to find one!
part of the reason I play so many women protagonists (that and I am a lil tired of gruff masculine action hero dudes)
Scrolling through the queer thread and seeing a video for Bear Force One, and I can't help but laugh. I mean, the lead singer at least is taking it super-seriously like it's the last video he'll ever make, and I'm aware they got some bookings at some gay events, but I don't think anyone else ever took them as a serious act.
I remember when that video first dropped and the bear masses were saying that none of them were big enough, hairy enough, masculine enough, and it's just like "This is the hill you're going to die on? How "bear" someone is?" We're such an internally toxic community, sometimes.
“Let me just say, I thought when I saw your name you were male, but I’m really happy to be interviewing a female technical person for the role, because everyone else has been male”
“Ummmmm ABOUT THAT....”
It is kinda stressful to have to be like OK yes I know I have a female voice but actually I am trans, the voice will probably change some time, I use male pronouns, sorry I cannot be your female technical person but that said I do have a lot of experience being the only woman in an all-male technical environment so uh I have sympathy/experience with that...
And her response was ohhhh well that’s great, you’ll see we have a good community here at [company], thanks for being open, if I can put you in touch with anyone let me know. (Very professional and friendly; I appreciate it.)
We’ll see whether I actually want on this contract or not; there’s a whole thing for internally interviewing for positions that I absolutely did not expect and am sort of baffled by. But I guess it does mean I have some choice in my work. And have to put mental effort into coming out to a billion more people as I meet a billion more people during this process.
I could do something to try to modify my vocal patterns but...definitely don’t have the energy for it at the moment and also still basically don’t want to. I talk like a girl, so the fuck what...
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Had my first question about my name at college last week. "Is it short for something. Like... Persephone?"
This after someone accidentally called a woman Sean instead of her name, Sian, and someone else made a joke about her changing gender. So I guess they do think it's weird.
Had my first question about my name at college last week. "Is it short for something. Like... Persephone?"
This after someone accidentally called a woman Sean instead of her name, Sian, and someone else made a joke about her changing gender. So I guess they do think it's weird.
Are you telling people what your deal is or are you like, no, it isn’t short for anything, and just let them make what they want of it?
It is pretty stressful to constantly have to tell people this thing about myself, among other things because every time I need to have that interaction it’s an obvious indicator that I am failing to pull off the look I’m going for. But also because there is so much leeway for female appearance that it’s basically impossible to convey trans rather than butch. Obviously social pressures and circumstances are way worse for trans ladies and I have oodles of privilege as a rich white man etc etc disclaimer etc but I gotta say I do sort of envy the ability to unambiguously signal gender by using makeup and clothing and even haircuts that are essentially restricted to women. There isn’t anything like that on my end that I can do and it’s aggravating.
It’s not guaranteed that I’ll ever be able to grow decent facial hair because hormones work differently for everyone, so I can’t assume that I’ll be able to use that, even.
I can state unequivocally that trying to code "woman" doesn't always work either - some people just have very specific and narrow notions of what makes someone a certain gender ;/
And to be fair, it shouldn’t be assumed that someone wearing clothes etc associated with a gender wants to be coded as such—there should be a lot of room for variant or unexpected presentation without the person being at all trans. So it’s not like I want to live in a society where dressing a certain way makes all people assume I’m a certain thing; although that would make my life easier, it’s not actually a good thing overall.
Every time I think about doing voice training I realize I actually don't want to spend a bunch of time and effort learning new vocal patterns.
That said I've had a cold all weekend so my voice has been more masc than ever lately and yesterday everyone was so goddamn certain I was a "sir" despite... basically everything about my presentation sans voice.
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Metzger MeisterIt Gets Worsebefore it gets any better.Registered Userregular
Hey y'all, what's your favorite "gay bop?" Something like, say, Born This Way by Lady Gaga, or Single Ladies by Beyonce. Maybe I Wanna Dance With Somebody. You know what I'm talking about.
For me, Cher's Believe is probably right up near the top.
I entertained the notion of training my voice and then thought “nah fuck that”
My voice is deep enough that I somehow still get sirred over the phone though honestly when I hear it on video I don’t think it’s that deep? So if my own perception of my voice doesn’t bother me when most other things about me do, I think I’m good there
No one questions “Veronica” at least, which is good. It can’t really be short for anything and doesn’t really sound like anything else. A GameStop clerk today said he loved my name and I was like “Thanks! Picked it myself!” which is my favorite response
I entertained the notion of training my voice and then thought “nah fuck that”
My voice is deep enough that I somehow still get sirred over the phone though honestly when I hear it on video I don’t think it’s that deep? So if my own perception of my voice doesn’t bother me when most other things about me do, I think I’m good there
No one questions “Veronica” at least, which is good. It can’t really be short for anything and doesn’t really sound like anything else. A GameStop clerk today said he loved my name and I was like “Thanks! Picked it myself!” which is my favorite response
Ronnie is the only nickname I've ever heard and that's mostly from Archie comics.
League of Legends: Sorakanmyworld
FFXIV: Tchel Fay
Nintendo ID: Tortalius
Steam: Tortalius
Stream: twitch.tv/tortalius
Had my second Endo appointment scheduled for the afternoon. First one, couple months back, started spiro. This one would be the next step.
So my wife and I went clothes shopping to celebrate! I bought myself a lot of cute evening lounge / weekend things and had several firsts - first time trying on correct gender clothing at a store, first skirt twirl, etc. It was a little nerve-wracking as I'm definitely not out and presenting very male, but weekend morning meant sparse crowds, and presence of the wife helped a ton.
So I got through it all with no drama or weird looks. The cashier lady even complimented my t-shirt, which was my gender lawful / gender neutral / gender chaotic tee I got at PAX. Nobody ever gets that shirt outside of gaming night!
Then the appointment went well. I had to swap off spiro since my body didn't tolerate it properly; I'll see how this Saw Palmetto stuff works instead. But in better news - I got my first supply of patches! And insurance even covered most of the cost somehow.
Now to just wait while it works its magic. In the meantime I'll keep working on my voice (thanks for the recommendation for VoiceUp, Tube!), and I want to start on my handwriting.
So much has improved in my head since I accepted - and embraced - my actual identity. It took a long time getting here, and I still have quite a ways to go. But this is probably the happiest and most hopeful I've been. And the stories and knowledge shared by all you wonderful people had a whole lot to do with kicking all this off for me.
So, hi thread! My name is Alys. My pronouns are she/her. I'm a translady and work-in-progress. It's good to be here with you all!
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Ah, I had a vague feeling what I was typing seemed familiar. I guess there's worse people to accidentally plagiarise than Hanna Gadsby!
I was reminded of this poem earlier today and I felt like it belonged here. Felt it in me skeleton bones I did
Do you have some other kind of bones besides your skeleton?
Does he have a million dollars?
*pushes up glasses* preceded slightly by Rose of Versailles, which is mostly as gay.
i know a guy, actually... that's mostly his life story, yeah. he always loved the song for some reason.
there's no hope for me, all the music i like is gay
all the music i ever liked is gay
also re: yet another thread topic:
as an lgbtq person with ASD, i can't really do bars or parties without an unreasonable amount of effort, so...
i basically just hang at home with my partner, being quietly gay?
personal musings.
even if my body was more appropriate and the dysphoria went away,
i pretty much still don't have the spoons to deal with social situations, being visibly trans, etc.
surgery is OK but not what i'd ideally want, and i think ultimately i'd be fine if i just didn't have to deal with gender roles.
what i would want to be is (even more) offensive to societal conceptions of sex and gender, but uh,
i don't have the raw firepower to live that life anyway, and i'm not particularly charismatic enough to pull it off.
instead i've just been quietly dressing queerer as i get older and get better at social stuff.
I feel like this fits really well with your Lapis av/sig.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGRzz0oqgUE
Ugh I'm dying
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twQlpFrm5iM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpXcpiOdp4s
Spoilers for Battle of One Hundred Hands questline
Then this happened.
https://youtu.be/-t0_GypOwp4
oh my god this is so good
It REALLY IS SO VERY GOOD
I hope there's some m/m stuff with that level of awesome, it might be enough to make me voluntarily play a dude in an action game
but I guess if they can romance any of the male love interests there's gotta be at least one or two good ones
It feels (to me) like there's been a severe shortage of decent romanceable dudes. Then again, I've definitely flubbed a couple of the relationships that I've given a shot so maybe I've just missed stuff?
I'll give it a look up when I eventually get Odyssey, see what the general consensus is before I pick who to play as. It's been ages since I've been able to do a proper m/m romance in a game that wasn't crap so I am just keen to find one!
part of the reason I play so many women protagonists (that and I am a lil tired of gruff masculine action hero dudes)
Most of it is just a quest-fulfilling “let’s fuck”
I remember when that video first dropped and the bear masses were saying that none of them were big enough, hairy enough, masculine enough, and it's just like "This is the hill you're going to die on? How "bear" someone is?" We're such an internally toxic community, sometimes.
Steam: TheArcadeBear
“Ummmmm ABOUT THAT....”
It is kinda stressful to have to be like OK yes I know I have a female voice but actually I am trans, the voice will probably change some time, I use male pronouns, sorry I cannot be your female technical person but that said I do have a lot of experience being the only woman in an all-male technical environment so uh I have sympathy/experience with that...
And her response was ohhhh well that’s great, you’ll see we have a good community here at [company], thanks for being open, if I can put you in touch with anyone let me know. (Very professional and friendly; I appreciate it.)
We’ll see whether I actually want on this contract or not; there’s a whole thing for internally interviewing for positions that I absolutely did not expect and am sort of baffled by. But I guess it does mean I have some choice in my work. And have to put mental effort into coming out to a billion more people as I meet a billion more people during this process.
I could do something to try to modify my vocal patterns but...definitely don’t have the energy for it at the moment and also still basically don’t want to. I talk like a girl, so the fuck what...
I have a deep voice
just how I look at it, personally
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This after someone accidentally called a woman Sean instead of her name, Sian, and someone else made a joke about her changing gender. So I guess they do think it's weird.
Are you telling people what your deal is or are you like, no, it isn’t short for anything, and just let them make what they want of it?
It is pretty stressful to constantly have to tell people this thing about myself, among other things because every time I need to have that interaction it’s an obvious indicator that I am failing to pull off the look I’m going for. But also because there is so much leeway for female appearance that it’s basically impossible to convey trans rather than butch. Obviously social pressures and circumstances are way worse for trans ladies and I have oodles of privilege as a rich white man etc etc disclaimer etc but I gotta say I do sort of envy the ability to unambiguously signal gender by using makeup and clothing and even haircuts that are essentially restricted to women. There isn’t anything like that on my end that I can do and it’s aggravating.
It’s not guaranteed that I’ll ever be able to grow decent facial hair because hormones work differently for everyone, so I can’t assume that I’ll be able to use that, even.
A list of things, should you be of the gifting persuasion
That said I've had a cold all weekend so my voice has been more masc than ever lately and yesterday everyone was so goddamn certain I was a "sir" despite... basically everything about my presentation sans voice.
ugh god the short one with the pink polo is so cute shit i forgot about this video and i've watched it like 5 times now my husband keeps teasing me
like the third time he heard "viewers of a weak disposition" from the living room he was like OMG REALLY
My voice is deep enough that I somehow still get sirred over the phone though honestly when I hear it on video I don’t think it’s that deep? So if my own perception of my voice doesn’t bother me when most other things about me do, I think I’m good there
No one questions “Veronica” at least, which is good. It can’t really be short for anything and doesn’t really sound like anything else. A GameStop clerk today said he loved my name and I was like “Thanks! Picked it myself!” which is my favorite response
Ronnie is the only nickname I've ever heard and that's mostly from Archie comics.
FFXIV: Tchel Fay
Nintendo ID: Tortalius
Steam: Tortalius
Stream: twitch.tv/tortalius
My friend Veronica has sometimes been called V, Vroni, and Vera--I'm partial to the last (pronounced Russian-ly, ofc)
Was a good day
So my wife and I went clothes shopping to celebrate! I bought myself a lot of cute evening lounge / weekend things and had several firsts - first time trying on correct gender clothing at a store, first skirt twirl, etc. It was a little nerve-wracking as I'm definitely not out and presenting very male, but weekend morning meant sparse crowds, and presence of the wife helped a ton.
So I got through it all with no drama or weird looks. The cashier lady even complimented my t-shirt, which was my gender lawful / gender neutral / gender chaotic tee I got at PAX. Nobody ever gets that shirt outside of gaming night!
Then the appointment went well. I had to swap off spiro since my body didn't tolerate it properly; I'll see how this Saw Palmetto stuff works instead. But in better news - I got my first supply of patches! And insurance even covered most of the cost somehow.
Now to just wait while it works its magic. In the meantime I'll keep working on my voice (thanks for the recommendation for VoiceUp, Tube!), and I want to start on my handwriting.
So much has improved in my head since I accepted - and embraced - my actual identity. It took a long time getting here, and I still have quite a ways to go. But this is probably the happiest and most hopeful I've been. And the stories and knowledge shared by all you wonderful people had a whole lot to do with kicking all this off for me.
So, hi thread! My name is Alys. My pronouns are she/her. I'm a translady and work-in-progress. It's good to be here with you all!
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)